Today we get into the details of how to carry out healthy boundary setting. We continue the series on healthy boundaries by talking about logistics of how to set and carry out the boundaries our marriages need. We’ll talk about how to do this conversation well, and what NOT to do when you talk about them. Tune in to hear how to set these well to help you and your marriages to be their healthiest.
What do you want to hear more about before we close this series? Let me know!
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Dr. Kim gives several examples of how to make boundaries enforceable
Practical dos and don'ts of a boundaries conversation
What to do if your spouse doesn’t agree to your boundaries or respect them
Ways for in-laws to deal with boundaries involving their married kids
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A helpful companion episode: What is Team Language? | Ep. 501
Our Boundaries Guide walks through the topics we’ve covered through this series and helps you decide where and how to start applying this content to your marriage.
We talk to a lot of couples who don't know what makes them a great team, so we created Team You & Me: A Guide to Approaching Your Marriage as a Team, to help you be more intentional to tap into all God has for you in the gift of your marriage.
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We’re dropping in today to share a brief overview of our upcoming “Boundaries For Your Marriage” series. We get a lot of questions on the topic, and in this series we will share types of boundaries that can help a marriage, and how to implement them.
The series will cover: What boundaries are and why they matter for your marriage, boundaries within marriage, boundaries outside of marriage, how to set boundaries, what NOT to do, plus an episode devoted to answering your questions. Please subscribe to our Podcast Email if you have not already, as we provide application questions to help make each episode applicable to you, as well as other bonus content.
We pray this series will be helpful to you and your marriage!
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Whether it’s illness, aging, or another physical issue, there are some physical obstacles that can prevent couples from enjoying a great sex life together. Today we address several common physical barriers to a great sex life in your marriage, and provide practical ways to address them and enjoy God’s gift of sex in your marriage!
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Abuse of any kind is entirely inconsistent with God’s plan for marriage, as described in Scripture. Today Dr. David E. Clarke returns to the podcast to debunk reasons that godly women give for staying with their abusive spouse. Dr. Clarke has counseled so many spouses who have been taught that God wants them to remain with an abuser, so today he explains a clear, biblical basis for separation from an ungodly, unrepentant, narcissistic, or dangerous spouse. Listen to learn about confronting the lies that keep you with an abuser.
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The Christmas season is like no other! Today we’re sharing some ways we love to celebrate, our favorite traditions, past mistakes and mishaps, and how we have handled some of the challenges of the season. Plus we get to hear from two very special guests – each of our spouses join us for the first time on the podcast!
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Today we’re tackling some of the really tough questions that listeners have submitted. We love answering listener questions, and Dr. Kim often answers one at the end of our episodes. This episode is a little different, since these are all questions that warrant more than a quick answer. While there are some hard realities, we also believe that there is hope for every marriage. Wherever your marriage is today, we believe God has hope and redemption for you!
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What are some of the major mistakes we hope couples avoid during dating and engagement? Today we’re looking at a big one: Ignoring red flags. Thankfully, Dr. Kim has counseled so many engaged couples over the years, and has created our Preparing For Marriage online course. So today he sheds light on several common red flags and how to deal with them. Spoiler alert: No matter where you are today, there is hope!
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“The storms will hit. It’s not a threat, it’s just a reality,” as Gary Thomas shares with us today.
When they do, we want our marriages to be a refuge where we take comfort. In this episode, Gary Thomas tells us how to make sure your marriage is a safe haven for you and your spouse, rather than a source of pain and conflict. His latest book tells real-life stories of marriages that overcame hardship to become a fortress. We believe this is what God wants for each marriage and what he wants for you! Don’t miss this encouraging episode!
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Men and women tend to view intimacy differently, so it takes intentionality to understand one another well. We want to help the wives out this week by looking at 3 ways to do intimacy his way. How can you build these into marriage? Today’s episode will help you bring intimacy from idea into action. Tune in to learn more!
