We’re on our annual summer break from the podcast, and during the break we love to re-air favorite past episodes. Today we’re sharing Dr. Kim’s conversation with former NFL linebacker Sam Acho, a speaker, podcaster, and humanitarian. They had an honest and encouraging conversation about what holds us back from being authentic and how to break through fears and be more real.
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
The breakthrough that first helped Sam to stop hiding & pretending he was ok
Why the closest relationships can also be the places we feel the most insecure
Why the small steps we take to be real are actually big!
Steps to take when you feel you’re not living in authenticity
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Dr. Kim and Nancy’s book, Love, Intimacy and Sex in Second Half is out TODAY!! Click HERE to grab your copy!
27 Scripture Prayer Cards combine the power of prayer and the power of God’s Word, designed beautifully to help you invite God’s to work in your marriage
Sam & Dr. Kim talked today about his book, Let the World See You, and he also has a new book, Change Starts With You: Following Your Fire to Heal a Broken World
Find Sam on Twitter and Instagram @thesamacho
Marriage is more of a marathon than a sprint, and to go the distance, it definitely helps to learn from someone who has gone before. Who better to learn from than Dr. Kim? He and Nancy are more than 50 years into marriage, and continue to have so much fun together. It’s not always easy, but it’s definitely worth it! Today Dr. Kim shares his top 5 ways to build a marriage you love that will stand the test of time.
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Practically speaking, how do you put “God first, spouse second”?
Is the goal to just stay together - or to keep making the marriage better and better?
The power of looking forward to something together
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***CORRECTION*** The release date for Love, Intimacy, and Sex in the Second Half is July 11th – just 1 week from today! Click HERE to pre-order now and so you can advantage of the $5 pre order discount with the code SECONDHALFPODCAST
When it comes to having fun and not taking things too seriously, Dr. Kim and Nancy have receipts! You can find their shenanigans on TikTok and Instagram
Want to have more fun with your marriage? Our 14 Days of Marriage Fun resource helps you break up the routine and enjoy more fun and laughter together!
When Eric and Erikah Rivera met and started dating as high school sweethearts, they sensed God’s call on their lives. But they did not know how it would all unfold. Today they are church planters in their hometown of Chicago, and they graciously share their story of how God has met them in the midst of unexpected fear and pain, and the ways He has worked in each circumstance. Don’t miss this encouraging conversation with the Riveras.
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
How sharing their fears and grief with each other led to increased faith
Unexpected ways God can use our trials when we invite Him to
Should the disciple be known as “Doubting Thomas” or “Ride-or-Die Thomas”?
When God doesn’t answer our prayers the way we hope
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Application Questions:
What fears are underlying in your heart and mind today? What prevents you from speaking them?
Where do you need to see Jesus show up in your life today? In your marriage?
How do you need support in those things in your marriage today?
How can you better support your spouse in the things they are dealing with today?
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Hear more on the Brook Church website and YouTube Channel
How can disappointment or unmet expectations in marriage lead us to God’s healing? Our marriage will only be as healthy as the two people in it, and God wants to restore and heal our hearts. We’re delighted to have John and Stasi Eldredge on the podcast today. The Eldredges share so much wisdom and their personal experiences with God’s healing power in their lives and their marriage.
Episode highlights include:
How to navigate expectations for your marriage and the hurt they can bring
How to take pressure off your spouse and your marriage
he two great conversions in the Christian life
What they would have missed if they had called it quits
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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Dr. Kim highly recommends Pause App, by the Eldredges
Check out their site, www.wildatheart.org - it is full of SO many great resources for you!
When we carry parts of our past with us, it still affects us into today. If we aren’t talking about how the past is for each spouse pushing its way into the present, then we’re probably not getting to the depth of the truth of what’s really going on.
Dr. Kelly Flanagan is a repeat guest on the podcast, and today he shares some transformative steps to dealing with what’s under the surface, and helping your spouse to do the same. Don’t miss this helpful episode!
Episode highlights include:
Do we really need to bring up old stuff from the past? Why does it matter now?
Is your heart open to your spouse, or closed?
What are steps to helping a spouse deal with their baggage?
What does it mean to “hold space” for your spouse? Plus why and how to do that
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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Find more of Dr. Kelly’s resources, including the Loveable Mini Course, at his website: Drkellyflanagan.com
Get Dr. Kelly’s newest book, The Unhiding of Elijah Campbell
Episode highlights include:
Practices to better position ourselves to hear God’s voice over the world’s noise
The psychology of please, the science of sorry, and the theology of thanks
The antidote to bitterness, and the lasting impacts of unconfessed bitterness
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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For some guidance to try Mark’s idea of asking great questions, try our 52 Questions For Your Family Table. These are designed to help you ask great questions and engage in interesting conversation!
