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Awesome Marriage Podcast

Far too many couples are just surviving their marriage when it was meant to thrive. This is the place for practical tips on how to build an awesome marriage. Our passion is to help you strengthen your marriage. Dr. Kim Kimberling hosts the show. Dr. Kim is the President of Awesome Marriage, has been married for over 50 years, and has been a professional counselor for 40+ years. He is the author of 7 Secrets to An Awesome Marriage ,14 Keys To Lasting Love, and most recently Love, Intimacy and Sex in the Second Half. Dr. Kim will be joined once a month by his wife of 55 years, Nancy Kimberling. He will also host other great guests that will teach and encourage you as you intentionally pursue an awesome marriage. Tune in each week to hear practical advice from Dr. Kim. This podcast is brought to you by the ministry of Awesome Marriage.
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9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage: And the Truths That Will Save It and Set It Free with Dr. Smalley Ep. 726 0
May 5, 2026

In a culture that blurs truth and deception, marriages can easily absorb beliefs that slowly damage connection and trust. In this episode, Dr. Greg Smalley joins us to uncover the lies that are hitting marriages the hardest—and the truths that can set couples free.

We talk about why marriages are so vulnerable to these lies, how stress and unmet expectations make them worse, and how emotional distance and internal narratives shape the way we see our spouse. Dr. Smalley also shares practical ways to recognize and replace these lies with truth, plus insight from his own marriage.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in negative patterns or discouraged in your relationship, this episode will help you reset your perspective and refocus on what’s true.



Episode Highlights:

  • Why marriages are especially vulnerable to believing harmful lies—and when that risk is highest

  • How stress, unmet expectations, and emotional distance distort the way we see our spouse

  • Practical ways to recognize lies, replace them with truth, and rebuild connection



Quotes from this Episode:

Quotes from Dr. Kim

  1. "Marriage is an adventure full of highs and lows, good and bad."

  2. "We live in a culture that tells us we should be happy above all."

  3. "The greatest marriage advice is to ask how can I be a better husband."

  4. "I think if you do the things that we, if couples do the things we're talking about today, you are laying the foundation for those empty nest years to be something very, very special."

 

Quotes from Greg Smalley:

  1. "Differences are never the problem. The truth is differences are beautiful."

  2. "What creates true connection, what creates intimacy, is safety."

  3. "I want to be the one to love her in that way by affirming her."

  4. "The key is for you to become that perfect person to marry."

  5. "I want my wife's heart rendered open to me."

  6. “It changes our marriages when we start caring about how our spouse felt.” 

  7. "I want to create a campfire with my wife that we just want to linger around and just enjoy each other."

  8. "Instead of thinking about resolving conflict, think about how do we repair conflict."



Time to Talk About it: 

What’s a negative thought or assumption I’ve been believing about you or our marriage lately—and is it actually true?

When we’re stressed or things aren’t going how we expected, what stories do we tend to tell ourselves about each other?

What’s one simple thing we could do this week to feel more safe, connected, and quick to repair things when they go sideways?

 

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Loving Through the Little Things: Letting Go of Assumptions Ep. 725 0
Apr 28, 2026

Most of us have experienced that shift in marriage—where the little quirks that once felt endearing during dating suddenly become everyday annoyances. The real challenge comes when those small frustrations start to build, creating distance, resentment, and barriers to connection. And often, it’s not just the habits themselves—but the assumptions we attach to them—that carry the most power, quietly shaping how we see and respond to our spouse.

In this episode, Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy share practical ways to keep the small things from becoming big issues. They talk about the power of open and honest communication, setting realistic expectations, and choosing grace in the moments it’s needed most—especially when assumptions threaten to take over.

Our hope is that this conversation encourages you to strengthen your connection and approach the little things in your marriage with greater understanding, intention, and grace.

Episode Highlights:

Assumptions do not help the marriage relationship.

Open communication is key to highlighting the differences in your relationship and developing an alternate way to move forward together.



Quotes from this Episode:

You begin to think God made a mistake, which He doesn’t.

The way I think about Nancy, is going to impact the way I treat her.

When you start thinking negatively toward someone, just stop and lay it at the Lords’ feet. 

God wants us to have a good marriage. He gave it as a gift to us so He wants it to be good.

It’s hard to build a case against Nancy, when I’m taking her to the Lord in prayer.

Marriage doesn’t have to be complicated. God didn’t create it as this maze we have to figure our way through.



Time to Talk About it: 

When’s the last time you prayed for the Lord to help you see your spouse the way He sees them. 

Is there something you need to share with you spouse that you’ve been viewing negatively? Something that is going unmentioned and ignored?

Take time to write down 10 things you love or admire about your spouse. Now share it with them. 



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Wider Lens: All Things Together: Apprenticeship to Jesus in a Fragmented World with Heath Hardesty 0
Apr 24, 2026

In this episode, Dr. Kim talks with author and pastor Heath Hardesty about his new book, All Things Together. Heath shares how his time apprenticing under his earthly father became a living picture of what it means to be an apprentice of our Heavenly Father. They discuss what it looks like to live as image bearers in a fragmented world, why discipleship is more than “extra credit,” and how God redeems, not erases, our humanity. Together, they unpack how to see with wonder again, order our imagination around Christ, and live a whole, beautiful life that reflects Him.

 

Episode Takeaways:

  • Wholeness comes from staying connected, not from doing more.
  • Slowing down is often the most spiritual thing we can do.
  • God loves us and desires to dwell with us.
  • Our focus and intention shape the way we experience life and who we become.
  • Life feels scattered because we’re often living disconnected from what truly grounds us.
  • Our actions are connected to our faith.
  • We ache and long for relationship with our Creator. He is a good Father.



Quotes from this Episode:

How we imagine the world really affects how we inhabit it.

Technology can connect, but the digital world often pulls us apart—scattering our presence across time and place until we forget what it means to truly be together.

When we take things out of context and mix the sacred with the trivial, our souls are shaped by confusion and chaos.

God weaves beauty from even the most ordinary or unwanted chapters of our stories—if we let Him, nothing is wasted.

We are made to be apprentices of the Master—union, abiding, obeying, and becoming like Him is the heart of how we truly change.

Faith isn't just belief in our heads—it's trust that spills out through our hands, our words, our feet, our relationships. It's embodied and lived.

Serving others, especially those closest to us, by following Christ's example, transforms both them and us. True love is found in humble service.

Faith has everything to do with our hands, our feet, our mouth, and our relationships. It’s an embodied thing.

