This week we conclude our powerful Unpacking the Baggage series with some details on the process of unpacking marriage baggage, and dealing with what’s underneath. I’m so thankful for Dr. Kim’s biblical wisdom on this topic, as well as the excellent guests we heard from this month. If you missed the previous episodes of this series, make sure to go back and listen for some powerful wisdom on how to heal your heart and your marriage.
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Some of the physical signals that can help us prevent overreactions
Slowing down the process to identify relationship triggers
How to begin healing from relationship triggers and figure out what’s underneath
What to do if you don’t know what’s underneath
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When we carry parts of our past with us, they still affect us today. You may know there is something going on, but not know what it is. You may sense your spouse has something they are carrying or you might be affected by unresolved conflict in your shared past. Today Dr. Kim shares how these things shape our marriage relationships and what we can do about them.
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Ever been picked last at recess? Yeah, us too. But do things like that matter in our marriages?
Why aren’t we dealing with this stuff already?
What happens if we don’t deal with our past hurt
Is it okay to talk about our spouse’s baggage if they don’t bring it up?
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This is the FB Live video with Chris and Jamie Bailey that we referred to dealing with Emotional Rationalization
Here's what's coming up in the next several weeks on the Awesome Marriage Podcast! I'll share which guests will be appearing on the podcast and a snippet of what they'll talk about. This series is full of warmth and wisdom, so make sure to tune into each episode!
Today on the podcast, we’re sharing real stories of marriage boundaries that couples used to help their marriage grow healthier. Dr. Kim and I each share some of our own experiences, and we will hear from 4 members of the Awesome Marriage team about boundaries that helped their marriage.
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The money mindset that set Dr. Kim and Nancy up for success together
A simple way to transition from your work-from-home to family time
Lindsay and Christina share practical boundaries for couples in ministry
Dr. Kim and Lindsay have opposite takes on one thing their spouses do
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Our new Boundaries Guide helps you decide where and how to start applying this content to your marriage.
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Today we’re going to get into what healthy boundaries do and do NOT look like. We will troubleshoot the confusion and frustration that boundaries can bring when they’re not working like they should, and tell you what to do about it.
Episode highlights include:
We unpack some reasons you might avoid setting boundaries
Red flags that you are doing boundaries wrong
How to clarify the importance of the issues you discuss
When you have assumed your spouse knows your boundaries
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Our new Boundaries Guide helps you decide where and how to start applying this content to your marriage.
For more information on boundaries, Henry Cloud and John Townsend’s book, Boundaries is an immensely helpful time-tested staple.
Today we get into the details of how to carry out healthy boundary setting. We continue the series on healthy boundaries by talking about logistics of how to set and carry out the boundaries our marriages need. We’ll talk about how to do this conversation well, and what NOT to do when you talk about them. Tune in to hear how to set these well to help you and your marriages to be their healthiest.
What do you want to hear more about before we close this series? Let me know!
Episode highlights include:
Dr. Kim gives several examples of how to make boundaries enforceable
Practical dos and don'ts of a boundaries conversation
What to do if your spouse doesn’t agree to your boundaries or respect them
Ways for in-laws to deal with boundaries involving their married kids
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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A helpful companion episode: What is Team Language? | Ep. 501
Our Boundaries Guide walks through the topics we’ve covered through this series and helps you decide where and how to start applying this content to your marriage.
We talk to a lot of couples who don't know what makes them a great team, so we created Team You & Me: A Guide to Approaching Your Marriage as a Team, to help you be more intentional to tap into all God has for you in the gift of your marriage.
Our Conflict Solving Survey & Workbook provides more help to work on healthy and effective conflict resolution together.
We’re dropping in today to share a brief overview of our upcoming “Boundaries For Your Marriage” series. We get a lot of questions on the topic, and in this series we will share types of boundaries that can help a marriage, and how to implement them.
The series will cover: What boundaries are and why they matter for your marriage, boundaries within marriage, boundaries outside of marriage, how to set boundaries, what NOT to do, plus an episode devoted to answering your questions. Please subscribe to our Podcast Email if you have not already, as we provide application questions to help make each episode applicable to you, as well as other bonus content.
We pray this series will be helpful to you and your marriage!
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Whether it’s illness, aging, or another physical issue, there are some physical obstacles that can prevent couples from enjoying a great sex life together. Today we address several common physical barriers to a great sex life in your marriage, and provide practical ways to address them and enjoy God’s gift of sex in your marriage!
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Abuse of any kind is entirely inconsistent with God’s plan for marriage, as described in Scripture. Today Dr. David E. Clarke returns to the podcast to debunk reasons that godly women give for staying with their abusive spouse. Dr. Clarke has counseled so many spouses who have been taught that God wants them to remain with an abuser, so today he explains a clear, biblical basis for separation from an ungodly, unrepentant, narcissistic, or dangerous spouse. Listen to learn about confronting the lies that keep you with an abuser.
