In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina wrap up our Top 10 Marriage Mistakes Series by talking about the #1 Marriage Mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages which is a lack of respect. 

Do you feel slighted or torn down by your spouse? Do you feel like your dignity is often bruised by how your spouse treats you? Well, we pray this episode can lead you to have some real, honest conversations with your spouse and that it will be the first step towards change for your marriage. 

Maybe you are thinking - this isn’t an issue for you. Don’t tune out! A lack of respect is a big issue in many marriages and the most destructive part of this is that most people aren’t aware they are being disrespectful. 

Most people aren’t conscious of the fact that they are disrespecting their spouse. There are lots of subtle ways we often treat others with a lack of respect. So tune it to hear how you can grow in this area. 

Dr. Kim shares practical advice on how to better respect your spouse. 

We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. 

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*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

SPONSORS

• Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code “awesomemarriage” for 15% off your order! 

RESOURCES

• Show your beautiful bride your love for her, by simply taking the time to lift her up in prayer with the 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Wife resource.
• Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here!
• Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email or text here! 

In this episode we have Beth McCord joining Dr. Kim to talk about How to Have A Thriving Relationship with an Enneagram 1. For the next several weeks Beth will be breaking down some real, practical tips for being married to each Enneagram number. 

If you are married to a 1 this is YOUR episode. But even if you aren’t married to a 1, we know you will find this episode helpful in learning more about your 1 friends. Part of loving people is knowing people. So use this series as a tool to know your people better, understand them deeper, and love them better. 

Beth McCord founded ‘Your Enneagram Coach’ and has been an Enneagram speaker, coach and teacher for over 17 years. She is seriously the best of the best so we are so blessed to have her share her time and expertise with us. 

Having been trained by the best Enneagram experts and pouring hundreds of hours into advanced certifications, Beth is leading the industry in simplifying the deep truths of the Enneagram from a Biblical perspective. Beth does one-on-one coaching, in-person events and workshops and online courses. She also offers training and support for those interested in becoming an Enneagram coach. So make sure you give her a follow on Instagram @yourennegramcoach and check out her website yourennegramcoach.com for more great info. 

We pray you enjoy learning more about 1s in this episode! 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES 

• “We try to make Type 1’s understand that their inner critic is not the Holy Spirit.” - Beth McCord
• “Type 1’s long to hear, ‘You are good.’ Christ satisfies this longing.” - Beth McCord
• “When Christ comes into a Type 1’s life there can be a peace that this person has never experienced before.” - Dr. Kim Kimbelring 
• “For Type 1’s it’s all about ethics, morals, procedures, and things being done the ‘right’ way.” - Beth McCord
• “Understand that the Type 1 has a harsh, condemning inner critic that is constantly berating them.” - Beth McCord
• “1’s value problem solving over emotions, so it’s better to wait to approach a Type 1 until your emotions are at a more balanced place.” - Beth McCord
• “It’s important to give your Type 1 time and space to process.” - Beth McCord
• “Type 1’s have a hard time being spontaneous because it feels irresponsible to them.” - Beth McCord
• -”It can be helpful to ask your Type 1 to rank how loudly their inner critic is berating them on a scale of 1-10 so you know how to approach them.” -Beth McCord
• “Hard as it might be to believe, most of the time Type 1’s are offering criticism and correction from a genuinely helpful place.” - Beth McCord
• “If you’re married to a Type 1 you have to accept who they are, not discount their inner critic, but learn how to come alongside them and encourage them toward Christ.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 
• “It’s not that the inner critic is inherently bad, it’s just that when we allow the inner critic to go offcourse and let it misalign with the truth of the Gospel, that is not going to be helpful to the Type 1 or anyone else they are around.” - Beth McCord
• “Encourage a Type 1 when you see them succeeding and doing well in what they are doing.” - Beth McCord
• “The list of things that need to be corrected, improved, and fixed never ends for a Type 1.” - Beth McCord
• “The core weakness of a Type 1, resentment, is actually underlying sorrow.” - Beth McCord
• “Type 1’s are striving for perfection when Christ is already perfect for them.” - Beth McCord
• “A healthy Type 1 has to learn to set boundaries for their inner critic.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
• “Type 1’s have a gut instinct and wisdom of knowing what is morally right.” - Beth McCord
• “Type 1’s are amazingly detail-oriented.” - Beth McCord
• “Type 1’s see the world as it is and they want to improve it.” - Beth McCord
• “It’s like Type 1’s can remember what earth was like before the fall and they want to do everything they can to bring us back to that perfect place.” - Beth McCord

SPONSORS

• Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code “awesomemarriage” for 15% off your order! 