 

Reflect on This:

  1. Where does life feel most rushed right now? How can you invite Jesus into this space instead of just trying harder?
  2. What small daily habit or rhythm is shaping you the most right now, for better or for worse?
  3. If following Jesus is more about apprenticeship than perfection, what is one simple practice you could lean into this week to stay more connected to Him?

 

Mentioned in this Episode:

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Heath Hardesty is on Instagram.

Purchase All Things Together: How Apprenticeship to Jesus Is the Way of Flourishing in a Fragmented World by Heath Hardesty

Find Dr. Kim on Instagram

 

Is there a Place for Pride in Marriage? Ep. 724 0
Apr 21, 2026

We’ve all heard the proverb that pride comes before the fall—but is there a place for pride in our relationships at all? Today, Dr. Kim takes an honest look at pride in marriage: its roots, its power, and its ability to divide even the strongest relationships. You’ll be encouraged to recognize where pride may be creeping in, what it’s actually revealing about your own heart, and practical ways to get it under control. Dr. Kim also addresses how to love and set healthy boundaries with a spouse who is struggling with pride—without enabling, escalating conflict, or losing yourself in the process.

 

Episode Highlights:

  • Pride quietly erodes connection.

  • Pride reveals what’s happening in the heart.

  • Healthy humility creates stronger, safer relationships.

  • It’s ok to name the unhealthy rhythms in your marriage. It’s not ok to remain in them. 

 

Quotes from this Episode:

  • Unchecked pride leads to chronic resentment.

  • Many affairs and separations trace back to one thing. One spouse spends years feeling like they couldn’t be heard, valued or respected. 

  • When we make a mistake pride tells us to minimize it or justify it. 

  • Healthy confidence says “I have value and so does my spouse.” Pride says “I have value and my spouse needs to recognize it.”

  • Confidence can receive correction. Pride can’t. 

  • Pride builds a wall one brick at a time. Every unapologized offense was a brick. Every conversation where one spouse lectured instead of listened. Every eye roll- a brick.

  • You don’t want to just endure an unhealthy dynamic without ever naming it. That’s not humility that is enabling. 



Time to Talk About it: 

  1. Where do you think pride shows up most in our relationship—during conflict, communication, or something else?

  2. When you feel unheard or unvalued, how do you usually respond—and do you think pride plays a role in that reaction?

  3. What’s one practical way we could replace pride with humility in our marriage this week?



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Tried and True with Dana Che: What Biblical Marriages Teach Us About Ours Ep. 723 0
Apr 14, 2026

Marriage has a way of bringing our imperfections to the surface—and if we’re honest, that can feel frustrating, discouraging, and even isolating at times. But what if those struggles aren’t something to hide…what if they’re actually where God’s grace shows up most?

In this episode, we’re talking about how the imperfect stories we see throughout Scripture mirror our own and remind us that we’re not alone in the mess. We’ll unpack what it really looks like to build intimacy through vulnerability, why accepting each other’s brokenness matters more than having it all together, and how God’s unconditional love can shift the way you see yourself and your spouse.

If you’ve ever felt like your marriage falls short of the ideal, this conversation will remind you that God does some of His best work right in the middle of it.



Episode Highlights:

  1. The people in the Bible weren’t perfect—and that’s exactly where God’s grace shows up, just like it does in our marriages.

  2. Real intimacy doesn’t come from having it all together—it comes from being honest, letting your guard down, and choosing to love each other in the middle of the imperfections.

  3. When we truly understand God’s unconditional love, it changes everything.

 

Quotes from this Episode:

I think we all have a tendency to let other people define who we are and we've got to keep our eyes on him."

I love that scripture in 1 John 4 all the time, you know, we love because He first loved us.- Dana Che

People have this idea that people in the Bible are saints… I really wanted to show the humanity of the people in scripture. Just like us they struggled with their faith.- Dana Che Williams

We can’t project the image of God if we are hiding. If we are pretending. -Dana Che

We are broken people who married broken people. - Dana Che

Even if people reject you, God does not reject you. - Dana Che Williams

We must get our worth and our value from the Lord.- Dana Che Williams

We have to be tethered in. We have to be tied together, so that when the storms of life or the gentle everyday situations of life, we aren’t disconnecting. 

I can’t be led by my feelings. I have to pray about my feelings. I have to submit my heart before the Lord.

He wants your marriage to work. He wants every marriage to work.- Dr. Kim

There is so much beauty in the suffering if we will just endure it. 

Time to Talk About it: 

Do you feel like you play second fiddle to anything in your spouse’s life? Have you shared that with them?

What routines and rhythms can we put in place to fight against the disconnect? 

Are there things we did before marriage, that we have stopped doing? How can we bring that excitement back to our marriage today?

What can the two of you be working on together to grow the Kingdom of God? (If you don’t have an answer, take the time now to go to the Lord in prayer)

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Guardrails in Marriage with Jim Ramos Ep. 722 0
Apr 7, 2026

Most couples are unintentionally at risk of making one decision that can change their marriage forever. Jim Ramos shares the powerful guardrails that protect and strengthen your marriage, drawing from personal stories, biblical wisdom, and decades of ministry experience. His insight will challenge everything you thought you knew about love, trust, and biblical fidelity—showing you how to avoid costly mistakes and build an unbreakable, joy-filled partnership.

You’ll discover:

  • Why most problems in marriage boil down to one choice and how guardrails can save you

  • The crucial boundaries that keep temptation at bay—living above reproach and emotional connection

  • How to build walls of protection around your wife’s heart and why framing her well is your greatest act of love

  • The importance of intentionality, regular check-ins, and prayer in cultivating a thriving relationship

  • The biblical foundation of mutual submission, respect, and standing back-to-back as life partners

This episode isn’t just theory—Jim shares real stories, practical guardrails, and tangible steps you can take today. Whether you’re engaged, newly married, or decades in, the principles here will help you lead with integrity and love. Don’t leave your marriage to chance—discover how purposeful boundaries create a legacy of unbreakable trust, happiness, and spiritual harmony.

Perfect for husbands and wives committed to God's design, or anyone ready to fight for a marriage that lasts a lifetime. Because in God's family, guarding your marriage isn’t restriction, it’s the freedom to love fearlessly.

 

Quotes from this Episode:

  1. Jim Ramos: "Guardrails in marriage are not restrictions but powerful safeguards that create freedom by preventing destructive choices."

  2. Jim Ramos: "The root cause of most marital failures is a single, stupid choice away—guardrails act as proactive filters to avoid those pitfalls."

  3. Jim Ramos: "Effective leadership in marriage involves presiding over, protecting, and providing—like building walls and inspecting walls—rather than striving for equality."

  4. Jim Ramos: "Cultivating a shared journey towards Jesus strengthens marriage intrinsically; the closer couples move to Christ, the closer they become to each other."