If you enjoyed this episode, you will love Mark’s new book Please, Sorry, Thanks!
Today we tackle listener questions about how to practically apply boundaries in specific marriage situations. Dr. Kim gives some great starting points to help you deal with situations that you may be facing where a boundary would help, but you just don’t know what that boundary should be, or how to set it.
Episode highlights include:
Decision-making boundaries with in-laws
Dealing with a controlling parent
How to address an unmet promise without nagging
Finding creative solutions to address marriage pain points
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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Learn all about how to set healthy boundaries for your marriage with our Building Better Boundaries For Your Marriage online course.
Our new Boundaries Workbook Guide helps you decide where and how to start applying this content to your marriage.
Do you ever get a little defensive when your spouse disagrees with you? Marriage disagreements get real because we can’t just ignore what we don’t agree on like we can with an acquaintance. Today Mike Donehey joins Dr. Kim on the podcast and shares gospel-centered wisdom that shows us a better way to disagree.
Episode highlights include:
How Christians should handle defensiveness
A great way to diffuse an argument as soon as it begins
What can happen when we take the time to really hear the other person’s argument
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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Save the date! Our 7 Most Popular Resources Bundle goes live in 1 WEEK on April 4th!
Read Mike’s book, Grace in the Gray: A More Loving Way to Disagree
Find Mike at MikeDonehey.com
Listen to Mike’s podcast, Chasing the Beauty
There are several types of boundaries that you need to have within your marriage. Chances are you already have some. But there may be pain points in your marriage that healthy boundaries can help. Today we cover a lot of ground as we get into the details of some boundaries that may be needed within your marriage to help you, your spouse and your marriage be your healthiest.
Episode highlights include:
Ways to approach a conversation about free time and hobbies without a fight
The most common areas where most couples might need boundaries
Signs that you need a boundary in a given area
How NOT to do your budget together
Plus - Do you have a hobby to answer my question at the end of the episode? I’m so curious - there’s bound to be one!
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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Get 25 of Dr Kim’s best conflict resolution tips in our Conflict Resolution Cheat Sheet!
Our new Boundaries Guide helps you decide where and how to start applying this content to your marriage.
Our friends Dan & Kay at Centsei can help you set a budget and stick with good financial boundaries.
Learn all about how to set healthy boundaries for your marriage with our Building Better Boundaries For Your Marriage online course. Dr. Kim covers why and how and gives practical tips and examples to help you put them in place.
We talk to a lot of couples who don't know what makes them a great team, so we created Team You & Me: A Guide to Approaching Your Marriage as a Team, to help you be more intentional to tap into all God has for you in the gift of your marriage.
What are the rhythms of your marriage? Whether you know what they are or not, you have rhythms, and they are shaping who you will become as a couple. Today on the podcast Chris and Jenni Graebe join Dr. Kim to talk about five rhythms for a healthy marriage, and how you can work together to get in the groove.
Episode highlights include:
What are the 5 rhythms?
How to talk about issues in your marriage without starting a fight
Why speaking life is such an important rhythm, and why it affects more than your marriage.
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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Grab Chris and Jenni’s book, The Rhythm of Us to get all the details of today’s conversation, how to put them into your marriage, and more!
Check out Chris & Jenni’s Rhythm of Us Podcast
Use the Marriage Quiz to discover the #1 rhythm missing in your marriage at marriagequiz.com
Today we’re kicking off a series about boundaries in marriage. What they are, what they are not, and why they are essential in a healthy marriage. We get a lot of questions on the topic, and in this series we will share the types of boundaries that can help a marriage, and how to implement them. This series will be full of practical applications and we’d love to answer your questions.
Episode highlights include:
What can boundaries do for your marriage?
What can they NOT do?
Dr. Kim’s take on an age old example of physical affection at unwelcome times
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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Our Conflict Resolution Cheat Sheet contains 25 of Dr. Kim’s best tips to help you fight fair and resolve conflict well
Learn all about how to set healthy boundaries for your marriage with our Building Better Boundaries For Your Marriage online course. Dr. Kim covers why and how and gives practical tips and examples to help you put them in place.
For more help troubleshooting the conflict in your marriage, our Conflict Solving Survey and Workbook helps evaluate where you are now, see where you want to grow, and learn how to get from here to there.
In today’s episode we mentioned this: How to Set Boundaries in One-Sided Marriage | Ep. 505. In it we give more biblical context for boundaries.
