We’re so used to seeing sex allll around us - skin sells, after all! But today, Joshua Ryan Butler shows us how we are still likely to miss so much of what sex is designed to show us. Sex is everywhere – except being talked about by the married couples who are (hopefully!) having it, and the churches and families who desperately need a robust theology of God’s purpose for sex and sexuality.
Today’s episode takes a look at why sex is so much more than right / wrong or rules, and why that truth is incredibly freeing. Tune in to learn more.
Episode highlights include:
Why does it matter what we believe about God’s purpose for sex?
How to unpack the tension between what culture says vs church says about sex
Why a better relationship with God leads to better sex in your marriage (and a better marriage in general!)
Specifically why our male / female differences are so valuable
The shift from rule-keeping to image-bearing and what it means for our lives
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
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Find more from Joshua on his website at Joshuaryanbutler.com
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What is a gospel perspective of sexuality? It’s hard to answer, since too often, sex is not talked about in the church. Yet it’s literally everywhere in the world around us. Most couples struggle with their sex life at some point and parents are deeply concerned about helping their kids navigate the topic in a God-honoring way in the midst of all of culture’s chaos. That is why we are honored to have Dr. Juli Slattery on the podcast today, sharing her vast knowledge and wisdom on the subject. You don’t want to miss what she has to say.
Episode highlights include:
Why a biblical worldview of sexuality is actually very freeing
How disruptions to your sex life can become a springboard to greater intimacy
4 specific aspects of God’s love that should define healthy sex in marriage
The process to engage so you can equip your kids to navigate sexuality biblically
Encouragement for couples who are struggling in this area
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
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For more great info from Juli:
Her newest book: God, Sex, and Your Marriage
Her podcast: Java with Juli
Her website: authenticintimacy.com
Books by the authors mentioned in the episode:
Celebration of Sex, by Douglas Rosenau,
The Married Guy’s Guide to Great Sex and Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women, both by Cliff and Joyce Penner
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Porn use is a pain point for all too many marriages. Today we talk about how to begin healing and rebuilding trust if porn has damaged your marriage. We have seen countless marriages restored from this issue, and we believe God can do the same for you and your marriage. Tune in to learn how you can begin to trust again.
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
The key to knowing if your spouse has changed and is trustworthy
What if they haven’t changed?
Why confession is vital to healing and freedom
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
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Purity is something a lot of people talk about while single and dating, then not so much in marriage. BUt the truth is, sexual temptation does not disappear just because you are married. Married people still need to submit to God and honor him with sexual purity in marriage. Tune in this week to learn what that looks like, and how to move toward purity in your marriage.
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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Have you ever had “duty sex?” Could your sex life could be better than it is today? Today Dr. Kim interviews Laura Brotherson about female sexuality, a mysterious subject misunderstood by men and women alike. Laura sheds light on it, giving information and practical advice to help you better understand and enjoy sex in your marriage.
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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We can’t neglect the spiritual side of sex in marriage.
“Oneness” is a foreign concept to many and one that’s difficult to explain. In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina share about what they have learned about oneness and give a picture of God’s good purpose for it in marriage.
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This is a podcast that aired earlier this year that we wanted to highlight again because sex is an important part of marriage and this is an issue I see plaguing a lot of couples' sex lives.
What happens outside the bedroom is just as important as what happens inside the bedroom when it comes to intimacy. In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina share practical advice and tips on how to make sure you are connecting with your spouse other than just sexually and how to invest in your marriage in a way that benefits your sexual relationship.
Tune in to learn more!
This is an Ask Dr. Kim segment on the Awesome Marriage Podcast. People submit their questions about love, relationships, and marriage to Dr. Kim and he answers them.
In this episode Dr. Kim answers the question: Why should I, as a woman, initiate sex with husband?
Tune in to find out!
This is an Ask Dr. Kim segment on the Awesome Marriage Podcast. People submit their questions about love, relationships, and marriage to Dr. Kim and he answers them.
In this episode Dr. Kim answers the question: As Christians what is okay and not okay to do when it comes to sex in marriage?
Tune in to find out!
Culture influences all of us, but as Christians we shouldn’t believe everything our culture tells us. Culture traps can plague marriages and families. Today on the podcast Dr. Kim, Nils, and Christina discuss the biggest culture trap: the belief that sex is the ultimate. They share how culture pushes this and how it can hurt your marriage if you believe this lie.