  5. Jim Ramos: "Raising children and managing a stress-filled life require intentional prioritization—placing marriage second only to Jesus—otherwise, chaos undermines core relationships."

  6. Jim Ramos: "The story loops we build through unguarded conversations and stories can open doors for rumors, damaging trust."

  7. Jim Ramos: "Personal renewal in marriage is never too late; repentance and redirection through guardrails are always available, transforming failure into unbreakable bonds."

  8. Dr. Kim: "I think guardrails in marriage, to me, just pictures, man, you're protecting your marriage."

  9. Dr. Kim: "If we begin to think we're not vulnerable, we're really in trouble because we all are."

  10. Dr. Kim: "I think Satan wants us to fool us into thinking that he's not causing any trouble or that he's just maybe not even there."

  11. Dr. Kim: "I think when a man gets it, everyone wins, right? So when men step into that role, then the women naturally get rally around it."

  12. Dr. Kim: "I think intentionality, we don't realize how much that makes a difference. And our wives notice that."

 

Time to Talk About it:

  1. What is one guardrail you’d like to see implemented in your marriage to strengthen and protect it?

  2. What is one step we can take today to make our marriage more of a priority?

  3. How can you begin to support one another spiritually so that your relationship with Jesus will grow? How can you see that shaping your marriage?

 

Mentioned in This Episode:

 

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  • If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com ! 

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Addressing Narcissistic Patterns in Marriage Ep. 721 0
Mar 31, 2026

We’ve explored the spectrum of narcissism, now it’s time to dive into what you can do when those patterns show up in your marriage. Dr. Kim shares how to discern when to speak up and when to self-reflect, how to cultivate an atmosphere for healthy conversation, and why boundaries are essential for meaningful connection.

 

Episode Takeaways:

Forgiveness is not pretending something didn’t happen. 

Trust has to be built consistently over time. 

Being a good christian spouse does not mean absorbing pain. 

When you see the same behaviors repeatedly, it’s time to do something. 

Language matters when having productive conversations.

Change starts with responsibility, not accusation.

God sees you and He is near!

 

Quotes from this Episode:

You can forgive someone and still require accountability.

Healthy relationships don’t make you feel like you’re losing your mind. 

Keep love as the goal. 

Boundaries aren’t unloving, they are essential.

Patterns that took years to develop don’t disappear in just weeks. 

Labels can explain behavior, but they rarely heal relationships.

Defensiveness feels safe, but it slowly kills intimacy.

You can’t control your spouse’s willingness to change — but you can control your own humility.

Most marriages don’t break from one big issue, but from unaddressed patterns over time.

Healing begins when curiosity replaces accusation.

 

Take Time to Talk About It:

What narcissistic or self-protective patterns do you notice repeating in your marriage?

How does defensiveness show up for you — and what is it usually trying to protect?

What would it look like to take responsibility for your part without minimizing the pain you’ve experienced?

 

Mentioned in this Episode:

  • Awesome Marriage is on Instagram!

  • Make sure you’re checking in with your spouse every week!

  • Your words, your tone, your attitude- they all matter in how your spouse hears you and how connected your marriage feels. Check out our new devotional: Cut the Criticism and Cultivate Companionship

 

Wider Lens: Free Me from Me: Escaping the Maze of Self-Centeredness by Embracing a God-Centered Life 0
Mar 27, 2026

Are you caught in a maze and don’t even know it? Today, Dr. Kim is joined by Ryan Wekenman to talk about the maze of self-centeredness we all have to navigate. When we begin living for applause, appreciation, or validation, we can easily drift out of sync with the Lord and into a life focused on serving ourselves—the exact opposite of what God calls us to. In this powerful conversation, Ryan and Dr. Kim challenge us to recognize the pull toward self-focus and invite us to shift our attention back where it belongs: fully on Jesus. We pray this episode encourages you to take the focus off yourself and go all in on Him.

Episode Takeaways:

  • Self-centeredness is a spiritual issue that affects everyone.

  • Control is often at the root of self-centeredness.

  • We need to be intentional about serving others.

  • Self-improvement should not come at the expense of God-centered living.

  • The Lord is our shepherd; we lack nothing when we trust Him.

  • Finding freedom comes from letting go of the need for validation.

Quotes from this Episode:

If Satan can't get you to not worship, he'll try to get you to make worship about you.

You don't need self-help. First and foremost, you need God's help.

The problem isn't self-help. The problem is thinking that self-help will save.

The way towards abundant life is serving and it's humbling yourself.

There's so much freedom on the other side of letting that performer in you die.

I think we have to be intentional about that because it's easy to absorb the culture and let that just become part of, well, everybody's doing it.- Dr. Kim

I think one thing that God has taught me and I still struggle with at times is learning to celebrate others. - Dr. Kim

I think what God is teaching me now, as old as I am, is that just do what I want you to do. - Dr. Kim

 

Time to Reflect:

  1. Where in my life am I most tempted to seek applause, appreciation, or validation instead of simply seeking the Lord?

  2. How might my focus on myself be affecting the way I love and serve my spouse and the people around me?

  3. What is one practical way I can shift my focus from myself to Jesus in my daily decisions and interactions this week?

 

Connect with Ryan:

Navigating Bad Days Without Making Them a Bad Marriage Ep. 719 0
Mar 24, 2026

Today, Dr. Kim is joined by his bride, Mrs. Nancy, to talk about the freedom that comes from allowing yourself, your spouse, and your marriage to have a bad day without making it something bigger than it is. They share how they navigate the hard days, avoid the spiral of negative thoughts, and bounce back with grace and compassion toward one another. Your marriage is a gift—be encouraged to let bad days simply be days without letting them erode your view of your marriage.

 

Episode Highlights:

Everyone has bad days.

Early warning signs that you're starting to spiral.

The danger of turning your spouse into your opponent.

The Lord has seen you through bad days in the past, be encouraged He can do it again this time.

The powerful role grace plays when your spouse has little to give.

See how our marriages are the textbooks for our children to learn from for their future marriages.

 

Quotes from this Episode:

When I try to force something and Nancy isn’t ready, it’s not going to go well.

In everything you have to realize you’re still on the same team. So, how can you help your spouse?

The problem is the opponent. Satan rejoices when we are fighting, when we are angry with one another. -Mrs. Nancy

Satan hates marriage. He hates christian marriages. He loves to destroy them.

Every marriage can be a witness for the Lord. 

Being a role model for your kids, being the text book on marriage that your children need is a huge responsibility. 

