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Awesome Marriage Podcast

Far too many couples are just surviving their marriage when it was meant to thrive. This is the place for practical tips on how to build an awesome marriage. Our passion is to help you strengthen your marriage. Dr. Kim Kimberling hosts the show. Dr. Kim is the President of Awesome Marriage, has been married for over 50 years, and has been a professional counselor for 40+ years. He is the author of 7 Secrets to An Awesome Marriage ,14 Keys To Lasting Love, and most recently Love, Intimacy and Sex in the Second Half. Dr. Kim will be joined once a month by his wife of 55 years, Nancy Kimberling. He will also host other great guests that will teach and encourage you as you intentionally pursue an awesome marriage. Tune in each week to hear practical advice from Dr. Kim. This podcast is brought to you by the ministry of Awesome Marriage.
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Jun 10, 2025

In this special Father’s Day edition of the podcast, I’m joined by my good friend Larry Hagner. While we’re focusing on fatherhood, this episode is packed with wisdom for every married couple. From building a stronger marriage, to deepening your connection with your kids, to taking care of your own well-being—Larry shares wisdom that every family can benefit from.

 

Episode Highlights:

  • Community and support are essential for fathers.

  • The relationship between husband and father roles is interconnected.

  • Children learn about relationships from their parents' marriage.

  • Legacy is built through the relationships we model.

  • Seeking help and resources is a sign of strength.

  •  Intimacy is rooted in emotional connection.

  • Understanding your partner's needs is crucial for intimacy.

  • Sex is a celebration of a strong emotional bond.

  • Being a spiritual leader starts with self-leadership.

  • Proactive planning can enhance relationships.

  • Navigating modern parenting requires open communication.

  • It's okay not to have all the answers as a parent.

  • Learning together with your children strengthens bonds.

 

Questions for Reflection:

  1. Which cultural pressures do we feel most as parents right now, and how can we support each other in responding to them with biblical wisdom?

  2. Are there ways we’ve let parenting take priority over our marriage lately? What small changes could help us reconnect more intentionally as a couple?

  3. How do we currently approach discipline and spiritual formation—are we united in our values, and where might we need better alignment or communication?

  4. What habits could we build into our week to stay emotionally and spiritually connected—not just as parents, but as husband and wife?
  5. What specific Scriptures or practices can help you stay rooted as a father (parent)?

 

Quotes from Today’s Episode: 

  • "It's important to show children how to love well."

  • "Creating a strong family foundation is essential."

  • "I want to feel connected to her. I love her."

  • "What we plan for, we can execute."

  • "We can't put our head in the sand."

 

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Jun 3, 2025

In this week’s episode, Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy unpack the powerful topic of expectations—focusing on how to clearly express what you need from your spouse. With honest conversation, a willingness to listen, and an open heart, you can transform how you communicate and connect in your relationship.

 

Quotes from this episode:

“I just thought you knew. And when you didn’t I would go along and get resentful”

“We were trying to fit each other in the mold.” 

“Our first big argument scared the heck out of me. My unrealistic expectation was that we would never fight.” 

“It’s a good idea to have a signal or cue so that you make your spouse aware.” 



Questions for Reflection:

What are some expectations—spoken or unspoken—that we each bring into our marriage, and how well do we feel they’ve been understood by each other?

When was a time we misunderstood one another because expectations weren’t clearly communicated? What can we learn from that moment?

How can we create more space in our relationship for honest, judgment-free conversations about what we each need or hope for?

What’s one expectation we can both express more clearly this week—and how can we support each other in meeting it with love and grace?

 

Mentioned in this Episode:

 

  • When you’re frustrated, it’s easy to let words fly out of your mouth. Our new FREE resource: 17 Unintentionally Disrespectful Phrases To Cut Out When Speaking To Your Spouse will help couples choose words that bring life instead of cause chaos.
  • Awesome Marriage has a great Premarital course to help couples have important conversations before their big day. Communicate expectations effectively and be proactive in learning your future spouse with this great course. Already married? Share this course with a couple who’s looking forward to their big day.