Tune in to learn more about how to fight this culture trap!
Many couples struggle with sex in their marriage. Sex is a gift from God and His plan for you and your marriage is for your sexual relationship with your spouse to thrive! Today on the podcast Dr. Kim and Christina share about one reason your sex life might be lacking: if you aren’t putting enough effort in outside the bedroom. What happens outside the bedroom is just as important as what happens inside the bedroom when it comes to intimacy. In this podcast Dr. Kim & Christina share practical advice and tips on how to make sure you are connecting with your spouse other than just sexually and how to invest in your marriage in a way that benefits your sexual relationship.
Tune in to learn more about how to to make sure your sex life is awesome!
Many couples struggle with sex in their marriage. Sex is a gift from God and His plan for you and your marriage is for your sexual relationship with your spouse to thrive! Today on the podcast Dr. Kim and Christina share about one reason your sex life might be lacking: lack of communication. This issue is one of the biggest sources of sex issues in marriage. In this podcast Dr. Kim & Christina share practical advice and tips on how better communicate about sex in marriage.
Tune in to learn more about how to to make sure your sex life is awesome!
Earlier this week on the podcast we shared one big reason your sex life might not be awesome: if you aren’t practicing true monogamy. To dive further into this important topic we are going to give you ways to practically practice true monogamy in your marriage. We will be discussing 3 ways to practice true monogamy. Dr. Kim and Christina discuss the 3rd and final way today: build up your spouse physically and sexually and no one else.
Tune in to learn more about how to practice true monogamy to better your sex life!
Earlier this week on the podcast we shared one big reason your sex life might not be awesome: if you aren’t practicing true monogamy. To dive further into this important topic we are going to give you ways to practically practice true monogamy in your marriage. We will be discussing 3 ways to practice true monogamy. Dr. Kim and Christina discuss the 2nd way today: take your thoughts captive for Christ.
Tune in to learn more about how to practice true monogamy to better your sex life!
Be sure to tune in tomorrow as well to learn the 3rd way to practice true monogamy!
Earlier this week on the podcast we shared one big reason your sex life might not be awesome: if you aren’t practicing true monogamy. To dive further into this important topic we are going to give you ways to practically practice true monogamy in your marriage. We will be discussing 3 ways to practice true monogamy. Dr. Kim and Christina discuss the 1st way today: watch what you allow yourself to see.
Tune in to learn more about how to practice true monogamy to better your sex life!
Be sure to tune in tomorrow as well to learn the 2nd way to practice true monogamy!
Many couples struggle with sex in their marriage. Sex is a gift from God and His plan for you and your marriage is for your sexual relationship with your spouse to thrive! Today on the podcast Dr. Kim and Christina share about one reason your sex life might be lacking: if you aren’t practicing true monogamy. True monogamy isn’t just not having an affair; it’s so much more than that. Dr. Kim & Christina define true monogamy and explain why if you aren’t practicing this you’re missing out on God’s greater plan for sex in your marriage. They give practical advice and tips on how to practice true monogamy.
Tune in to learn more about how to to make sure your sex life is awesome!
Many couples struggle with sex in their marriage. Sex is a gift from God and His plan for you and your marriage is for your sexual relationship with your spouse to thrive! Today on the podcast Dr. Kim and Christina share about one reason your sex life might be lacking: they discuss past abuse and how that can affect the sexual relationship. They share practical advice on what to do to find healing if you or your spouse has experienced this and how to get to a place where you enjoy sex the way God intended.
Tune in to learn more about how to to make sure your sex life is awesome!
Many couples struggle with sex in their marriage. Sex is a gift from God and His plan for you and your marriage is for your sexual relationship with your spouse to thrive! Today on the podcast Dr. Kim and Christina share about one reason your sex life might be lacking: they discuss mental and health issues that can affect sex. They share practical advice on what to do if you experience one of these issues in your marriage.
Tune in to learn more about how to to make sure your sex life is awesome!
This is a podcast that aired earlier this year that we wanted to highlight again because of the incredible feedback we got from it the first time and how impactful this conversation can be to all of our marriages.
In this podcast we have special guest J. Parker with Dr. Kim and Christina. J. Parker is a Christian intimacy author and speaker. Her mission is to reclaim sexuality for marriages as God intended. She has been blogging about marriage and sexual intimacy since 2010 and has written 3 books on marriage intimacy. J. has been married for 22 years and holds a master’s degree in counseling.