Sometimes you have to dig down deep and find that love for your spouse. You don’t have to feel it all the time, but remember that it’s there. - Mrs. Nancy

Once I learned to get past myself and get past my pride, and start giving you grace, it was a great feeling. -Mrs. Nancy

Be vulnerable enough to say “I don’t have much to give.” Then as a spouse, “what can I do to help you.” Just that is a step forward in growing your marriage. 

Take whatever is bothering you and give it to the Lord. As a christian you are forgiven anyway! - Mrs. Nancy

Worrying about your marriage shows you care about it. Showing up for counseling means you care about your marriage. 

Don’t compare your marriage to someone else’s by what they post on Facebook.



Time to Talk About It:

  1. How are we viewing our marriage right now? 
  2. Think about the last time we had a “bad day” in our marriage. What helped us move past it, and how can we remember to do that again next time?
  3. What helps each of us reset after a hard moment or a tense day—space, reassurance, prayer, a conversation, or something else?
  4. What is one simple way we could extend more grace to each other the next time one of us is having a bad day?

 

Mentioned in This Episode:

 

Lightbulb Moments in Marriage with Emerson Eggerichs Ep. 718 0
Mar 17, 2026

What if your marriage isn’t falling apart, but just missing a key insight? In this powerful conversation, we explore “Light Bulb Moments”- the sudden realizations that can transform a relationship almost instantly. Emerson Eggerichs, author of Light Bulb Moments in Marriage and the bestselling Love and Respect, shares how couples who feel miles apart are often just inches away from breakthrough. You’ll learn how understanding gender differences, taking responsibility for your responses, and applying a faith-centered perspective can lead to deeper connection and lasting change.

 

Episode Takeaways:

Your response is your responsibility, and you don't have to wait for your spouse to change first.

Gender roles shape how we respond when marriage gets tough. 

Small insights and honest apologies create space for connection, healing, and leadership at home.

Love and respect are different, but both matter.

 

Quotes from this Episode:

Sometimes we feel miles apart in marriage, but in reality, we're just inches away from understanding each other- Emerson Eggerichs

When we expect our spouse to heal and complete us, we set ourselves up for disappointment; only God can fill that space.- Dr. Kim

Don't confuse silence for a lack of love.-Emerson Eggerichs

Behind every marital conflict are two good-willed people simply missing each other's signals—not enemies, just different shades of right.- Emerson Eggerichs

Apologizing isn't about taking the blame for everything—it's about sincerely owning your part, even if it's just 10%. Leave self-justification behind.- Emerson Eggerichs

No one can make you hate. You are always free to choose how you respond—claim that freedom.-Emerson Eggerichs

 

Take Time to Talk About it:

  1. What's been your biggest "light bulb moment" in marriage?
  2. Where have you shifted your focus from short-term fixes to eternal impact?
  3. Think back to your last marital conflict, where could you/ should you have owned your response in a way that honors your marriage better?



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Narcissism, Selfishness, and the Human Heart Ep. 717 0
Mar 10, 2026

We are quick to label selfish or defensive behavior as “narcissism,” but what if the issue runs deeper than personality? In this episode, we explore how disordered desires, our need for control, comfort, or validation, shape the way we relate to others and quietly erode connection.

This conversation unpacks the difference between healthy self-awareness and self-absorption, why freedom begins when we stop defending ourselves, and how real change doesn’t come from trying harder—but from surrendering deeper. You’ll be challenged to look beneath behavior and consider what your heart is truly after.

If you’re tired of surface-level fixes and ready for lasting transformation, this episode invites you to step out of self-protection and into humility, empathy, and freedom.



Episode Takeaways:

What we often label as narcissism or selfishness is rooted deeper than personality. It flows from disordered desires and a heart that wants control, comfort, or validation more than connection.

Healthy self-awareness leads to growth, humility, and empathy. Self-absorption does the opposite , it narrows our world until everything revolves around us and what we want.

Freedom starts when we stop defending ourselves.

Change doesn’t come from trying harder, but surrendering deeper.

 

Quotes from this Episode:

“Selfishness doesn’t start with what we do — it starts with what we want most.”

“Narcissism isn’t always loud or arrogant; sometimes it’s quiet, defensive, and deeply fragile.”

“You can’t out-behave a heart problem — transformation always starts inside.”

“The more we focus on protecting ourselves, the less capable we are of loving others.”

“Growth happens when we stop asking, ‘How does this affect me?’ and start asking, ‘How did this affect you?’”

“Humility isn’t thinking less of yourself — it’s thinking of yourself less.”

“God isn’t after better versions of us; He’s after surrendered hearts.”




Take Time to Talk About It:

  1. Where do you notice selfishness showing up most in your relationships — words, reactions, expectations, or silence?

  2. How can you tell the difference between healthy self-care and self-centeredness in your own life?

  3. What might change if you stopped defending yourself and started listening with curiosity instead?

 

Mentioned in this Episode:

 

Making Blended Families Work with Ron Deal Ep. 716 0
Mar 3, 2026

Blended families are beautiful—but they’re also complex. When two lives, two histories, and often two sets of kids come together, figuring out what “family” looks like can feel overwhelming. From divided loyalties and differing parenting styles to navigating ex-spouses, finances, and faith, blended families face unique challenges that many couples aren’t prepared for.

In this episode, we’re joined by Ron Deal, director of FamilyLife Blended and author of The Smart Stepfamily. Ron shares practical wisdom, biblical insight, and deep encouragement for couples navigating stepfamily life. We talk about earning influence before exercising authority, managing divided loyalties, setting realistic expectations, and protecting your marriage while building unity in your home.

Whether you’re part of a blended family or love someone who is, this conversation offers real hope, grace-filled guidance, and a reminder that healthy blended families are built over time—on purpose, and with God at the center.



Episode Takeaways:

Blended families are not repairs of biological families.

Creating a blended family involves new rules and dynamics.

Respect and communication are key.



Quotes from this Episode:

"You are not repairing a biological family structure. You are creating an entirely new blended family structure where the rules are different." -Ron Deal

“To be a great co-parent, you need to act divorced—respect your boundaries, let go of control, and focus on parenting your own way.”- Ron Deal

“Stop pretending you have the right to influence your ex's choices. You can share your preferences respectfully, but after that, let go and parent your own way.” - Ron Deal

“Your spouse is the most important adult relationship in your life—honor that allegiance, but never abandon your children.” - Ron Deal

"You cannot demand love out of a child. That's something they decide on their time."- Ron Deal

"If you support the stepparent in front of your kids, if you are a team member in the parenting system, then your blended family has a chance." -Ron Deal

“You cannot have two parenting styles under one roof; blended families thrive when standards are more alike than different.”- Ron Deal

 

Questions to Talk Through:

  1. Where do we feel the most tension in our blended family right now—and how can we face it together instead of alone?

  2. What is one way we can better support each other when parenting, scheduling, or outside relationships feel overwhelming?

