Can we implement boundaries with our spouse? Is it loving? Is it Christ-centered?
Boundaries in marriage may seem counterintuitive to some, but we believe it should be normal and natural in a marriage.
In this episode, Dr. Kim and Christina share about boundaries with your spouse: why you need them, examples of what they might be, and how to implement them. If you have never thought about boundaries with your spouse, we hope this conversation is helpful to you and that it provides you with some great talking points that you and your spouse can explore as you work to have a healthier, happier, holier marriage.
“You can help your spouse see that they might need to set a boundary with someone by asking them questions.” - Dr. Kim
“You can encourage your spouse to learn about boundaries but also be willing to walk with them through what that will look like.” - Christina
“Always offer your thoughts on your spouse’s situation as a suggestion, not as a solution to their problem.” - Dr. Kim
“You might need to set a boundary with someone if you’re taking on their consequences.” - Christina
“If you’ve never set boundaries before start setting them in safe places first.” - Christina
“Remember that if someone doesn’t respond to the boundaries that you set in a healthy way, you can only control yourself, you can’t control how they will react.” - Dr. Kim
“It sounds silly but role playing setting boundaries with your spouse can be really helpful for them to prepare for those hard conversations.” - Christina
“Let your spouse know that you are not going to stop loving them if they set a healthy boundary with you.” - Christina