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Men and women typically view intimacy differently, and it takes intentionality to understand one another well. We want to help the husbands out this week by looking at 3 ways to do intimacy her way. This episode is worth repeating since it answers one of the toughest parts of marriage. How can you build these into marriage? Today’s episode will help you bring intimacy from idea into action. Tune in to learn more!
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Are you part of a blended family? Having a blended family brings unique challenges and that’s why we’re so thankful for our friends Scott and Vanessa Martindale sharing their wisdom on the topic today! Scott and Vanessa founded Blended Kingdom Families, where they offer practical strategies and Biblical encouragement for blended families. Don’t miss this helpful episode!
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What did you hope for and dream of when you got married? Is your marriage all you dreamed it would be? For so many, it is not. It’s easy to think it might be easier for other couples, but a good marriage takes time, energy, and hard work. There’s hope for your marriage no matter where you are today, because as Dr. Kim shares with us, God hasn’t given up on any marriage!
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Matt Hammitt had a successful music career as frontman of the Grammy and Dove-award-winning band Sanctus Real, but he knew God was calling him away from his career and toward something else. The wake up call happened when he started realizing he was not the man he intended to be. Today Matt opens up about the process of following God’s lead in leading his family well. Tune in for his encouraging story!
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Today we’re answering listener-submitted questions about our Healthy Self / Healthy Marriage series. We have talked about physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health, and they all overlap, so we have questions from every area. There are some really tough ones, so we’re going to do our best to give clear and helpful answers today, as Dr. Kim shares great biblical counsel for the questions sent in from our listeners.
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We get a lot of questions about how to deal with not being “equally yoked” in marriage, so today Dr. Kim shares tips, encouragement plus some do’s and don'ts if you are in this difficult situation. And listen in for a fun new anonymous listener question segment where Dr. Kim drops the mic with his marriage advice for newlyweds!
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Is it abuse or is it bad behavior? Today Dr. David E Clarke joins Dr. Kim to tackle this tough topic with tough love. Dr. David E. Clarke is a Christian psychologist, speaker, and author who guides people toward healthy lives, marriages, and families through his Bible-based teaching and therapy. In today’s episode he explains the difference between abuse and bad behavior, touches on narcissism and gaslighting, and shares an effective, biblical approach for any spouse who is dealing with this situation.
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Last week we talked about what a “one-sided marriage” can look like. It’s not a fun situation, but there are some important and impactful things you can do if that’s where you are. This week, Dr. Kim shares with us five things you can control, even when your marriage feels totally out of control.
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Does your marriage have margin? What do we mean by “margin” in marriage? Dr. Kim has some great insight into what this means and why it matters for your life and your marriage. Listen today to learn practical ways to build and manage margin in your life, and how doing this will help grow your marriage.
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
Are you considering marriage counseling? Have you booked your first appointment and plan to go soon? Or have you tried counseling, but it just didn’t work like you hoped it would? Whatever situation you are in, today’s episode has some tips to help you make the most of it.
Just showing up to the appointment won’t change your marriage. Today Dr. Kim and Christina share some tips that are not common knowledge about how to make counseling work for you and your marriage. Tune in and find out!
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In this episode Dr. Kim has Levi Lusko with him to talk about how to take your life back! Levi is a best selling author and Pastor. Levi leads Fresh Life Church in Montana. He and his lovely wife, Jennie, who was on our podcast a couple months ago, have five children: Alivia, Daisy, Clover, Lennox, and Lenya, who is in heaven.
Levi talks about his new devotional Take Back Your Life: A 40 Day Interactive Guide to Thinking Right So You Can Live Right. It’s the internal battles that so many of us are facing and yet unaware of. Identifying these battles so that we can fight them head on with the power of Christ is the key to becoming the difference-maker that God created us to be.
Levi shares some powerful truths in this episode about what our thinking has to do with our living.