  3. What does “progress” look like for our family in this season, even if it doesn’t look perfect yet?

 

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Wider Lens: A Life Bigger Than the Work with Terry Storch 0
Feb 27, 2026

In a world full of distractions and pressure to perform, how do we keep our identity rooted in Christ instead of our work?

In this episode, Dr. Kim sits down with long time friend, Terry Storch, to talk about leadership, stewardship, and the often unseen cost of carrying responsibility that affects others. From navigating pressure and seasons of life to holding the tension between efficiency and presence, this discussion explores where leadership ends and identity begins.

Be encouraged to establish healthy rhythms, protect what’s sacred, and remain centered on Christ—remembering that the work will come and go, expectations will shift, and seasons will change, but all glory belongs to Him.

 

Episode Takeaways:

The “work” of life was never meant to give you value. Only our Creator can do that.

Accomplishments and achievements are driven by healthy rhythms.

The technology advancements create unique pressures and require adaptability.

Finding centeredness in a distracted world is essential for faith.

 

Quotes from this Episode:

“Life is a season of wilderness after wilderness because we're not in the garden yet.”

“I want to be known for the small little things that I did for those people right around me.”

"The need for centeredness, the need for Jesus, is more important now than ever."

"Technology, for the most part, is neutral, like money. It can be used for really good things and really bad things."

"The real story is the commitment to surrender and release, knowing it's not mine.

 

Take a Wider Look:

  1. How do I define my identity beyond my accomplishments, and what steps can I take to focus more on who I am becoming?

  2. In what ways might I be allowing the distractions of the world to pull me away from my core values or spiritual focus?

  3. How can I separate my calling from my vocation, and what changes might I need to make to align my work with my deeper purpose?

 

Foreplay 24/7/365 Ep. 714 0
Feb 24, 2026

 

When we hear the word foreplay, most of us immediately think about the bedroom. But intimacy in marriage was never meant to be confined to a single moment behind closed doors. Today, we’re talking about foreplay 24/7/36 the idea that emotional, spiritual, and relational connection is built continually, hour by hour, day by day. We’ll explore how intentional connection outside the bedroom sets the stage for deeper intimacy inside it, why this matters so much for the health of our marriage, and how small, everyday choices can radically change the temperature of our relationship.

 

Episode Highlights:

What happens in the bedroom is directly affected by what happens outside the bedroom.

There are five types of intimacy that every strong marriage needs. 

The goal is not perfection, it's progress.

 

Quotes from this Episode:

When couples neglect the other four intimacies and they only focus on the physical the relationship becomes transactional sex becomes about physical release instead of real connection. - Dr. Kim

That’s often how affairs begin, not with physical attraction, but with unmet emotional needs. - Dr. Kim

When intimacy is only in the bedroom, the temperature of the marriage runs cold. - Dr. Kim

Replace bad patterns with good ones. Don't just stop the negative, start positive. Instead of scrolling, ask about their day. Instead of logistics, share something you're grateful for about them and finally give each other grace. -Dr. Kim

When you come home, prioritize your spouse above anything else. -Dr. Kim

When there's unresolved tension,when there's hurt or anger or distance, that vulnerability feels unsafe. -Dr. Kim

Awkward is better than distant. Have the conversation. -Dr. Kim

Intimacy isn't built in a single grand gesture. It's rebuilt, one conversation, one touch, one prayer at a time. -Dr. Kim

 

Questions Worth Discussing:

  1. What’s one moment from today (or this week) where we felt connected—or disconnected—and why do you think that was?

  2. Did anything in the episode help you see everyday moments differently when it comes to intimacy or connection?

  3. What’s one small thing we could do differently this week to stay more connected outside the bedroom?

 

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Sacred Intimacy: Linking Sexual and Spiritual Connection in Marriage with Dan Purcell Ep. 713 0
Feb 17, 2026

Today on the Awesome Marriage Podcast, we’re joined by Dan Purcell, creator of Get Your Marriage On! and the Intimately Us app. Dan is passionate about helping Christian couples build stronger, healthier marriages through better communication, playful intimacy, and gospel-centered connection. In this conversation, we explore the powerful link between spiritual and sexual intimacy in marriage. From God’s design for sex to common misconceptions, practical habits, and healing struggles in the bedroom, Dan shares how faith and intimacy were always meant to work together. This episode offers encouragement and actionable wisdom for couples who want to honor God while cultivating deeper passion, joy, and closeness in their marriage.

 

Episode Highlights:

Experiencing really good sex in marriage requires living with virtue.

What works in marriage will change over time. You must be willing to adapt together.

Repair work is most of the work in marriage. 



Quotes from this Episode:

This is a gift from God. He gave it to us to enjoy.

You can’t love a person you don’t know.

The more honest we can be about things, the better our marriage will be.

Sex can be really fun. It can be incredibly replenishing. It can be good for your health.

You want to get to a place where you’re at ease talking about sex. 

 

Questions Worth Discussing:

  1. What part of this conversation felt most relatable to where we are right now?

  2. Did anything we heard make you think differently about how our faith and our intimacy connect—or even just spark a new thought?

  3. What’s one small way we could be more intentional with each other this week—emotionally, spiritually, or physically?

 

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Physical Health & Marital Intimacy: Why Our Bodies Matter in Marriage Ep.712 0
Feb 10, 2026

How are physical health and marital intimacy connected—and why does it matter more than we often realize?

In this episode, Dr. Kim and Mrs.Nancy sit down for an honest conversation about the link between physical health and intimacy in marriage. They explore how stress, exhaustion, illness, aging, and life seasons can impact connection, desire, and closeness—and why caring for our bodies is not just personal, but relational and spiritual.

This conversation helps couples navigate physical barriers to intimacy without shame or pressure, and instead with patience, understanding, and love. Whether you’re in a season of strength or struggle, this episode offers hope, clarity, and encouragement to pursue intimacy the way God designed it—rooted in grace and mutual care.