RESOURCES

• Find everything you need at becomingus.com! Including the course for YOUR marriage’s Enneagram combination. Beth & Jeff have a ‘Becoming Us Course’ for each couple type combination. That is 45 courses customized for each couple type combination. They go deeper into the “dance” (relational dynamics) and give you practical resources and insights to help transform your marriage. 
• Buy ‘Becoming Us’ today! 
• Not sure what your Enneagram Type is? You can take the free assessment here! Also be sure to take the FREE MARRIAGE ASSESSMENT here. 
• Learn more about each type with this FREE SUMMARY! 
• Check out more great insights by Beth on her blog. 
• Discover your Enneagram number with the Discovering You course. Already know your Enneagram Type? Then it’s time to take a deeper dive with the Explore You course. 
• You can get some one-on-one coaching with Your Enneagram Coach here. 
• Do you or your spouse struggle with confidence? You aren’t alone if so! Snag our new resource Confidence Busters & Boosters to help cultivate confidence in each other and build up your marriage. 
• Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here!
• Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! 

Can we implement boundaries with our spouse? Is it loving? Is it Christ-centered? 

Boundaries in marriage may seem counterintuitive to some, but we believe it should be normal and natural in a marriage. 

In this episode, Dr. Kim and Christina share about boundaries with your spouse: why you need them, examples of what they might be, and how to implement them. If you have never thought about boundaries with your spouse, we hope this conversation is helpful to you and that it provides you with some great talking points that you and your spouse can explore as you work to have a healthier, happier, holier marriage. 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

• “You can help your spouse see that they might need to set a boundary with someone by asking them questions.” - Dr. Kim

• “You can encourage your spouse to learn about boundaries but also be willing to walk with them through what that will look like.” - Christina

• “Always offer your thoughts on your spouse’s situation as a suggestion, not as a solution to their problem.” - Dr. Kim

• “You might need to set a boundary with someone if you’re taking on their consequences.” - Christina

• “If you’ve never set boundaries before start setting them in safe places first.” - Christina

• “Remember that if someone doesn’t respond to the boundaries that you set in a healthy way, you can only control yourself, you can’t control how they will react.” - Dr. Kim

• “It sounds silly but role playing setting boundaries with your spouse can be really helpful for them to prepare for those hard conversations.” - Christina

• “Let your spouse know that you are not going to stop loving them if they set a healthy boundary with you.” - Christina

SPONSORS

• Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code “AWESOMEMARRIAGE” to receive 20% off your entire order. 

RESOURCES

• As we approach the holidays, it’s so important to make time for your spouse. Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here!
• Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here!
• Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! 

Whether it’s an out right secret we don’t tell our husbands intentionally or it’s something we’d really like our husbands to know but we aren’t brave enough to say it or maybe we don’t know quite how to say it - many wives keep things from their husbands. 

In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina share a dozen secrets wives don’t tell their husbands. We polled you guys on Instagram to get your real and honest answers and today we are sharing those secrets (anonymously).

Some of these secrets might surprise you and many of these secrets may feel like we are reading your diary - we aren’t! You just aren’t alone in your secrets!

Tune in to find out what wives aren’t telling their husbands! 

RESOURCES

• Husbands - Snag the 21 Day Wife Appreciation Challenge here!
• This month’s resource at Awesome Marriage is ‘Every Moment Scripture For Your Marriage.’ This resource is a great way to speak God’s truth into your marriage, even in the midst of difficulties. Every Moment Scripture For Your Marriage’  is a 13 page PDF, with 12 bible verse cards & 12 marriage encouragement cards to help you prepare and face the storms that come your way in your marriage. Grab your resource here! Thank you for making the ministry possible! 
• Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here!
• Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! 
• Dr. Kim’s new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven’t ordered your copy yet- what are you waiting for? Order here now. 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

• “You may have to do some work on your marriage to get to where you’re totally transparent with each other.” - Dr. Kim
• “It’s our role as a husband to come alongside our wives.” - Dr. Kim
• “To the moms: it’s ok to tell your husband when you need a break from the kids.” - Christina
• “Husbands have a huge role in helping their wives know they are beautiful.” - Dr. Kim
• “As a couple, commit to transparency and honesty with each other.” - Dr. Kim

Growing old together is the goal! If you want an awesome marriage, you want one that lasts the long haul! But growing old together comes with some unique challenges. 