Our 4-day YouVersion plan on Boundaries in Marriage can help you put healthy boundaries into practice.
Today Dr. Kim answers the question, “Do Christians have to stay married, no matter what?” We have heard from several listeners who are in difficult, painful and even abusive marriages. Some said their spouse takes advantage of knowing they will continue to stay as a rationale for continuing harmful patterns. This topic is complicated and nuanced, but there are some clear biblical principles about marriage that can help to navigate a response to these painful situations. Listen to learn more.
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We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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Today Dr. Kim welcomes return guests Levi and Jennie Lusko to the podcast. In this episode, they talk about their new book, The Marriage Devotional, and answer why they wrote a marriage devotional, how that process affected their marriage, the power of scripture in marriage gift God gave us, and much more! Don’t miss this deeply encouraging episode!
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We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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Have you gotten bad marriage advice? We sure have! We’ve heard so many things that just aren’t helpful for marriage, but we didn’t always realize it! Trying to follow a harmful piece of marriage will damage your marriage over time. So today we call out bad marriage advice, give ways to prevent yourself from falling prey to it, and help you determine what's good advice, and what's worth tossing out.
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We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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So much of life is not what happens to us, but how we respond to it. Life is hard and it never seems to go exactly according to our plans. My grandad said that we all have the choice to either get bitter, or get better. And he lived out what it looks like to get better, even in the face of all of life’s troubles. Today Dr. Kim shares what ongoing bitterness looks like over time, and how we can avoid becoming grouchy, grumpy, and mean!
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We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
P.S. I misquoted his age in the episode - my grandad lived to 94½ before he went to heaven last year!
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What are the pros and cons of having kids? Can you know if you’re really ready? Today Dr. Kim and I discuss how to know and how we each went through that process with our spouse. We share some practical ways to get on the same page with your spouse, as well as some of our favorite parts of being parents. Listen in to learn more!
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We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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Mental health impacts every aspect of our life, so it will certainly impact our marriage. I am so thankful for Dr. Kim’s deep experience with this topic! In this episode we covered everything from how to know when to work on things ourselves, when to seek help, and effective but practical ways to boost mental health in everyday life. Tune in to learn more.
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We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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The healthiest marriages are between two healthy people. This week we’re unpacking why it’s so hard to be spiritually healthy without emotional health. The two are linked because a lack of knowing ourselves will seriously hinder our ability to connect with God and others. It’s a lot simpler, more accessible, and less touchy-feely than it may sound.
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We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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Today Dr. Kim and I are talking about how physical health impacts a marriage. It turns out we’re both passionate about pursuing good stewardship with physical health! Dr. Kim shares some of the struggles he and Nancy have had to deal with and how they worked through them, and I share how going from a mentality of body shame to one of gratitude shifted how I approach physical health.
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We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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When we get married, we are also marrying into our spouse’s family. In laws can be a blessing, but that’s not always the case. Today we share real life examples of in-law issues and how couples dealt with them, and give you practical steps to deal with the issues that you might be facing.
We know in-law issues run the gamut and so this advice is not one-size-fits-all. So if we missed something you want to hear covered,
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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We all want to keep our marriage safe from the damaging effects of an affair. There are many tips to doing this, but the one truly essential underlying principle is simpler and more effective than you might think. In today’s episode, Dr. Kim shares the top way to prevent an affair, based on his 40 years of experience counseling couples.
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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Can you grow your attraction to your spouse, or is it destined to grow stale over time? Today’s special guest Kimberley Beam Holmes explains that attraction is a process. Following this process will increase your attraction in marriage, but stopping it will lead to a stagnant and stale attraction. Learn how to follow the attraction process that you can follow at any time in marriage.
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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Is it ever okay to feel used in married sex? If you’re struggling with feeling this way, don’t settle for staying stuck there. We will speak to several different contexts in today’s episode. Wherever your marriage is today, we pray you find encouragement, know that you are not alone, and know that God wants you to find health and enjoyment in the sexual relationship in your marriage.
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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We know “opposites attract,” but once those opposites are married, they also can tend to drive each other crazy! We’re on our Awesome Marriage Podcast 4-week summer break, and during these weeks off, we will re-share some of our favorite past episodes. These are episodes that you might have missed the first time, or that just deserve a re-listen! In this week’s Worth Repeating, we’re sharing the Enneagram and Your Marriage, with special guests Jeff and Beth McCord of Your Enneagram Coach. They explain what the enneagram is, why it’s worth talking about and how it can help, even in conflict. They unpack how this tool can facilitate growth, compassion and understanding, point us to the Gospel, and move couples from frustration to thriving together.
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Read the episode transcript here.
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