May 27, 2025

In today’s episode, we’re diving into a powerful truth: the health of your marriage often comes down to what you choose to focus on. It’s easy to fixate on what’s not working, letting small annoyances grow into mountains of frustration. But what if the key to deeper connection and lasting joy is found in a simple but radical posture—gratitude?

We’ll explore how contentment isn’t resignation, but an intentional choice to see the blessings amidst the imperfections. You’ll hear honest reflections on prioritizing your spouse, the life-giving role of quality time, and how to navigate conflict in ways that build satisfaction, not resentment. Whether you're newly married or decades in, this conversation is a fresh reminder that gratitude, not settling, is the foundation of a thriving Christian marriage.

 

Episode highlights:

Feeling content in marriage is different from settling.

There’s a way to work through conflict that makes both spouses feel more satisfied.

Healthy conflict resolution is one of the strongest predictors of marriage satisfaction. 

Silent discontentment leads to resentment that erodes at the foundation of your marriage. 

The key is finding solutions that honor both spouses perspectives.

 

Questions to reflect:

  1. What are three things about our marriage that you’re grateful for right now?

  2. Are there any small annoyances in our relationship that we’ve let build up? How can we address them gently and respectfully?

  3. How can we be more intentional about choosing each other—especially in the areas where our preferences or personalities differ?

 

Quotes from today’s episode:

“I found myself focusing on the things that weren’t working in my marriage instead of thinking about the things that were.”

“Small annoyances can grow into mountains of frustration”

“Settling comes from a place of resignation”

“Contentment flows from gratitude, an intentional choice we make.”

“Contentment says I see the imperfections in our marriage but I choose to focus on the blessings.”

“Nancy comes before my personal preferences.”

“The key word is choice.”

“Have a posture of gratitude while understanding there is room for growth.”

“Quality time is oxygen for your marriage”

"There’s a way to work through conflict that makes both spouses feel more satisfied."

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May 27, 2025

In today’s episode, we’re diving into a powerful truth: the health of your marriage often comes down to what you choose to focus on. It’s easy to fixate on what’s not working, letting small annoyances grow into mountains of frustration. But what if the key to deeper connection and lasting joy is found in a simple but radical posture—gratitude?

We’ll explore how contentment isn’t resignation, but an intentional choice to see the blessings amidst the imperfections. You’ll hear honest reflections on prioritizing your spouse, the life-giving role of quality time, and how to navigate conflict in ways that build satisfaction, not resentment. Whether you're newly married or decades in, this conversation is a fresh reminder that gratitude, not settling, is the foundation of a thriving Christian marriage.

 

Episode highlights:

Feeling content in marriage is different from settling.

There’s a way to work through conflict that makes both spouses feel more satisfied.

Healthy conflict resolution is one of the strongest predictors of marriage satisfaction. 

Silent discontentment leads to resentment that erodes at the foundation of your marriage. 

The key is finding solutions that honor both spouses perspectives.

 

Questions to reflect:

  1. What are three things about our marriage that you’re grateful for right now?

  2. Are there any small annoyances in our relationship that we’ve let build up? How can we address them gently and respectfully?

  3. How can we be more intentional about choosing each other—especially in the areas where our preferences or personalities differ?

 

Quotes from today’s episode:

“I found myself focusing on the things that weren’t working in my marriage instead of thinking about the things that were.”

“Small annoyances can grow into mountains of frustration”

“Settling comes from a place of resignation”

“Contentment flows from gratitude, an intentional choice we make.”

“Contentment says I see the imperfections in our marriage but I choose to focus on the blessings.”

“Nancy comes before my personal preferences.”

“The key word is choice.”

“Have a posture of gratitude while understanding there is room for growth.”

“Quality time is oxygen for your marriage”

"There’s a way to work through conflict that makes both spouses feel more satisfied."

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May 20, 2025

In this deeply honest and hope-filled conversation, Justin and Trisha Davis open up about their journey through love, ministry, and the real struggles that nearly tore their marriage apart—including infidelity and hidden personal battles. With vulnerability and wisdom, they share how counseling, truth-telling, and taking ownership became the turning points in their healing.

Trisha shares what it looked like to face the pain of betrayal trauma, while Justin reflects on the overwhelming guilt and the hard road to forgiveness. Together, they unpack how our stories, the words spoken over us, and the lies we believe about our worth can deeply affect how we show up in relationships.