In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about those challenges and share practical tips on how to navigate them. 

RESOURCES

• This month’s resource at Awesome Marriage is ‘Every Moment Scripture For Your Marriage.’ This resource is a great way to speak God’s truth into your marriage, even in the midst of difficulties. Every Moment Scripture For Your Marriage’  is a 13 page PDF, with 12 bible verse cards & 12 marriage encouragement cards to help you prepare and face the storms that come your way in your marriage. Grab your resource here! Thank you for making the ministry possible! 
• Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here!
• Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! 
• Dr. Kim’s new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven’t ordered your copy yet- what are you waiting for? Order here now. 

God tells us to set our minds on things above, to pray with His Kingdom in mind, and to live as though our world isn’t our forever home - because it isn’t. But it can be so easy to get sucked into the world we are in now and what’s right in front of us. 

In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about how to cultivate a kingdom marriage. 

RESOURCES

• This month’s resource at Awesome Marriage is ‘Every Moment Scripture For Your Marriage.’ This resource is a great way to speak God’s truth into your marriage, even in the midst of difficulties. Every Moment Scripture For Your Marriage’  is a 13 page PDF, with 12 bible verse cards & 12 marriage encouragement cards to help you prepare and face the storms that come your way in your marriage. Grab your resource here! Thank you for making the ministry possible! 
• Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here!
• Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! 

Dr. Kim’s new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven’t ordered your copy yet- what are you waiting for? Order here now.

In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about how to prevent conflict in marriage before it even starts. Conflict is inevitable so we aren’t saying you can have a conflict free marriage, but there are ways to have less conflict in marriage.

Tune in to learn more!

SPONSORS

Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code “awesomemarriage” for 15% off your order!

RESOURCES

• Snag the Weekly Marriage Check Up Guide PDF for free here.
• Check out 5 Keys To Resolving Conflict here.
• Check out Awesome Marriage’s ‘Date Design - Welcome To Paradise’ Resource for a romantic summer date night in!
• Sign up for the One Thing Email Here or the One Thing Text Service Here!
• Dr. Kim’s new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out a earlier this year. If you haven’t ordered your copy yet- what are you waiting for? Order here now.
• Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here!

Just like the beginning of your day, and the first time seeing each other after work is important because it sets the stage. Your interactions before bed are also very important.

We’ve all done it - gone to bed angry. And it’s not a lot of fun! But is it necessary sometimes?

In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina share some goodnight tips and also answer the question: is it okay to go to bed angry?

RESOURCES

• Don’t Go To Bed Angry by Deb DeArmond
• 5 Steps to Resolving Conflict PDF
• Check out the Awesome Marriage App today by searching “Awesome Marriage” in your app store!
• If you aren’t signed up for our One Thing email do so today!
• Dr. Kim’s new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out a few months ago and the response we’ve received from it has been incredible. If you haven’t ordered your copy yet- what are you waiting for? Order here now.
• Check out the Awesome Marriage App today! Search “Awesome Marriage” in your App store.

In this episode we welcome Russ & Tori Taff with us today. The movie “I Still Believe” is coming out in theaters on Oct 30th and it’s a documentary following Russ’s musical journey and his behind-the-scenes battle with alcoholism.

We are excited to have the Taff’s with us today, because addiction, shame, and secret things are all big issues plaguing many marriages today. We’re excited to share Russ & Tori’s story with you today because they came out of it on the other side.

Tune in to hear one couple's story of healing!

I Still Believe is a one day event! OCTOBER 30th at 7PM in theaters nationwide. Order your tickets here now!

In this episode we welcome Russ & Tori Taff with us today. The movie “I Still Believe” is coming out in theaters on Oct 30th and it’s a documentary following Russ’s musical journey and his behind-the-scenes battle with alcoholism.

We are excited to have the Taff’s with us today, because addiction, shame, and secret things are all big issues plaguing many marriages today. We’re excited to share Russ & Tori’s story with you today because they came out of it on the other side.

