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Awesome Marriage Podcast

Far too many couples are just surviving their marriage when it was meant to thrive. This is the place for practical tips on how to build an awesome marriage. Our passion is to help you strengthen your marriage. Dr. Kim Kimberling hosts the show. Dr. Kim is the President of Awesome Marriage, has been married for 53 years, and has been a professional counselor for 40 years. He is the author of 7 Secrets to An Awesome Marriage and 14 Keys To Lasting Love. Dr. Kim is joined by co-host Lindsay Few, Content Director for Awesome Marriage. She has been married for 20 years. Her husband is a church planter, and they love ministering to married couples together. Tune in each week to hear practical ways on how to have an awesome marriage! This podcast is brought to you by the ministry of Awesome Marriage.
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Apr 16, 2024

Do you fight fair, or do you wish there was a referee to call a stop to the foul play when you argue with your spouse? Ground rules are an important step toward having healthy marriage conflict, so today Dr. Kim will spell out how to make sure you’re fighting fair in your marriage. We want to empower you to fight fair, and resolve issues in a kind and loving way. 

If you need help to fight fair and truly resolve issues without making things worse, you will love today’s conversation. 

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include:  

  • The DOs and DON’Ts of fighting fair 

  • The side effects of unhealthy conflict 

  • A healthy way to “let it all out” 

  • Can honesty go too far?  How do you know? 

  • Tips to the reconnection process - how to make up well 

 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here

QUOTES

  • “We both learned we needed to reconnect and apologize, but sometimes we werent’ ready to take that step at the same time. We had to learn that somebody needs to take the step. It doesn’t really matter who started the fight or who was wrong.” 

  • “Taking responsibility is huge. Owning your part in it, even if you think you only did 10%, you still did 10%.”

  • “What are you sorry for? Be very specific in what you did and why you're taking responsibility.”

  • “I say it a lot: One of the best gifts you can give your marriage is to learn how to resolve conflict.” 

  • Forgiveness and apologies need to have no strings attached. It’s just that I choose to do this. 

  • We’re not just trying to clear a slate so our spouse stops bugging us. Have you repented before the Lord? That’s where this starts. 

  • We are accountable to Him before being accountable to our spouse. Did I just treat my spouse in the way He would have me treat them? If not, I need to take that up with Him 

 

QUESTIONS FOR YOU

  • When you really think about it, how did it affect your spouse when you had this conflict? 

  • Repentance. Learning from the mistakes made and committing to work on them together. 

 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 

 

Apr 9, 2024

Sick of the same old fights over and over with your spouse? Learn to de-escalate marriage fights and resolve issues in a healthy and helpful way. Conflict in marriage is inevitable, but the way you handle it is what matters most. Learning to deal with it well will benefit your marriage in so many ways! Tune in today to learn how. 

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

Episode highlights include:  

  • Common conflict pitfalls to avoid

  • The problem with “winning” marriage fights 

  • Tips to help you break the fighting cycle

  • What to do if one spouse is not ready to reconnect 

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:

  • Are you stuck in a conflict cycle? If so, work together to identify what’s triggering it. 

  • Choose 1 tip from Dr. Kim’s list below that you will both agree to use this week. 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here

QUOTES

  • “When we try our best to avoid conflict, we’re not really equipping ourselves with the skills to handle it well.” - Lindsay Few 

  • “Awareness gives you some insight that can really be useful.” Dr. Kim Kimberling 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 

  • Learn more about how to make your marriage conflict healthy by joining Dr. Kim for the 8 Guidelines for Fighting Fair Webinar 

  • Our Conflict Resolution Cheat Sheet is your quick guide to get marriage conflict on the right track. 

  • If you’re ready to learn how to do conflict well, the Conflict Resolution Guide helps you diagnose the problem areas in your marriage, then learn the steps to resolve them. 

  • It’s here! Our 7 Most Popular Resource Bundle is LIVE! That means you can get 7 of our most-loved marriage building resources by making 1 donation of ANY amount to support the ministry of Awesome Marriage! The bundle is available for a limited time only. Get all the details here!  

 

Mar 14, 2023

Several types of boundaries can help your marriage be healthy, and today we’re talking about boundaries outside of marriage. That means with family, friends, and the opposite sex. We could probably devote an entire episode to each of these categories! We definitely can’t cover every possibility, but we can get the conversation started. 

 

Episode highlights include: 

  • Boundaries with your in laws & adult married children

  • Guidance on setting boundaries with your kids at any age

  • Basic boundaries for co-parenting with an ex 

  • Dr. Kim’s recommendations for affair prevention boundaries 

 

We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. 

 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here

 

RESOURCES

 

Nov 29, 2022

Research shows that 69% of marital conflict is never resolved. We either sweep it under the rug, avoid the pain points, or get stuck in a cycle of conflict that may cause pain but not find resolution. Today Dr. Kim talks with special guest Anne Nelson, about the 4-stage process to break the fight cycle and heal your marriage from conflict. Anne is a Christian counselor who helps couples and individuals to find the fully thriving life God has for them. 

Episode highlights include: 

  • Why we get stuck in the conflict cycle and how to get out
  • Some reasons that counseling might not “work” and what to do if that happens to you
  • How to start recognizing and healing unaddressed issues affecting your marriage 
  • Specific questions can we use to challenge our assumptions in marriage 

We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. 