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The Christmas season is like no other! Today we’re sharing some ways we love to celebrate, our favorite traditions, past mistakes and mishaps, and how we have handled some of the challenges of the season. Plus we get to hear from two very special guests – each of our spouses join us for the first time on the podcast!
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Today we’re tackling some of the really tough questions that listeners have submitted. We love answering listener questions, and Dr. Kim often answers one at the end of our episodes. This episode is a little different, since these are all questions that warrant more than a quick answer. While there are some hard realities, we also believe that there is hope for every marriage. Wherever your marriage is today, we believe God has hope and redemption for you!
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What are some of the major mistakes we hope couples avoid during dating and engagement? Today we’re looking at a big one: Ignoring red flags. Thankfully, Dr. Kim has counseled so many engaged couples over the years, and has created our Preparing For Marriage online course. So today he sheds light on several common red flags and how to deal with them. Spoiler alert: No matter where you are today, there is hope!
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“The storms will hit. It’s not a threat, it’s just a reality,” as Gary Thomas shares with us today.
When they do, we want our marriages to be a refuge where we take comfort. In this episode, Gary Thomas tells us how to make sure your marriage is a safe haven for you and your spouse, rather than a source of pain and conflict. His latest book tells real-life stories of marriages that overcame hardship to become a fortress. We believe this is what God wants for each marriage and what he wants for you! Don’t miss this encouraging episode!
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Men and women tend to view intimacy differently, so it takes intentionality to understand one another well. We want to help the wives out this week by looking at 3 ways to do intimacy his way. How can you build these into marriage? Today’s episode will help you bring intimacy from idea into action. Tune in to learn more!
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Men and women typically view intimacy differently, and it takes intentionality to understand one another well. We want to help the husbands out this week by looking at 3 ways to do intimacy her way. This episode is worth repeating since it answers one of the toughest parts of marriage. How can you build these into marriage? Today’s episode will help you bring intimacy from idea into action. Tune in to learn more!
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Are you part of a blended family? Having a blended family brings unique challenges and that’s why we’re so thankful for our friends Scott and Vanessa Martindale sharing their wisdom on the topic today! Scott and Vanessa founded Blended Kingdom Families, where they offer practical strategies and Biblical encouragement for blended families. Don’t miss this helpful episode!
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What did you hope for and dream of when you got married? Is your marriage all you dreamed it would be? For so many, it is not. It’s easy to think it might be easier for other couples, but a good marriage takes time, energy, and hard work. There’s hope for your marriage no matter where you are today, because as Dr. Kim shares with us, God hasn’t given up on any marriage!
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Matt Hammitt had a successful music career as frontman of the Grammy and Dove-award-winning band Sanctus Real, but he knew God was calling him away from his career and toward something else. The wake up call happened when he started realizing he was not the man he intended to be. Today Matt opens up about the process of following God’s lead in leading his family well. Tune in for his encouraging story!
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Today we’re answering listener-submitted questions about our Healthy Self / Healthy Marriage series. We have talked about physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health, and they all overlap, so we have questions from every area. There are some really tough ones, so we’re going to do our best to give clear and helpful answers today, as Dr. Kim shares great biblical counsel for the questions sent in from our listeners.
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We get a lot of questions about how to deal with not being “equally yoked” in marriage, so today Dr. Kim shares tips, encouragement plus some do’s and don'ts if you are in this difficult situation. And listen in for a fun new anonymous listener question segment where Dr. Kim drops the mic with his marriage advice for newlyweds!
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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Is it abuse or is it bad behavior? Today Dr. David E Clarke joins Dr. Kim to tackle this tough topic with tough love. Dr. David E. Clarke is a Christian psychologist, speaker, and author who guides people toward healthy lives, marriages, and families through his Bible-based teaching and therapy. In today’s episode he explains the difference between abuse and bad behavior, touches on narcissism and gaslighting, and shares an effective, biblical approach for any spouse who is dealing with this situation.
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Last week we talked about what a “one-sided marriage” can look like. It’s not a fun situation, but there are some important and impactful things you can do if that’s where you are. This week, Dr. Kim shares with us five things you can control, even when your marriage feels totally out of control.
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Does your marriage have margin? What do we mean by “margin” in marriage? Dr. Kim has some great insight into what this means and why it matters for your life and your marriage. Listen today to learn practical ways to build and manage margin in your life, and how doing this will help grow your marriage.
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
Are you considering marriage counseling? Have you booked your first appointment and plan to go soon? Or have you tried counseling, but it just didn’t work like you hoped it would? Whatever situation you are in, today’s episode has some tips to help you make the most of it.
Just showing up to the appointment won’t change your marriage. Today Dr. Kim and Christina share some tips that are not common knowledge about how to make counseling work for you and your marriage. Tune in and find out!
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