Tune in to hear one couple's story of healing!

I Still Believe is a one day event! OCTOBER 30th at 7PM in theaters nationwide. Order your tickets here now!

In this episode we welcome Russ & Tori Taff with us today. The movie “I Still Believe” is coming out in theaters on Oct 30th and it’s a documentary following Russ’s musical journey and his behind-the-scenes battle with alcoholism.

We are excited to have the Taff’s with us today, because addiction, shame, and secret things are all big issues plaguing many marriages today. We’re excited to share Russ & Tori’s story with you today because they came out of it on the other side.

Tune in to hear one couple's story of healing! 

I Still Believe is a one day event! OCTOBER 30th at 7PM in theaters nationwide. Order your tickets here now! 

The ministry of Awesome Marriage is for all couples who want to have an awesome marriage by submitting themselves to God and this certainly includes couples who are in a second marriage.

We are here for the marriage you are in now to help you make it thrive and honor God.

Many times, second marriages can be complicated and come with baggage. But there are practical things you can do to help your second marriage thrive. Today we are going to talk specifically about: how it’s important to not be blindsided. When you’re in a second marriage, you have to let go of the ideal and realize there are going to be some unique challenges since this is your second marriage. Don’t be blindsided by thinking this marriage won’t have it’s challenges.

Tune in to learn more.

RESOURCES

• Check out Ron Deal and his Family Life Blended resources here.
• Blended Families: Second Marriage Interview with Ron Deal
• Blended Families: The StepFamily Interview with Ron Deal
• Blended Families Video Series

Today on the podcast we welcome special guest Barb Roose. Barb is an author and speaker who is passionate about connecting women to one another and to God.

Barb joins Dr. Kim as they talk about Barb’s most recent book ‘Winning the Worry Battle: Life Lessons from the Book of Joshua’ is helping people win the battle over their worries. If you have ever been stressed out about something you can’t control- than this episode is for you! Barb gives real tools to dealing with worry beyond “just pray about it.”

Tune in to learn more about winning the worry battle!

RESOURCES

• You can find more from Barb on her website here.  
• Purchase Barb’s book here.
• Follow Barb on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter.

Family drama. We’ve all been through it and it can be so draining! Family drama can also take a huge toll on your marriage. Today on the podcast Dr. Kim and Christina discuss family drama, why it exists, and how to deal with it in healthy ways that keep your marriage intact.

Tune in to learn more about how to deal with family drama!  

Does your family ever intrude on your personal life? This month at Awesome Marriage we are talking all about family issues. Today on the podcast Dr. Kim and Christina discuss the issue of family invading your personal life and how to deal with it.

Tune in to learn more!  

Is your spouse a top priority for you? Most of us would say so, but having an awesome marriage takes intentionality. If we aren’t intentional about spending time together, it won’t happen. In this 3 part series Dr. Kim shares ways to make time for your spouse despite the busyness of life. Dr. Kim and Christina discuss the 1st way today: have a regular date night.

Tune in to learn more about how to practically implement this into your schedule!   

Be sure to tune in tomorrow as well to learn the 2nd way to make time for your spouse!

This month at Awesome Marriage we are talking about subtle marriage killers. All couples have good intentions of having a happy and healthy marriage but so many of us get off track and there are subtle things that can eat away at your marriage. Today on the podcast Dr. Kim, Nils, and Christina discuss the subtle marriage killer of: busyness. In our fast paced culture busyness affects us all but what would it look like if we made sure life’s demands didn’t take away from our marriage? In this episode Dr. Kim, Nils, and Christina share real life stories and practical tips for how to guard your marriage from this marriage killer.

How can you guard against busyness in marriage? Tune in to find out!   

This is a podcast that aired last year that we wanted to highlight again because of the great response we received the first time it aired. This has been one of our most listened to podcasts of all time and it has an important message that could save a lot of marriages. In this podcast Dr. Kim and Christina talk about how prayer and patience can help heal a marriage that’s in trouble. Dr. Kim and Christina share personal examples and real life stories of how these two things have the potential to make all the difference for your marriage.

Tune in to learn more about prayer and patience in marriage!

This is an Ask Dr. Kim segment on the Awesome Marriage Podcast. People submit their questions about love, relationships, and marriage to Dr. Kim and he answers them.