But this isn’t just a story about pain—it’s a story about redemption. About the power of grace, the courage it takes to grieve and heal, and the choice to believe that real transformation is possible.

More than behavior change, they point to the heart—the deep, inner work that allows us to discover who we really are and who God has created us to be. Their story is a beautiful reminder that no matter how broken things may feel, healing and hope are always within reach.

 

Episode highlights:

  • Rock bottom is still a solid surface to stand when you come alongside Christ.

  • Intimacy is to be fully known and know that we're fully loved.

  • You never cause someone to have an affair.

  • The truth sets you free because it doesn't give any room for the enemy.

  • Excavating our past helps us understand our present.

  • Redemptive pain can lead to growth.

  • Healthy relationships require vulnerability and trust.

  • Transformation comes from God's grace and our choices.

 

Questions for reflection:

1. What small, everyday choices are we making in our marriage that could either be building connection—or slowly creating distance?

2. Are there areas of hiddenness in our relationship—past wounds, unspoken frustrations, or shame—that we need to bring into the light?

3. What does forgiveness look like in our relationship right now?

 

Quotes from today’s episode:

  • "I had to choose to be a truth teller myself."

  • "You never cause someone to have an affair."

  • "I believed I have to be perfect to be loved."

  • "You can't today, but God still has a plan."

  • "Healing is hard, but then it's worth it."

  • "You are not as stuck as you think you are."

  • "You have to stop gaslighting yourself to grieve."

  • "The heart of the book is about what God can do."



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May 13, 2025

In this special Mother’s Day episode, Dr. Kim Kimberling sits down with bestselling author Melanie Shankle to talk about her latest book, Here Be Dragons. Together, they unpack the complexities of generational trauma and explore what it means to break old cycles in order to build a new legacy of healthy relationships. It’s a conversation that’s honest, refreshing, and full of humor. Whether you're a mother or not, this episode has something for you!

Episode highlights include: 

  • Generational trauma affects emotional growth and relationships.

  • Self-worth can be deeply impacted by parental relationships.

  • Humor can be a coping mechanism for deeper issues.

  • Recognizing unhealthy patterns is crucial for personal growth.

  • Parenting requires intentionality and awareness of past traumas.

  • Melanie embraced her daughter's individuality instead of molding her.

  • Healing can come from being the parent you wished you had.

  • True love is built on friendship and authenticity.

  • Identifying generational trauma requires honest self-assessment.

  • Creating a positive legacy is essential for future generations.

  • God's timing is perfect in relationships.

  • Healing is a journey that takes baby steps.

  • There can be beauty in the ashes of our past.



Couples Conversation Guide: 

 

Main takeaway: 

If you were raised in the midst of unhealthy relationships, take heart—there is hope in Christ for a better future. Healing from past wounds opens the door to the freedom and joy of healthy, life-giving relationships. Along the journey, boundaries will protect your peace, forgiveness will soften your heart, and Christ must remain the foundation of it all.

 

Questions to Discuss: 

What messages or behaviors from our families growing up do we find ourselves repeating—intentionally or not—in our relationship or with our children?

 

When we face conflict or stress, do our reactions feel like our own—or do they echo how our parents or caregivers responded?

 

Are there parts of our past—such as experiences of neglect, abuse, shame, or loss—that we haven’t fully processed and might be impacting how we show up for each other and our children?

 

What do you hope your legacy will be?

 

Quotes from today's episode:

"It's okay to not be perfect."

“You’ve gotta have your truthtellers”

“There are things we may not see as big, but they become big.” 

“I always deflected with humor because I didn’t want to feel anything too deeply.” 

“They’ve achieved all these things that the world says is success, but they’re still empty.” 

“It’s so healing to be the thing in someone else’s life that you wish you would have had in your own.” 

“I didn’t get to have that mother, but I get to be that mother.”

“There is something so beneficial about having someone who’s not your friend, validate some of the experiences you’ve been through.” 



