In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about the #6 marriage mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages; which is hurtful teasing. If it hurts your spouse, why are you doing it? 

They discuss the difference between playful teasing and hurtful teasing. They share how to deal with hurtful teasing in your marriage and Dr. Kim gives some practical tips to avoid hurts in our marriage. 

We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. 

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NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

• “You don’t get to be the judge of whether or not something is hurtful to your spouse, they do.” - Christina Dodson
• “The right kind of playful teasing can connect you to your spouse.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
• “If you know your spouse is insecure about something you should not tease them about it.” - Christina Dodson
• “We can’t change our spouse, that is God’s job.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
• “Hurtful teasing can be something that gradually erodes a relationship.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
• “When you are making fun of your spouse all the time, they realize that they can’t be themselves around you.” - Christina Dodson

SPONSORS

• Thank you to Harvest House Publishers for sponsoring this episode promoting Love In Every Season. Grab your copy of Love In Every Season today! 

RESOURCES

• Brighten your marriage with our new resource 30 Gems of Wisdom For Your Marriage. This digital resource is an 18 page PDF that gives you 30 nuggets of God’s wisdom regarding your marriage. Get it today here! 
• Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here!
• Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! 

In this episode Dr. Kim has two friends of his share their story. Zach and Leanna join Dr. Kim to share about their first year of marriage. Leanna works at Life.Church as a Social Media Specialist and is also a very talented freelance graphic designer. Leanna has recently become our main graphic designer at Awesome Marriage and it’s been such a blessing to have her talents on the team. She designs all of our monthly digital resources. 

Zach is a Marketing Coordinator. 

This couple had a unique first year of marriage with a lot of lows. They share their story and how God has used the hard things to edify them and strengthen their marriage.  

We pray their story encourages you! 

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NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

• “It’s normal to freak out in a terrible situation, but I let my fear rob me of a lot of joy.” - Leanna Romoser
• “I knew when we were walking through those hard times that God has more in store for us, He does not want us to be miserable.” - Leanna Romoser
• “I know that God is on the side of marriages and I had to make a decision to surrender my marriage to Him and allow God to use our pain for His purpose.” - Leanna Romoser
• “We started to receive true healing when we stopped turning away from each other and started turning towards each other. “ - Leanna Romoser
• “The walls of anger and resentment that I had built up were hindering me from being the person that I wanted to be.” - Zach Romoser
• “It wasn’t until I learned how to truly forgive that I was able to grow spiritually and as a husband.” - Zach Romoser
• “You can’t speak defeat and expect victory.” - Zach Romoser
• “If you’re struggling in your marriage, share that with at least one person who you trust.” - Leanna Romoser
• “After going through all that we went through it feels like our marriage has a passion and a purpose.” - Leanna Romoser

SPONSORS

• Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code “awesomemarriage” for 15% off your order! 

RESOURCES

• Brighten your marriage with our new resource 30 Gems of Wisdom For Your Marriage. This digital resource is an 18 page PDF that gives you 30 nuggets of God’s wisdom regarding your marriage. Get it today here! 
• Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here!
• Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! 

In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about the # 7 Marriage Mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages. Which is dishonesty. You may not think you are one to be dishonest and lie, but chances are you are less honest than you think you are. Dishonesty is never good for your marriage. In this episode Dr. Kim shares red flags to pay attention to and practical ways to grow in truthfulness and openness in your marriage. 

We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. 

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NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

• “Sometimes we lie in what we say and sometimes we lie in what we don’t say.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
• “The more you get comfortable lying to your spouse about small things the easier it will get to lie to your spouse about big things.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
• “Lies build distance whereas truth builds closeness.” - Christina Dodson

SPONSORS

• Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code “awesomemarriage” for 15% off your order! 

RESOURCES

• Check out the Weekly Marriage Check Up Guide Christina mentions in this episode. Use it to work on your marriage each week!
• Brighten your marriage with our new resource 30 Gems of Wisdom For Your Marriage. This digital resource is an 18 page PDF that gives you 30 nuggets of God’s wisdom regarding your marriage. Get it today here! 
• Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here!
• Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! 

Right now we are in our Top 10 Marriage Mistakes series. Over the years Dr. Kim has seen some central mistakes couples make that hurt their marriage. In this series we are breaking down the top ten marriage mistakes he sees. 

In this episode we share Marriage Mistake #8 which is nasty habits: anything that just plain annoys you that your spouse does.

Can you think 1 (or 10!) things that annoys you about your spouse or that your spouse does that bugs you? I bet you can! Well Dr. Kim & Christina talk all about that in this episode and most importantly, they share how to healthily DEAL with those annoying habits. 

We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.