In this episode Dr. Kim answers the question: Is it okay for grown men to play video games?

Tune in to find out!

Preparing for marriage is a big step that you don’t want to miss. A lot of couples get caught up in preparing the wedding that they forget to prepare for an awesome marriage. Today on the podcast Dr. Kim, Nils, and Christina share the “don’ts” of preparing for marriage. They share real life stories about what they wish they hadn’t done and practical advice on what to avoid as you prepare for marriage.

Tune in to learn more about how to prepare well for marriage!

This week on the Awesome Marriage Podcast we welcome back professional counselor, speaker, and author of True Love Dates, Debra Fileta joining Dr. Kim as they talk about the parent’s role when it comes to dating.

Debra is happily married to John and they have two beautiful children, Elijah and Ella. Debra is a licensed professional counselor who specializes in dating, marriage, and relationship issues. She is a writer and regular contributor of Relevant Magazine and Crosswalk.com as well as author of True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

RESOURCES

I Am Verses for Parents

True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life is a practical book on dating and a great resource for dating couples or singles preparing to date.

Two other great resources by Debra:

21 Days to Jump Start Your Love Life

21 Days to Pray for Your Love Life

You can hear more great insights from Debra on her blog. You can also follow her on Twitter!

This week on the Awesome Marriage Podcast we have professional counselor, speaker, and author of True Love Dates, Debra Fileta joining Dr. Kim as they talk about the foundations for healthy dating and the church's role when it comes to dating.

Debra is happily married to John and they have two beautiful children, Elijah and Ella. Debra is a licensed professional counselor who specializes in dating, marriage, and relationship issues. She is a writer and regular contributor of Relevant Magazine and Crosswalk.com as well as author of True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

RESOURCES

True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life is a practical book on dating and a great resource for dating couples or singles preparing to date.

Two other great resources by Debra:

21 Days to Jump Start Your Love Life

21 Days to Pray for Your Love Life

You can hear more great insights from Debra on her blog. You can also follow her on Twitter!

This week on the Awesome Marriage Podcast we welcome back best selling author and clinical psychologist, Les Parrott. Les joins Dr. Kim as they talk about SYMBIS, a great assessment tool for premarital counseling as well as a tool that can help you deepen your relationship with your spouse and take practical steps toward a healthier marriage.

RESOURCES

To learn more about the Dr. Kim SYMBIS Bundle: Assessment and Online Group for $75 click here. This bundle includes the SYMBIS assessment and a 3 hour live webinar with Dr. Kim going over SYMBIS and doing a Q&A. If you are engaged or dating we encourage you to take advantage of this offer!

You can purchase Les & Leslie’s most recent book, Making Happy: The Art and Science of a Happy Marriage here.

To see if Les and Leslie are speaking at event near you this year check out their event page here.

For more info on Les and Leslie you can visit their website. You can also check out their video tips for other great insights about how to have a healthy marriage.

Get inspiration for you marriage regularly by following Les on Twitter and Facebook!

This week on the Awesome Marriage Podcast we have best selling author and clinical psychologist, Les Parrott joining Dr. Kim as they talk about what it takes to build a healthy marriage.

RESOURCES

You can purchase Les & Leslie’s most recent book, Making Happy: The Art and Science of a Happy Marriage here.

To see if Les and Leslie are speaking at event near you this year check out their event page here.

For more info on Les and Leslie you can visit their website. You can also check out their video tips for other great insights about how to have a healthy marriage.

Get inspiration for you marriage regularly by following Les on Twitter and Facebook!

This week on the Awesome Marriage Podcast we welcome back pastor and author Carey Nieuwhof. Carey and Dr. Kim talk about the challenges of parenting in today's culture.

Carey Nieuwhof is a husband, a dad to two sons and a daughter-in-law, and the founding and teaching pastor of Connexus Church north of Toronto Canada. Connexus is a North Point Strategic Partner

RESOURCES

Leading Change Without Losing It is a practical book that will help you lead change in the face of opposition.

Parenting Beyond Your Capacity is a book Reggie Joiner and Carey wrote to help parents and church leaders leave a legacy for the next generation.

You can hear more great insights from Carey on his blog as well as his Leadership Podcast.

You can also check more out about Carey and get access to some other great resources on his website.