You’ll hear:

• Why intimacy doesn’t stay effortless—and why that’s normal

• How sleep deprivation, stress, and hormones impact desire and connection

• Why exhaustion often gets misread as rejection

• How physical neglect creates emotional distance

• What stewardship of your body has to do with loving your spouse

• How couples can talk about intimacy without shame or defensiveness

• Practical, realistic steps to rebuild closeness—even in demanding seasons

 

Quotes from This Episode:

Often as women, we feel like we have to do it all. We become physically drained and spiritually drained. -Mrs. Nancy

Our bodies aren’t machines. They need to be connected to the Lord and good health. -Mrs. Nancy

We have to get past the stereotype that if you love each other that your sexual intimacy will be great. - Dr. Kim

Body, soul and spirit- you have to work on all three to get yourself in shape, to live life to the fullest. - Mrs. Nancy

The better I feel, the better I take care of myself, one our marriage is better, and two I have the energy and focus to serve Him and do the things God has lined out for me to do. -Dr. Kim

Physical health and marriage are more connected than we realize. When one suffers, the other does too—care for both intentionally. -Dr. Kim

You don't have to be 'super mom' or 'super spouse.' Recognize your limits and give yourself grace in each season of life.- Dr. Kim

Taking care of your health is not just self-improvement—it's an act of love toward your spouse and those you serve. -Dr. Kim

Even in illness, exhaustion, or stress, don't give up on intimacy. Adapt, support each other, and let these challenges draw you closer.-Dr. Kim

You don't need a perfect body—just a healthy one that lets you show up for your spouse and God's call each day.-Dr. Kim

Fitness is about being strong enough to live, love, and serve as God intended—not about looking a certain way.-Dr. Kim

 

Questions for Conversation:

  1. How has our current physical season (energy, stress, health, sleep, life stage) been shaping our intimacy—emotionally and physically—and where do we need more understanding for each other?

  2. Are there any physical or emotional barriers to intimacy that we’ve avoided talking about? What would it look like to approach that conversation with curiosity, prayer, and grace instead of pressure or defensiveness?

  3. What is one small, realistic way we could care for our physical health together this season as an act of love and connection—not obligation?

 

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Don’t Burn Your Own House Down with Lindsey Maestas Ep. 711 0
Feb 3, 2026

In this episode, I’m joined by Lindsey to talk about her newest book, Don’t Burn Your Own House Down—a powerful and practical guide for couples who want to stop self-sabotaging their marriage and learn how to protect what matters most. We unpack how unhealthy rhythms, unmet expectations, loneliness, and emotional struggles can quietly fuel disconnection, and why waiting for your spouse to “fix it” first often makes things worse. Whether your marriage is thriving or struggling, this conversation offers honest insight and hopeful tools to help you fireproof your relationship and pursue deeper connection in every season.

 

Episode Takeaways

Most marital damage is unintentional but preventable.

Self-sabotage shows up in everyday habits.

Waiting for your spouse to change first keeps couples stuck.

Behavior change alone isn’t enough.

Healthy marriages are intentionally “fireproofed.”

 

Quotes from this Episode:

Most couples don't fall apart because they stop caring. They fall apart because they stop considering each other in the little, everyday moments.

Playfulness isn't a luxury—it's an essential ingredient for a thriving, connected marriage.

Outdo each other in showing honor, and watch how your marriage flourishes.

Scorekeeping in marriage poisons connection.

If it needs to start with you, let it start with you. Your reward isn't just in the result—it's in the faithfulness and honor you show, even when it's hard.

In every word and action toward your spouse, you either speak life or spit poison.

When Jesus is at the center of your marriage, your own pride and hurts matter less—making way for unity, healing, and lasting love.

 

Take time to Reflect:

What little fire are you ignoring today? 

Are you believing the lie that it’s your spouse's job to take the first step? 

What is one small change we could make this week to protect our connection?



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Wider Lens: Heart Rehab with Jerry Flowers 0
Jan 30, 2026

You all loved this conversation in the fall so we are kicking off our Wider Lens 2026 with a rerelease of this awesome interview. Jerry Flowers is bringing encouragement about the patterns of your life and posture of your heart as we talk through his new book Heart Rehab: Finding the You God Created You to Be. Lean into the discomfort, create disciplines for preparedness, and surrender your need for control in order to step into your true calling as a son or daughter of the Lord Almighty. He loves you, he is for you, and we can trust him with our hearts!

 

Episode Highlights:

Stop blaming everyone else. Take time for self reflection. 

If we invite God in, He can use all seasons for our good and growth.

Intimacy with the Lord allows us to grow into the people God created us to be. 

Discipline and preparation go hand in hand. The more disciplined you are, the more prepared you are for what God has next. 

Culture influences us to mislabel our fears, thoughts and anxieties. Make sure you are labeling them correctly.

 

 

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

I recognize many times, our placement in life isn't just because of problems, it's because of patterns. -Jerry Flowers

Patterns reveal character. -Jerry Flowers

Patterns are one of the ushers to certain seasons. -Jerry Flowers

We want to blame the enemy, but we have to look at ourselves too. -Jerry Flowers

Be aware of the enemy, for sure. But I think sometimes that keeps us from taking responsibility for our part. -Jerry Flowers

It may not make sense right then, but later it’ll make sense. -Jerry Flowers

I see things that God put me through, before we got married, that helped me when I got married. -Dr. Kim

We want to be whole enough where the Lord can pour into us and we can pour back out.- Jerry Flowers

If you want results, you lean into discomfort.- Jerry Flowers

What changed for me is realizing that my mind can lie to me. -Jerry Flowers




A Wider Lens: Questions for Self Reflection

  1. Look at your daily life and identify one unhealthy pattern you’ve grown comfortable with.


  2. What one discipline could you start practicing to combat this pattern and prepare for what God has next?


  3. Identify an area of your life you haven’t fully surrendered to the Lord. Choose a Scripture verse to meditate on as you commit to trusting Him completely.



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Mental Health and Your Marriage Ep. 710 0
Jan 27, 2026

Marriage is one of the most meaningful relationships we experience—but when mental health struggles enter the picture, it can feel overwhelming for both spouses. In this episode, we dive into how mental health impacts the overall health of a marriage, what couples are really facing today, and why caring for your own emotional well-being is essential for a thriving relationship.

Drawing from counseling experience and faith-based wisdom, we address common misconceptions, signs that mental health is affecting your marriage, and practical ways to support a struggling spouse without losing yourself in the process. You’ll also hear encouragement for couples navigating anxiety, stress, or depression, guidance on boundaries and self-care, and insight on when to seek professional help. This honest and hope-filled conversation offers tools to help couples stay connected—even in difficult seasons.



Episode Highlights:

Mental health struggles distort how we see things.

How to identify red flags that your spouse may be dealing with something deeper.

How to recognize the difference in support and rescue.

Encouragement to remain present in the difficult season.

 

Quotes from This Episode:

You can’t build intimacy from survival mode.

Anxiety tells you everything is a threat and depression tells you nothing is going to get better.

Resentment builds when the healthier spouse feels like they are carrying the whole load.

Your job is to walk alongside your spouse, not carry them. 