J. joins Dr. Kim and Christina today as they talk about cultivating romance in the bedroom. They discuss barriers to healthy sex and how to overcome those barriers. They give practical advice on how to achieve healthy intimacy and enjoy God’s gift of sex with your spouse.
Tune in below to learn more about romance in the bedroom!
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Be sure to read more great insights about sex on J.’s blog. You can follow J. online at Hot, Holy, and Humorous. You can also connect with her on Facebook and Twitter.
You can purchase Holy, Holy, and Humorous here.
This is an Ask Dr. Kim segment on the Awesome Marriage Podcast. People submit their questions about love, relationships, and marriage to Dr. Kim and he answers them.
In this episode Dr. Kim answers the question: How often should we be intimate?
Tune in to find out!
Today on the podcast we welcome back special guest J. Parker with Christina Dodson for a special edition “Wives Talk” podcast. J. Parker is a Christian intimacy author and speaker. Her mission is to reclaim sexuality for marriages as God intended. She has been blogging about marriage and sexual intimacy since 2010 and has written 3 books on marriage intimacy. J. has been married for 22 years and holds a master’s degree in counseling.
J.joins Christina today as they talk specifically about common issues women face when it comes to sex. They discuss common questions women have when it comes to sex and tackle many of the tough issues when it comes to sex.
Tune in below to learn more about what God wants for Christian married women when it comes to sex!
*The podcast is all about sex and Christina and J. talk specifics. This is an R rated podcast for adults only.
RESOURCES
Be sure to read more great insights about sex on J.’s blog. You can follow J. online at Hot, Holy, and Humorous. You can also connect with her on Facebook and Twitter.
You can purchase Holy, Holy, and Humorous here.
Today on the podcast we welcome special guest J. Parker with Dr. Kim and Christina. J. Parker is a Christian intimacy author and speaker. Her mission is to reclaim sexuality for marriages as God intended. She has been blogging about marriage and sexual intimacy since 2010 and has written 3 books on marriage intimacy. J. has been married for 22 years and holds a master’s degree in counseling.
J. joins Dr. Kim and Christina today as they talk about cultivating romance in the bedroom. They discuss barriers to healthy sex and how to overcome those barriers. They give practical advice on how to achieve healthy intimacy and enjoy God’s gift of sex with your spouse.
Tune in below to learn more about romance in the bedroom!
RESOURCES
Be sure to read more great insights about sex on J.’s blog. You can follow J. online at Hot, Holy, and Humorous. You can also connect with her on Facebook and Twitter.
You can purchase Holy, Holy, and Humorous here.
We welcome back special guest Jim Burns on the podcast this week. Jim is an author, speaker, and President of HomeWord. HomeWord is an organization that seeks to educate, equip, and encourage parents and churches to build God-honoring families.
Jim is a leading expert in teaching healthy sexuality to children. Jim joins Dr. Kim today as they talk about how to teach your children healthy sexuality. They give practical advice on how to equip your children to have a healthy view about sex that honors God’s plan for sex. They share ways to approach the sex talk with your children at each age.
Tune in below to learn more about teaching your children healthy sexuality!
RESOURCES
You can purchase Jim’s e-study, Teaching Your Children Healthy Sexuality here. Another great resource from is Jim’s book, How God Made Babies which you can purchase here.
You can read more about Jim and the incredible ministry he leads by checking out HomeWord. Be sure to check out his daily broadcast for more great insights on family and marriage. You can also follow him on Twitter and Facebook.
This week on the Awesome Marriage Podcast we welcome special guest Jim Burns. Jim is an author, speaker, and President of HomeWord. HomeWord is an organization that seeks to educate, equip, and encourage parents and churches to build God-honoring families.
Jim has written several books on and is a leading expert in healthy sexuality and intimacy. Jim joins Dr. Kim today as they talk about sex and it’s role in marriage as a gift from God. They share biblical insights and practical advice on how to enjoy this very special gift from God.
Tune in below to learn more about sex as a gift from God!
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You can purchase Jim’s book, The Purity Code here. Another great resource from is Jim’s book, Creating An Intimate Marriage which you can purchase here. You can read more about Jim and the incredible ministry he leads by checking out HomeWord. Be sure to check out his daily broadcast for more great insights on family and marriage. You can also follow him on Twitter and Facebook.