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May 6, 2025

We're excited to launch a brand-new format for the Awesome Marriage Podcast—and with it, introduce a highly requested new co-host: Mrs. Nancy Kimberling! In this episode, Dr. Kim and Nancy Kimberling take you on a heartfelt journey through the story of their relationship, from their blind date to their early years of marriage and parenting, all the way to the joy of becoming great-grandparents.

Their marriage hasn’t been without its challenges, but what’s carried them through it all is a decision they made early on: to keep God at the center of everything. Their wisdom, authenticity, and love for each other will make them one of your favorite couples to learn from.

We pray this episode encourages and blesses your marriage.

 

Episode Takeaways:

No matter how your marriage starts, everything changes when you invite the Lord in. He can transform the direction of your relationship in powerful ways. Building a strong, healthy marriage and family takes intentional effort and regular reflection on what’s working—and what’s not. Join the Kimberlings for an honest, up-close look at every season of marriage.



Questions to Discuss: 

When’s the last time you reflected on where and when your relationship began?

What scripture could you hold on to to help anchor your marriage to Christ? 

What is keeping your marriage from moving in the direction you want it to move?

Quotes:

“We had fights and I thought what is going on, I made a mistake.”

“You didn’t get the picket fence”

“I could have been the fun dad and still done discipline”

“God taught us He cares about everything”

“The more we brought Him into our conversations, our decisions. He was there. To guide us and to help us. 

“It’s saved our marriage.” 

“God was there when they got married, and He’s still there, and they made a covenant before Him and it matters.” 

“We took divorce off the table and we kept it off the table.”

“The most important thing to do in marriage is prayer.”

“It’s so important to have godly couples who are older than you and come alongside of you with godly wisdom.”

“It’s so important to have a village, a tribe, a life group to do life with.”



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Apr 29, 2025

In this heartfelt and honest conversation, Dr. Kim sits down with Jimmy Rollins to unpack the real-life highs and lows of marriage. They dive into why communication, forgiveness, and a strong support system are so crucial—and how those things have played out in their own lives. From the power of simple daily appreciations to creating a safe space for open conversations, Jimmy and Dr. Kim get real about what it takes to build (and rebuild) a strong relationship. They also reflect on how easy it is to chase success in the wrong places—and how to shift the focus back to what matters most. Whether you're in a great season or struggling to find your footing, this episode is full of practical wisdom and encouragement to help you grow and heal in your marriage.

Episode Takeaways:

  • Every marriage is hard and requires effort.

  • Forgiveness is a decision, while reconciliation is a process.

  • Daily appreciation can reignite connection in marriage.

  • Creating a safe space is essential for open communication.

  • Winning at the wrong things can harm your marriage.

  • Community support is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships.

  • It's important to examine your own behavior in marriage.

  • Practical steps can lead to significant changes in relationships.

  • Couples should seek resources and mentorship for guidance.

  • The goal in marriage is to think together, not alike.

 

Questions to Discuss: 

  • Are there areas of your marriage you are trying to ignore?

  • Are there areas you are trying to change your spouse?

  • How would you rate the community you have to support your marriage?

  • What one thing can you say “no” to today, so that you have more margin to say “yes”  in your marriage. 

 

Quotes:

"Forgiveness is a decision."

"Community is what keeps us sober."

"You're not in it by yourself."

"Every marriage is hard."

"The goal is not to think alike."

"The best days are ahead of us."

 

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Apr 22, 2025

Main takeaway: 

Every relationship can be prone to drifting if we aren’t paying attention, and our marriage relationship is no exception. In this episode Dr. Kim and Lindsay talk about how easy it is to begin prioritizing good things over the best things, and how those small compromises lead to big disconnect in marriage.  This episode will help you recognize the signs of drift and begin to fight back against it!

  • Recognizing the signs of drifting is crucial for couples.

  • Prioritizing time together is essential to prevent drifting.

  • Good things can distract from nurturing the marriage.

  • Drifting can happen gradually without realization.

  • Communication and emotional intimacy are key to a strong marriage.

  • Common signs of drifting include changes in communication and intimacy.

  • Non-sexual physical touch can enhance emotional intimacy.

  • It's important to address issues early before they become entrenched patterns.

Questions to Discuss: 

Is your marriage reflected on your calendar?

When’s the last time you encouraged your spouse with your words?