This is a season, not a sentence.

 

Talk it Over Together:

  1. What helps you feel emotionally supported by me when you’re struggling?

  2. Are there topics, emotions, or struggles you find hard to share with me? What makes them difficult?

  3. How can we check in with each other more intentionally moving forward?



Mentioned in This Episode:

  • Awesome Marriage is on Instagram!

  • Marriage need a reset so you can reconnect? This month’s 4 Week Connection Challenge helps you and your spouse intentionally reconnect emotionally, physically, and spiritually—one simple, meaningful step at a time. Start closing the distance and rebuilding the intimacy you’re longing for today.

 

The Road Less Triggered with Dr. Kelly Flanagan Ep. 709 0
Jan 20, 2026

I’m so thrilled to have Dr. Kelly Flanagan back on the show. Today he is talking about his newest book The Road Less Triggered, focusing on the importance of recognizing and managing emotional triggers in relationships. The work of faith, self awareness, and compassion is vital in our relationships. Dr. Flanagan shares how to stay engaged, remain soft, and practically manage conflict in a way that brings connection to your marriage.



Episode Highlights:

Understanding Triggered Moments in Relationships

Your body is an early warning system

Living in the security of God's unconditional love provides a foundation of safety.

The posture of your heart affects how you receive communication.



Quotes from This Episode:

Most relationship conflict isn't like D-Day—it's more like Groundhog Day. We keep repeating the same patterns until we decide to break the cycle.

The heart of this work is restoring a sense of choice—the power to keep your heart open, even when you're triggered and it feels impossible.

A response is the fruit of self-regulation. A reaction is a failure of self-regulation.

You can't connect if you're protecting. Openness is required for real connection.

Our culture pushes us to blame others, but real progress comes from taking personal responsibility for how we show up.

Until we move out of being triggered and back into connection mode, we'll keep self-sabotaging every attempt to connect.

Becoming a safe environment for the people you love inspires them to open their own hearts—and builds true connection.

Seeing the ways we differ as sources of complementary wisdom, not flaws to be fixed, can revolutionize your relationship.



Questions for Conversation:

  1. Think about a recent moment in your marriage where you felt triggered. What physical or emotional signals did your body give you, and how might noticing these earlier help you respond rather than react?
  2. Consider a way your spouse differs from you that has caused tension. How could reframing that difference as complementary wisdom rather than a flaw shift your approach and deepen your connection?

TRIGGER CHALLENGE: Together, identify one habit or action that makes each of you feel safe and heard. Commit to practicing that habit in your interactions over the next week, then reflect on how it affected your connection.

 

Mentioned in this Episode:

 

Reclaiming the Sabbath Ep. 708 0
Jan 13, 2026

In a culture that celebrates busyness, rest can feel almost impossible. In this episode, we explore the ancient and life-giving practice of Sabbath and why it matters now more than ever for our marriages and families. What did God intend the Sabbath to be—a rule to follow or a gift to receive? Through Scripture, practical wisdom, and real-life counseling insights, we unpack how rhythms of rest renew our emotional, spiritual, and relational health. You’ll hear practical ways couples and families can begin reclaiming Sabbath together, even in the middle of busy and unpredictable schedules, and why choosing rest may be one of the most meaningful investments you can make in your home.

 

Episode Highlights:

Rest is a rhythm and a gift.

Rest shouldn’t be legalistic, it’s an invitation. 

Taking a sabbath has physical and spiritual benefits. 

Avoiding the sabbath can lead to spiritual dryness.

Culturally we are so distratcted and overly engaged; and it’s not what we were designed for. 

 

Quotes from this episode:

Man was not made for the Sabbath, the Sabbath was made for man. It’s a gift.

The Sabbath wasn't made to restrict us; it was made to refresh us.

When we’re tired, we don’t choose our battles well.

The sabbath reminds me who’s really in charge.

As Christians sometimes we feel like the busier we are for God, the more we are being faithful- That’s a lie.

Celebrating Sabbath looks different for everyone. Choose what brings you and your family closer to God.

Rest is not lazy.

It’s not about not doing anything, it’s about doing things differently.

If you're exhausted, you can't pour love, patience, or joy into your family. Rest is essential for healthy relationships.

You can't just hope for Sabbath rest—be intentional, make a plan, put it on the calendar, and protect that time.

 

Questions to Start the Conversation:

  1. How does busyness currently show up in our marriage and family life, and what has it cost us emotionally, spiritually, or relationally?

  2. What would a life-giving Sabbath look like for us in this season—what would we need to stop, start, or protect in order to experience true rest together?

  3. What is one practical step we can take this week to begin building a rhythm of rest that honors God and strengthens our connection as a couple?

 

Mentioned in this Episode:

  • Awesome Marriage is on Instagram!

  • Marriage need a reset so you can reconnect? This month’s 4 Week Connection Challenge helps you and your spouse intentionally reconnect emotionally, physically, and spiritually—one simple, meaningful step at a time. Start closing the distance and rebuilding the intimacy you’re longing for today.

 

Worth Repeating: 3 Common Communication Mistakes and How to Avoid Them 0
Jan 6, 2026

Communication is the #1 issue couples ask for help with and in today’s episode, have got the goods to help you overcome some very common communication mistakes! Whether you need a total overhaul or just a few friendly reminders, today’s episode has practical, actionable advice to improve the communication in your marriage. 

Are you making the same mistakes most couples make with communication? Dr. Kim has pretty much seen it all so he’s here today to help us avoid those mistakes, and to build better communication instead. 

Episode highlights include:  

  •  Three of the most common mistakes Dr. Kim sees over and over with couples he counsels: Blame, discounting, and distraction. 

  • The impact each of these mistakes has on a spouse and marriage

  • The practical steps to avoid each of these communication pitfalls 

 

Quotes from This Episode:

  • When you resolve conflict, both of you have to take responsibility for your part in it. I’ve never seen an issue where 1 person was 100% responsible. - Dr. Kim 

  • I think it’s easy for us to rationalize, fool ourselves, and take the time to think it through.  - Dr. Kim 

  • I’ve done it, I’ve seen it in other wives: It’s easy for us in parenting to discount our husband’s opinion. - Lindsay 

  • Listen in a way that you can let them know you heard what they said. - Dr. Kim 

  • As a parent with kids in the home, it’s great to have the reminder that they are benefitting from us putting boundaries that let us have an adult relationship with our spouse. As important as they are to us, we should value showing them that solid foundation and modeling marriage for them.  - Lindsay 

  • I identify with all three of these, I’ve done them all. It’s not something you just get right then coast, you have to stay on top of it. - Dr. Kim  

 

Questions for You:

  • Do you use “I” statements to communicate what you need with your spouse? 