 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here

Resources: 

  • Connect with Anne and see her marriage resources on FullyThriving.com and on Instagram @Fully Thriving.
  • Loving our monthly resources? Marriage Changers get instant access to every months’ new resource – and so much more! Learn more here
  • Get bite-sized daily doses of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim’s Daily One Thing email. As a subscriber, you’ll also be eligible for some awesome freebies!  
  • Dr. Kim’s weekly Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email. 
  • Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok!
Jun 7, 2022

Apologies are necessary. We are all human and sinful, so we should all be apologizing regularly. But there are definitely right and wrong ways to do this, and most of us can certainly grow in doing apologies well. We’re on our Awesome Marriage Podcast summer break, and during these weeks off, we are re-sharing some of our favorite past episodes. These are episodes that you might have missed the first time, or that just deserve a re-listen! Today we’re re-airing this episode where Dr. Kim and Christina explain why good apologies matter, and help us learn to do this well. 

 

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*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES

  • The 2022 Virtual Sex Seminar is designed to help you deal with a number of common barriers to great married sex. We’ve partnered up with the Dating Divas and 21 other sex and marriage experts to give you the 2022 Virtual Sex Seminar. Learn from SAFE, HEALTHY Sex Experts in the privacy of your own home. 
  • Registration is now open for FaithFULL Online Men’s Retreat! Don’t miss this chance to learn from like minded men who are seeking to build a life of integrity. We have 10% off for you when you use the code DRKIM10 at checkout! 
  • Dr. Kim recommends a weekly marriage check in, and our Weekly Check In Guide makes it easy to do! You will get this resource for free when you sign up for Dr. Kim’s weekly Marriage Multiplier email!
  • When you sign up for Dr. Kim’s Daily One Thing email you will get an email from every weekday with one practical thing to do for your marriage that day! Bonus: We will send you our “Creative Questions To Ask Your Spouse” for free when you subscribe.
  • Do you know about the Marriage Changers membership? As a Marriage Changer you get each of our new monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like t-shirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here!
Feb 15, 2022

“Team language” is a great counselor term that I’ve heard Dr. Kim use a lot, and I wanted to learn more about what that looks like – and doesn’t look like – in marriage. Join us today as we unpack practical ways to shift to a team mindset and use team language.   

 

We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. 

 

P.S. Did the “good guy” idea Dr. Kim mentions later in the episode step on your toes like it did mine?! Let me know if that’s something you want to hear more about! 



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*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here

 

RESOURCES

 

Feb 25, 2020

Do you feel beaten down by your spouse? Does it feel like nothing you do is ever right or good enough for your spouse? Well you certainly aren’t alone. It can really wear on a marriage when one spouse is overly critical. In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina share about what to do when your spouse is critical. 

 

We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. 

 

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*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here

 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

  • “If it’s not normal for your spouse to be very critical of you, ask yourself what might be going on to make them act that way. “ - Christina Dodson
  • “Use Stop, Look, Listen when communicating with your critical spouse.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
  • “If you’re delivering criticism to your spouse, make sure you do it in a loving, grace-filled way that they will hear the heart behind what you’re saying.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
  • “Give your spouse time to process any criticism that you’ve given them.” - Christina Dodson
  • “If my spouse has something critical that’s of value to say to me, I want her to be able to say it.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
  • “Before giving your spouse criticism, ask yourself three questions: ‘Should it be said? Should it be said by me? Should it be said now?” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
  • “When giving your spouse feedback, don’t speak negatively. Speak to the potential that you see in them.” - Christina Dodson

 

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RESOURCES

Apr 26, 2018

This is an Ask Dr. Kim segment on the Awesome Marriage Podcast. People submit their questions about love, relationships, and marriage to Dr. Kim and he answers them.

In this episode Dr. Kim answers the question: How can we stop fighting about money?

Tune in to find out!

Mar 31, 2018

This is a podcast that aired last year that we wanted to highlight again because of the great response we received the first time it aired. In this podcast Dr. Kim, Nils, and Christina talk about how to turn your fighting in marriage around. They share real and practical ways to stop fighting your spouse and start fighting for your marriage.

Tune in to learn how to stop fighting with your spouse!

 

Oct 11, 2016

This week on the Awesome Marriage Podcast we welcome back Deb & Ron DeArmond on the podcast. Deb is an author, a speaker, and relationship coach—helping others improve their interactions at work and at home. Deb runs her ministry at Deb DeArmond/Family Matters. Ron has co authored several books with Deb. The DeArmond’s are marriage experts and high school sweethearts.

Deb & Ron join Dr. Kim as they talk about how to not let anger fester. Anger when left to fester can destroy a marriage, Deb & Ron share advice on how to deal with anger in marriage in a healthy way. They share stories from their own marriages and practical advice on how to move past anger in marriage.

Tune in below to learn more about how not let anger corrupt your marriage!

 

RESOURCES

You can purchase Deb’s new book: Don’t Go To Bed Angry here. Another great resource from Deb is her book I Choose You Today which you can purchase here. You can read more great insights from Deb on her website. You can also follow her on Twitter and Facebook.

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