Do you feel pressure to say yes to things outside of your marriage that in turn forces you to say no to things that would grow your marriage?

Are you protecting your energy so that you make the most of the time with your spouse?

What’s one thing you can do today to show your spouse you’re pursuing your marriage?



Quotes:

“You drift without even realizing it.”

“Sometimes good things get in the way of the most important things”

“If you’re drifting away you’re more vulnerable to sin.”

“You have to choose the best over the good.”

“There are things I could have done different.”

“In our culture, life gets in the way and we don’t even think about it.”

“I’ve always got to know that Nancy is a gift, and I have to embrace that gift, and treat her like a gift every day.”

“Drifting happens gradually.”

“Show me where you have your marriage on your calendar.”

“It’s on my calendar now.”

“It’s not going great, but everyone’s just accepting it.”

“You can do something!”

“Make sure you go to somebody who can be objective and is for your marriage.”

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Apr 15, 2025

In this episode of the Awesome Marriage podcast, Lindsay and Dr. Kim discuss the importance of resolving conflict in a faith-centered, biblical way. They debunk the myth that Christian couples do not experience conflict and emphasize that conflict can lead to growth and deeper intimacy in relationships. Learn the biblical principles for handling conflict, practical steps for effective communication, and the significance of humility and selflessness in marriage.

 

Episode highlights include:

  • Timeouts can help manage heated discussions.

  • Keeping short accounts prevents resentment from building up.

  • Using the silent treatment is a form of emotional manipulation.

  • Bringing up past conflicts as weapons is unhealthy for marriage.

  • Involving others in conflicts before addressing them with your spouse can create triangles of conflict.

  • Taking responsibility for one's actions is crucial in resolving conflicts.

  • Prayer is a powerful tool for maintaining a healthy marriage.

  • Biblical principles provide a framework for resolving conflicts effectively.

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: 

You will experience conflict with your spouse, and when you do it’s important to keep the Lord at the center of the conversation. Remember your spouse is not your enemy and words shouldn’t be your weapon. Acknowledge your part and be quick to forgive. 

 

Questions to Discuss: 

  • Which area of conflict resolution do you need the most help in- bringing up the past, resorting to the silent treatment, or taking responsibility for your part?

  • Have you brought that struggle to the Lord and invited Him into the conflict in your marriage? 

 

QUOTES 

  • Conflict is normal and if done right can help our marriage grow.

  • Even though we are both seeking to follow Christ, we are human.

  • If your kids see you doing that, they want that, and it gives them security.

  • Having a marriage that’s not life-giving, can drain you so quick. It zaps your energy.

  • When a couple is able to get past the things keeping them at odds, it goes beyond the marriage too.

  • I can’t meet all her needs, but God can.

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Apr 8, 2025

In this conversation, Lindsay and Dr. Kim discuss the concept of cultivating a servant-hearted marriage, emphasizing the importance of serving one another selflessly. They explore how serving each other can create a loving and respectful environment, reflecting God's design for marriage. The discussion includes practical ways to serve, the impact of a servant-hearted marriage on family dynamics, and the barriers that can hinder this service. They also highlight the significance of self-examination and seeking help when facing challenges in marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include:

  • Cultivating a servant-hearted marriage requires daily choices to act in love.

  • Children benefit from witnessing a servant-hearted marriage.

  • A servant-hearted marriage reflects God's design and glorifies Him.

  • Serving one another should come from the heart, not a checklist. Counseling can help break negative patterns in marriage.

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: 

God’s design for marriage goes far beyond just coexisting with your spouse. Serving one another, respecting their wants and needs, and creating a loving relationship reflect the heart of the Lord and His design for the marriage relationship. 

 

Questions to Discuss: 

What stands in the way of you selflessly serving your spouse?

Has your relationship with your spouse become transactional?

 

QUOTES 

  • "Serving is saying, sure, I can do that."

  • "Don't stay stuck there."

  • "You don't just grow better."

  • "God sees you."

  • "It's gonna make a difference."

  • “If your kids see you doing that, they want that, and it gives them security.”

  • “Having a marriage that’s not life-giving, can drain you so quick. It zaps your energy.”