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NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

• “Small things, with the wrong perspective, can take up big space in our hearts.” - Christina Dodson
• “Work together on the things you can change about each other.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
• “If you’re annoyed by your spouse’s habit, ask God to make it clear whether it’s worth saying something to your spouse about it or if it’s something you can look past to see the good in your spouse.” - Christina Dodson
• “Do not try to manipulate your spouse out of their annoying habit, that’s not going to solve the problem.” - Christina Dodson
• “Be careful to confront your spouse’s problem and not confront your spouse.” - Christina Dodson

SPONSORS

• Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code “awesomemarriage” for 15% off your order! 

RESOURCES

• Brighten your marriage with our new resource 30 Gems of Wisdom For Your Marriage. This digital resource is an 18 page PDF that gives you 30 nuggets of God’s wisdom regarding your marriage. Get it today here! 
• Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here!
• Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! 

Dr. Kim has been married for 50 years and has been a Marriage Counselor for over 40 years. Over the years he has seen some central mistakes couples make that hurt their marriage. In this series we will be breaking down the top ten marriage mistakes he sees. 

In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina discuss Marriage Mistake #9: Being Selfish or Greedy. 

We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.

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NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

• “It’s really hard to live with someone who wants things to go their way all the time.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
• “Every couple at some point is prone to greed and selfishness because we’re sinners.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
• “Selfishness is the root of a lot of other sins that cause issues in marriages.” - Christina Dodson
• “You will not have a good marriage if it is a self-centered marriage.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
• “If you want your marriage to be what you dreamed it would be when you said ‘I do,’ you can’t let greediness or selfishness take over.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
• “The more selfish you are, the less you realize it.” - Christina Dodson
• “Don’t fight selfishness with selfishness.” - Christina Dodson
• “Ask your spouse, ‘How are you perceiving me?’ and be prepared to listen and receive what your spouse says.” - Christina Dodson
• “There’s value in having a time each week to ask your spouse how they feel like you are treating them, and if there is anything you can be working on as a husband or wife to make your marriage better.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
• “The long term gain from being selfless is worth far more than any short term gains from being selfish.” - Christina Dodson
• “Commit to praying for your spouse everyday for 30 days as a way to learn to be selfless in your marriage.” - Christina Dodson

SPONSORS

• Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code “awesomemarriage” for 15% off your order! 

RESOURCES

• Brighten your marriage with our new resource 30 Gems of Wisdom For Your Marriage. This digital resource is an 18 page PDF that gives you 30 nuggets of God’s wisdom regarding your marriage. Get it today here! 
• Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here!
• Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! 

Today we are kicking off a new series on the podcast: Top 10 Marriage Mistakes. As most of you know, Dr. Kim has been married for 50 years and has been a Marriage Counselor for over 40 years. Over the years he has seen some central mistakes couples make that hurt their marriage. We will be breaking down the top ten. 

Today is Marriage Mistake #10. Which is Temper Tantrums: Not Fighting Fair. Not fighting fair plays out in a lot of different ways. You may think you fight fair, but after listening to this it might give you some insight you didn’t have before about healthy conflict resolution. 

We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.

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NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

• “I saw a quote on Facebook that said ‘Placing blame in marriage is like saying your side of the ship is sinking;’ we’re supposed to be one in marriage and placing blame on your spouse is not you operating as one.” - Christina Dodson
• “You can be prone to fighting unfairly in your marriage if you saw your parents do that; we forget that our parent’s marriages are our first textbooks on marriage.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
• “Anytime a situation becomes ‘win/lose’ in your marriage, your marriage is losing.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
• “When you’re fighting unfairly it puts your marriage on pause; you can’t move forward to connect and grow closer to each other like you should be.” - Christina Dodson
• “If you can only think of negative things about your spouse that should be a huge red flag.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
• “What we are saying about our spouse in our heads matters so much.” - Christina Dodson
• “If you’re unable to get out of the habit of fighting unfairly, going to see a counselor who can give you goals and accountability is hugely beneficial.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
• “Getting a divorce is a lot more expensive than seeing a marriage counselor.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
• “Decide with your spouse what is unhealthy about how you fight and make boundaries that you both will agree to keep.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
• “Standard boundaries that a couple should have in fighting is no yelling, cussing, or insults.” - Christina Dodson
• “If something is important to your spouse, make it important to you.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
• “If you don’t forgive someone it hurts you more than them.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling

SPONSORS

• Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code “awesomemarriage” for 15% off your order! 

RESOURCES

• Brighten your marriage with our new resource 30 Gems of Wisdom For Your Marriage. This digital resource is an 18 page PDF that gives you 30 nuggets of God’s wisdom regarding your marriage. Get it today here! 
• Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here!
• Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!