Learn how conflict can create a deeper connection between you and your spouse. Today’s special guest, marriage coach Dana Che is very open about the struggles her marriage faced. In today’s episode she shares her marriage story, what got them through, and how you can use the conflict you face in marriage to draw you toward deeper connection.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
What we can learn from our conflict triggers
How to deal with different conflict styles in marriage
Steps to break generational cycles in your marriage
The power of speaking life to our spouse and our marriage
How being emotionally unavailable tends to show up in husbands and in wives & what to do about it
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
“As a wife, I knew I couldn’t change my husband … but that didn’’ keep me from trying.” Dana Che
“When you actually engage in conflict, you can start to learn more about your spouse, what’s important to them.” -Dana Che
“You’ve got to feed the right things if you want to change the wrong things.” - Dana Che
“Just like you learned that bad behavior, you can unlearn it and learn something new.” Dana Che
“True repentance is visible.” Dana Che
“What we believe, we will begin to speak. What we speak, we will begin to behave.” Dana Che
QUESTIONS FOR YOU
What does your most recent marriage conflict reveal about what’s most valuable to you?
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Find more from Dana at DanaChe.com, where you can take her “Connection Check” quiz
Listen to the “Real Relationship Talk” podcast
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Why do Christians need counseling? Isn’t the Gospel enough to transform us? We hear these questions fairly often. Today Dr. Kim and special guest Jason VanRuler dive deeper into these questions and the conversation about the role of therapy and counseling in a life devoted to following Jesus.
Don’t miss this helpful conversation! We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
How often do clients have no idea that they haven’t gotten past their past?
Unexpected ways your past might be showing up & affecting your marriage today
Updating the negative messages we believe about ourselves
The effect of vulnerability on our marriage connection
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
“Where there's a disconnect in relationships, it’s often a disconnect from the system we witnessed growing up and what we’re trying to make happen today.” - Jason VanRuler
“When we get comfortable, the old ways seep out to the surface.” - Jason VanRuler
“Every time a client says a negative message about themselves, I ask, is that the message you think God gave you?” - Jason VanRuler
“One of my great joys is working with people to eliminate distractions so they can focus on the truth and live the life God has called them to.”- Jason VanRuler
“If we want to feel connected and we’re not feeling connected, a lot of times that emotional intimacy and depth is the missing link.” - Jason VanRuler
“When we get vulnerable and honest, it attracts intimacy from our partner and we have a different relationship.” - Jason VanRuler
“The marriage we want is often on the other side of vulnerability. We just don’t often know how to get there.”- Jason VanRuler
QUESTIONS FOR YOU
Do you recognize any ways you haven’t gotten past your past?
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Get Jason’s book, Get Past Your Past
His site: https://www.jasonvr.com/
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Are you a man living in the stress bubble? It’s when the years of marriage, career building and raising kids all happen at once. You’re figuring everything out, trying to be there for it all, and it. Is. Stressful. If you’re there, you want to hear from a godly dad who has been there.
We’re so happy to share this conversation with Jim Ramos. Jim’s wisdom and experience will equip and encourage you to be the husband and dad you want to be. Don’t miss this episode.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Jim defines the 4 phases of fatherhood
Advice for the dad who never had a role model to guide him
Common mistakes dads make in the “stress bubble” years
Types of provision that the family needs from a husband / father
3 easy things Jim did that he recommends for all couples
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
“Whether we tell our kids that we’ve made mistakes or not, they’re still noticing. Especially during those teen years.” - Jim Ramos
"Our families require much more than physical provision. The damage most men do has nothing to do with physical provision; it has to do with heart care and soul care.” Jim Ramos
“You don’t have to be flashy. You don't have to be Superman. You just have to show up.” - Jim Ramos
“As men we have to realize our wife is the most important person on the planet, and it’s our job to make one person feel special.” - Jim Ramos
“You will not be remembered for what you did 9-5, you will be remembered for what you did 5-9.” - Jim Ramos
QUESTIONS FOR YOU
Jim shared 5 traits that set a “man” apart from a “male”:
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Find Jim online @ https://meninthearena.org/
On instagram @themeninthearena
Get the book Strong Men Dangerous Times
Listen to the Men in The Arena Podcast
Dr. Kim has said that prayer is the #1 most impactful thing you can do for your marriage. Today he explains why that is, and how to make it a habit in your marriage. Today we want to make praying with your spouse more approachable by sharing 4 biblical prayers to pray with your spouse that will grow your marriage.
The Bible lists a lot of reasons for marriage, and praying in line with God’s purpose and intention for marriage is very powerful.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Why prayer is an essential act of spiritual protection against the enemy
Why it’s so hard to get started, and how to overcome
Healthy perspective shifts praying will provide in your marriage
How to handle some of the uncomfortable realities of answered prayers
The power of prayer to help you take personal responsibility
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
“Praying together puts God where he wants to be in our marriage: Right in the center of it. - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“The enemy does not want Christian marriages to work.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“When you pray together you find that it unites you.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“There’s a ripple effect: It’s not just about the couple, it’s about the family; it’s about the community.” - Lindsay Few
“I am more of who God created me to be after being married to Nancy all these years than I would have been without her.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“God put us together. He’s got some fun stuff for us to do. Let’s look out and let’s get this stuff going!” - Lindsay Few
Blame is a very human response…but we all have a way we can influence the world. We do have control over how we’re responding to God’s call on us.” - Lindsay Few
QUESTIONS FOR YOU
4 Prayers to Pray together:
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Our 21 Prayers for Building An Awesome Marriage makes it simple to make prayer a regular part of your marriage <3
Find more prayers to grow your marriage in the 7 Prayers YouVersion Bible reading plan
When we pray, it can be tempting to make our prayers a wishlist. But praying in line with God’s word changes things, and today we’re talking about why that matters and how to pray biblically for your marriage. Today Dr. Kim shares 4 prayers that line up with Scripture that you can be praying daily to grow you, and your marriage!
Don’t miss this powerful episode. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Why it matters to pray biblically
What makes a prayer biblical
The risk involved in praying these things, and the reward they provide
How these prayers have impacted Dr. Kim and Nancy’s marriage
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
We’ve probably all heard some things taught, or caught, that were not biblical. We’ve heard ideas like, 'If God loves you, He’ll make you happy,' or 'If you marry the right person, marriage will be easy,' that do not line up with Scripture.”- Lindsay Few
“Trusting him may be the hardest first step for some of us, because we’re not sure what he’ll do.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“Sometimes the prayer we want answered is just the thing that’s easiest for us.” - Lindsay Few
“He’s always good, even though we don’t see it at times.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“Each of us can be thankful that God knows not only what’s best for us, but for the whole world. We don’t have to be burdened with that. He’s got that.” - Lindsay Few
“If you’re lining up with what God states in his word that He wants to have happen, that’s going to be really powerful.” - Lindsay Few
“We can’t hide anything from God.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“Sexual desire is created for a reason. It’s not a secret from God.” - Lindsay Few
4 Prayers to Grow You and Your Marriage:
Pray that God will help you love like Christ loved.
Ask God to search you, know your heart, and reveal any offensive way.
Pray that your desire will be for your spouse only.
Ask God to help you see your spouse as He does.
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Make prayer a regular part of your marriage with our 21 Prayers for Building An Awesome Marriage
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Find more prayers to grow your marriage in the 7 Prayers YouVersion Bible reading plan