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In this episode Jennie Lusko joins Dr. Kim to talk about her story of coping with the loss of her daughter and how to walk through tragedy with your marriage still intact. Jennie and her husband, Levi, lead Fresh Life Church in Montana. They have five children: Alivia, Daisy, Clover, Lennox, and Lenya, who is in heaven.
5 days after Christmas in 2012 their daughter Lenya died of an asthma attack.
Jennie is bravely sharing her story of loss and struggle with the world in her book that just released The Fight To Flourish. One of the things that we love about this book is that Jennie points out that you don’t have to have it all together for God to work. He just wants you. Grief and struggles are real but the gospel truth is that we can find hope even in the dark and that in the midst of pain, God transforms us.
Jennie shares some powerful truths about walking through struggles and gives us hope and practical examples of how God uses our pain for his glory and our good.
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina wrap up our Top 10 Marriage Mistakes Series by talking about the #1 Marriage Mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages which is a lack of respect.
Do you feel slighted or torn down by your spouse? Do you feel like your dignity is often bruised by how your spouse treats you? Well, we pray this episode can lead you to have some real, honest conversations with your spouse and that it will be the first step towards change for your marriage.
Maybe you are thinking - this isn’t an issue for you. Don’t tune out! A lack of respect is a big issue in many marriages and the most destructive part of this is that most people aren’t aware they are being disrespectful.
Most people aren’t conscious of the fact that they are disrespecting their spouse. There are lots of subtle ways we often treat others with a lack of respect. So tune it to hear how you can grow in this area.
Dr. Kim shares practical advice on how to better respect your spouse.
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In this episode we have Beth McCord joining Dr. Kim to talk about How to Have A Thriving Relationship with an Enneagram 1. For the next several weeks Beth will be breaking down some real, practical tips for being married to each Enneagram number.
If you are married to a 1 this is YOUR episode. But even if you aren’t married to a 1, we know you will find this episode helpful in learning more about your 1 friends. Part of loving people is knowing people. So use this series as a tool to know your people better, understand them deeper, and love them better.
Beth McCord founded ‘Your Enneagram Coach’ and has been an Enneagram speaker, coach and teacher for over 17 years. She is seriously the best of the best so we are so blessed to have her share her time and expertise with us.
Having been trained by the best Enneagram experts and pouring hundreds of hours into advanced certifications, Beth is leading the industry in simplifying the deep truths of the Enneagram from a Biblical perspective. Beth does one-on-one coaching, in-person events and workshops and online courses. She also offers training and support for those interested in becoming an Enneagram coach. So make sure you give her a follow on Instagram @yourennegramcoach and check out her website yourennegramcoach.com for more great info.
We pray you enjoy learning more about 1s in this episode!
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Can we implement boundaries with our spouse? Is it loving? Is it Christ-centered?
Boundaries in marriage may seem counterintuitive to some, but we believe it should be normal and natural in a marriage.
In this episode, Dr. Kim and Christina share about boundaries with your spouse: why you need them, examples of what they might be, and how to implement them. If you have never thought about boundaries with your spouse, we hope this conversation is helpful to you and that it provides you with some great talking points that you and your spouse can explore as you work to have a healthier, happier, holier marriage.
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“You can help your spouse see that they might need to set a boundary with someone by asking them questions.” - Dr. Kim
“You can encourage your spouse to learn about boundaries but also be willing to walk with them through what that will look like.” - Christina
“Always offer your thoughts on your spouse’s situation as a suggestion, not as a solution to their problem.” - Dr. Kim
“You might need to set a boundary with someone if you’re taking on their consequences.” - Christina
“If you’ve never set boundaries before start setting them in safe places first.” - Christina
“Remember that if someone doesn’t respond to the boundaries that you set in a healthy way, you can only control yourself, you can’t control how they will react.” - Dr. Kim
“It sounds silly but role playing setting boundaries with your spouse can be really helpful for them to prepare for those hard conversations.” - Christina
“Let your spouse know that you are not going to stop loving them if they set a healthy boundary with you.” - Christina
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