    • For example: Instead of, “You always ignore me when I’m talking,” say, “I feel hurt when you scroll on your phone when I’m talking. I want to know that you care about what I have to say.” 

  • Do you have questions about gaslighting, narcissism and blame in marriage? Send them in here and Dr. Kim will be answering listener questions in an upcoming Q&A episode

 

Mentioned in This Episode:

  • Need more communication help? Sign up here to save your spot for Dr. Kim’s FREE webinar,  “7 Common Communication Mistakes Couples Make”

  • Questions about gaslighting, narcissism and blame? Submit them anonymously HERE or DM us on Instagram. Dr. Kim will answer them in an upcoming episode 

  • Want to reduce unnecessary arguments, decrease stress in your home, develop better understanding of your spouse, OR just strengthen your bond as a couple? Our 30-Day Communication Challenge is for you! 

  • With Dr. Kim’s One Thing email, you’ll get one practical tip each weekday to build your marriage.

  • The Marriage Multiplier is a quick weekly email that gives you practical ways to be intentional to grow your marriage. Sign up HERE! 

Worth Repeating: How to Make Romance Realistic in Your Marriage 0
Dec 30, 2025

How’s the romance in your marriage? How does it compare to when you were dating? (… and does that matter?)

Romance can fall by the wayside in marriage because it seems like an “extra” that you’ll get around to when you have extra time or money, or if you feel inspired to make a grand gesture. 

But today Dr. Kim shares several reasons NOT to let that be the case in your marriage. Listen to learn why you need to bring the romance back and HOW to realistically make that happen. 

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include:  

  • Dr. Kim shares several specific ways romance benefits a marriage 

  • What does romance look like for men vs. for women? 

  • What to do if you’re just not feeling it 

  • Whose job is it to make sure the romance is good?  

 Quotes from This Episode:

  • “Most people would say at some point it was there. So how do you get it back?” - Dr. Kim Kimberling

  • “We kind of quit doing romantic things because we’re not feeling it. Sometimes we have to go ahead and do them, so that we feel it again.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling

  • “Marriage is a lot better when you’ve got romance in it.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling

  • “I think we’d like it to come naturally, like it does in the movies.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling

  • “It’s ok to have the conversation. We have to get past the mindset of, ‘If you really loved me, you’d know.’” - Dr. Kim Kimberling

  • “Romance is a great way to show your spouse, I see you, I appreciate you, and I care about what you care about.” - Lindsay Few 

Questions for You:

  •  Have you talked about romance with your spouse? If not …

    • Ask them: What is sexy to you? What is romantic to you? 

    • Don’t judge their answers! 

    • Answers may change over time, so check in every now and then. 

Worth Repeating: Deepen the Emotional Intimacy in Your Marriage 0
Dec 23, 2025

Want better connection with your spouse? One thing we hear a lot from couples is that they don’t feel close to each other or that their relationship feels like it’s missing some depth. That’s why today we’re re-airing this episode from Dr. Kim and Christina that talks all about emotional intimacy and gives you ideas of practical ways to deepen the emotional intimacy in your marriage. 

We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. 

Episode highlights include:  

  • What is emotional intimacy, and why does it matter? 

  • Warning signs you need to grow in this area 

  • Emotional intimacy killers to avoid  

  • Tips to start working on this - alone, and together 

Quotes from This Episode:

  • “It is hard work knowing someone. You have to pay attention. It takes work to be intimate.” - Christina Dodson 

  • “Laziness and business are going to block your intimacy, so we have to fight against those things.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “Give yourself opportunities to connect.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “It adds value to my marriage for me to have a relationship with my friends, just like it benefits our marriage that he has guy friends.” - Christina Dodson 

  • “You could have had the best childhood in the world and you still have baggage because we’re human. That’s okay, and you can deal with that.” - Christina Dodson 

  • “You can’t be emotionally intimate with your spouse if you aren’t aware of your own emotions.” - Christina Dodson 

 

Mentioned in This Episode:

  • Our 5 Days to Deeper Emotional Intimacy digital resource provides practical steps to understand and share your emotions, and to work together to grow your emotional intimacy…and it’s our gift to you for your donation of any amount. 

  • Your marriage can only be as healthy as the two of you are. The Bible says, “Let us examine our ways and test them and let us return to the Lord” (Lamentations 3:40). Our new Self Check-In Guide will help you do just that! 

  • Print out this Feelings Chart and use it to help you talk about your emotions.

  • Our Questions To Help Your Spouse Open Up resource is a simple way to help build the closeness between you and your spouse. Accountability is a biblical and helpful tool for growing in holiness.

Worth Repeating: How To NOT Fight With Your Spouse About Money with Julie Baumgardner 0
Dec 16, 2025

The Awesome Marriage Podcast is on winter break, and over the next four weeks we’ll be sharing some of our favorite past episodes with you.

First up: Finances! No one loves talking finances, but we do think you’ll love today’s conversation with Julie Baumgardner! Julie shares how to get curious about what money means to your spouse, how two spouses’ separate financial backgrounds and “money stories” can stop being a source of tension, and start becoming a shared value. 

Listen to this episode if you’re ready to get on the same page with your spouse about finances this season - without fighting about them! 

 

Episode highlights include:  

  •  Questions to start a productive conversation about finances with your spouse

  • How to uncover the hidden money lessons you learned growing up, then to get on the same page with your spouse. 

  • What recent research says about the connection of money and marital happiness 

  • How to learn more about your spouse’s perspective about money 

  • Ways to work together toward shared values around money in your marriage

 

QUOTES:

  • “You have different perspectives about money. You don’t necessarily talk about what it means to you, how you think about it, therefore you argue about it.” - Julie Baumgardner  

  • “You can have conversations about money without having to be methodical about every single penny.” - Julie Baumgardner 

  • “If you can’t figure out how to live within your means with a little, it will be very complicated to figure out how to live within your means with a lot.” - Julie Baumgardner 

  • “It isn’t ‘You’re right, I’m wrong,’ you’re being curious. And in being curious, you’re learning.” - Julie Baumgardner 

  • “If you can tell that money is creating stress, what is it about money that’s stressful?” - Julie Baumgardner 

  • “Keep your eyes wide open for where God is calling you to join Him in his work. Be aware, and where you see a need, be a Kingdom builder. ” - Julie Baumgardner 

 

QUESTIONS FOR YOU:

  • What matters most to the two of you when it comes to money? It’s never too late to define your core values around money in your marriage. 

  • What is it about money that’s stressful?  If it’s “what ifs," then name the what-ifs and talk through them. 

 

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