  • “When a couple is able to get past the things keeping them at odds, it goes beyond the marriage too.”

  • “I can’t meet all her needs, but God can.”

 

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Apr 1, 2025

Dr. Kim and Lindsay dive into a heartfelt conversation about the power of communication and unity in parenting. They talk about why it’s so important for parents to be on the same page when it comes to raising their kids, facing challenges as a team, and setting a strong example through their own decision-making. Along the way, they explore how to navigate differences in parenting styles, adapt to the ever-changing needs of children as they grow, and lean on prayer for guidance in tough decisions.

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include: 

  • It's unrealistic to agree on everything in parenting.

  • Children benefit from the security of united parents.

  • It's important to filter parenting advice based on core beliefs.

  • When you disagree, and you will, model respect for your spouse.

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: 

Do you and your spouse struggle to stay on the same page while parenting your children? Are you handling disagreements in a way that adds to the chaos? In this episode, Dr. Kim and Lindsay discuss how to navigate the hard conversations, the power of differing perspectives, and the benefit of a strong relationship as an example to your children. 

 

Questions to Discuss: 

Are you and your spouse allowing parenting to divide or unite?

In what ways can you better support your spouse in parenting?

Have you and your spouse set aside time to discuss the goals you have for your children? 

 

Quotes From this Episode:

“There's no shortcut to communication."

"Agreeing on core values is essential."

"Set aside time to discuss your challenges."

"Kids need security and stability."

 

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Mar 28, 2025

Dr. Kim and Camden Morgante explore how purity culture has shaped individuals' beliefs and relationships. They break down five harmful myths it promotes and examine how these misconceptions can impact a couple's sex life after marriage — including the unrealistic expectation of a fairy tale marriage as a reward for remaining pure. Dr. Morgante offers guidance to help couples move beyond the shame and guilt tied to these teachings, so they can embrace the beautiful gift God designed for marriage.

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights:

Our God isn’t a transactional god.

Purity culture has been compared to the sexual prosperity gospel. Many individuals only hear negative messages about sex before marriage.

Reclaiming the beauty of sex involves holistic healing of mind, body, heart, and soul.

Teaching children about sexuality should focus on values rather than rules.

Purity culture can lead to feelings of being 'damaged goods'.

Myths of purity culture can cause disillusionment in faith.

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: 

Our motivation for purity before marriage can serve as a stumbling block to intimacy within our marriage. Purity before and within marriage is important, but our relationship with God isn’t transactional. We are missing the point of God’s heart for sex when the focus is on a reward. 

Questions to Discuss: 

How was the conversation surrounding sex approached in your youth?

Looking back, did you desire to stay pure before marriage and what was your motivation for purity?

Did you believe one of the “5 lies” Dr. Morgante mentioned in this episode?

What do you think Dr. Morgante means when she says that the lies of purity culture don’t just live in our minds, they live in our bodies? 

 

QUOTES:

  • These myths didn’t just live in our minds, they lived in our bodies. -Dr. Camden Morgante

  • When you try to control people, it’s really easy for shame and fear to become part of it.

  • The end result may be good, but the way you get there can harm people.

  • Shame and guilt is not from God.

  • God wants us to experience healing.

  • We have to have a deeper why for it.

 

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Mar 25, 2025

Porn is doing real damage to too many Christians today. This issue is affecting a huge percentage of our brothers and sisters in Christ, and the shame that often prevents us from talking about it leads to secrecy and hinders healing. 

We’re thankful that Nick Stumbo is on the podcast today. Nick is a pastor and the director of Pure Desire Ministries. Along with Barna, Pure Desire recently conducted a study on the impact porn is currently having on the Church in America. Their findings demonstrate how crucial it is to open the conversation about porn among Christians to help them find healing from its destructive impact.  

 

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include: 

  • What the stats tell us about how many Christians are viewing porn regularly

  • Why talking openly is ESSENTIAL for healing 

  • Exposing the progressive nature of porn addiction 

  • How to make church a place where openness is possible 

  • What to do if your church is not a safe place to confess 

  • How to prepare your kids to handle porn exposure safely 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: The enemy would love for you to stay stuck in secrecy and shame. Jesus wants to bring freedom and healing. Take a step toward freedom today. 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. Do you have a safe friend you can be honest with? Are you practicing confession and accountability in your life? What can you do to help cultivate an honest, godly friendship today? 

  2. What is God prompting you need to take responsibility for so that you can grow closer to Him and your spouse today? 

 

QUOTES 

  • “Most people won’t be surprised to know that the numbers are continuing to grow.” - Nick Stumbo 

  • “To my knowledge, it’s the first time in history that the majority of practicing Christians say they are doing pornography.” - Nick Stumbo 

  • “84% of people said there is NO ONE helping them avoid pornography.” - Nick Stumbo 

  • “If shame and secrecy are the sickness, then openness, community and love are what healing is all about.” - Nick Stumbo 

  • “By the time it blows up a marriage, the help was needed 5-10 years ago.” - Nick Stumbo

  • “You’re not alone. There is help and hope for you. - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “True accountability is about me learning to be responsible for my own actions and behaviors.” - Nick Stumbo 

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Mar 18, 2025

Husbands, have you ever felt like your wife expects too much from you? Wives, have you checked whether your expectations are realistic? 

Expectations in marriage can be a difficult topic, and they’re a very common source of marriage tension. Which is why today, we want to help break down misunderstandings around spouse expectations today, so that you can experience better connection and more joy in your marriage.  

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include: 

  • Wives may struggle to articulate their needs clearly.

  • Non-sexual affection enhances sexual intimacy.

  • Emotional connection is crucial for a healthy marriage.

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: Expectations don't have to be a source of conflict. There's a way to communicate and connect the different wants and needs you have in marriage.

Questions to Discuss: 

  • Are there any expectations that you feel are “too much”?

  • Husbands, do you need more clarity from your wife about her expectations?

  • How would you rate how well you actively listen and engage with your spouse?

  • What would make you a more intentional listener? (time of day, location of conversation, free of distractions, etc.)

  • When was the last time you checked in with your spouse about the overall health of your marriage relationship.

  • What are the priorities in your marriage? Do you know your spouse’s priorities? How do they compare?

QUOTES 

  •  Wives want to be part of the decision making and feel like it’s a true partnership.

  • The better the non sexual connection and intimacy is, the better the physical connection and intimacy will be. 

  • Most men weren’t raised to be emotionally expressive.

  • You don’t have to solve everything. 

  • When I stopped trying to fix it, I heard her better.

  • A wife wants to feel prioritized.

  • Learning to say things in a way your spouse can hear takes practice.

  • You have to accept that God made us different as husband and wife.

  • The small consistent things you do matter more than perfection.

 

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Mar 4, 2025

 Are you experiencing the power of prayer in your marriage? Prayer is an incredibly powerful habit for your marriages. In fact, research shows that 99% of couples who pray together stay together.  

Prayer can be so simple, but the reality is that most couples do not make prayer a regular part of their marriage. Today we’re talking about how to practically overcome the obstacles that keep you from praying together so you can make prayer a regular part of your marriage. 

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 Episode highlights include: 

  • The #1 marriage-building habit - and why most couples don’t do it

  • What makes prayer so powerful for marriage 

  • The sneaky prayer pitfalls to avoid 

  • How to overcome the common obstacles that keep couples from praying together 

  • The do-able DOs to make prayer part of your marriage 

 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: Prayer is so powerful that the enemy will try anything to keep you from making it part of your marriage. Don’t let that happen. 

 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. What’s the primary obstacle that prevents you from praying regularly with your spouse? 

  2. What would help the two of you to make prayer a regular part of your day together? 

 

QUOTES 

  • “When you’re praying together, you’re putting God first. That’s where he wants to be.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “It’s probably one of the main things that the enemy doesn’t want couples to do.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “When I can get a couple to pray together, the counseling process goes faster, and the marriage gets better.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “Don’t force praying together in a certain way.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

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Feb 25, 2025
When Chad & Adaeze Brinkman met while serving together on the worship team at church, they didn’t expect that they would one day get married. They also didn’t expect what it would be like to navigate a new marriage while facing cultural pressures as an interracial couple. But learning to have the hard conversations about their differences ultimately led to deeper intimacy.
Today, we’re delighted to have Chad and Adaeze on the podcast to share their story, and equip you with practical ways to value different perspectives as a reflection of God’s design.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include: 

  • Why listening to real stories of different experiences matters 

  • How to become aware of your habitual assumptions 

  • Realistic first steps to grow your perspective

  • Why addressing our perspective on race is essential for the church 

  • The relationship-building process of navigating tough conversations 

  • How to repair the relationship after you’ve hurt your spouse 

 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: Not every couple is in an interracial marriage, but every couple deals with differences. We get a bigger picture of God’s design when we stop fighting our differences and learn to value them. 

 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. What have you learned by listening to the diverse perspectives of others in your life? 

  2. Are there places in your life where you encounter differing life stories and experiences among fellow Christian believers? 

  3. How can you make room in your life for diversity that reflects the vision of God’s kingdom? 

 

QUOTES 

  • “We will never know everything there is to know about the Lord, but the beauty is in the pursuit, the relationship and the discovery.” - Adaeze Brinkman

  • “It’s a very humbling lesson to let your spouse have their own perspective, and give room for that to be different than yours.” - Adaeze Brinkman

  • “Everyone does what they do for a reason. They think what they think for a reason.” - Chad Brinkman

  • When we dig in we realize how much we have in common.” - Chad Brinkman

  • “When Jesus returns, it’s not going to be a ‘White Heaven’ or a ‘Black Heaven.’ It’s a diverse Heaven.” - Chad Brinkman

  • “Listening is the most important thing.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “Are you growing? A beautiful way to do that is to rub shoulders with people that are different from you.”  - Adaeze Brinkman

  • “The enemy knows there’s so much power in unity and diversity.”   - Adaeze Brinkman

 

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Feb 18, 2025

Guys, have you lost the spark in your sex drive? If that’s you, you are not alone! Libido is a complex issue. There are so many reasons that male libido can falter, from stress and physical factors, to relational issues in your marriage. But for every factor, there are also solutions. 

Learn the steps to uncover what’s driving your lack of drive so you can revive the desire. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

Episode highlights include: 

  • The physical, mental and emotional health factors that affect sex drive 

  • Tips to unpack the issue together in healthy ways 

  • Is there a place for medical advice in understanding libido?

  • Challenging the cultural myths about aging and sex drive 

  • Steps to starting a helpful conversation about improving libido 

 

Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!

 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here

 

Couples Conversation Guide 

Main takeaway: Husbands, have you lost the passion? Physical, mental and emotional factors all impact your sex drive but you can reignite the spark and enjoy God’s gift of sex in marriage. 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. Dr. Kim said that things like depression, anxiety, financial stress, relational tension or past trauma can reduce libido. Are any of those affecting your sexual relationship today?

  2. What would you like to experience more of together in your sexual relationship? 

  3. What can you do together to make that happen? 

 

QUOTES 

  • “If you’ve got problems from the past that affect you in the present, you need someone to help you work through that.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling

  • “When the assumptions got on the table, we realized they were wrong. That made such a huge difference.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling

  • “Low libido doesn’t indicate cheating or porn addiction, it’s usually more complex than that.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling

  • The longer you let it go, the worse it’s going to get. - Dr. Kim Kimberling

 

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Feb 11, 2025

Wives, do you seem to be less interested in sex? It’s a common issue, and so many factors affect female libido, from hormonal changes, and emotional disconnection to just plain busyness.

Whether stemming from physical health or the health of your marriage, there are many ways you and your spouse can work together to bring back the passion and renew your sex drive. 

 

Today, we’re troubleshooting the issue with tips for wives with low libido, so you can bring back the passion in your marriage. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include: 

  • Tips on healthy communication about sex drive issues 

  • Understanding the effects of stress on a wife’s sex drive 

  • How to work together to share the mental load

  • Is lack of sex drive a sign of infidelity? 

  • Building empathy to help reconnect and rekindle her passion 

 

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*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here

 

Couples Conversation Guide 

Main takeaway: Ladies, don’t let your sex life struggle! Learn to unpack the factors that impact your sex drive, so you can troubleshoot and get things back on track. 

 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. Are there any factors that you know are affecting your libido in this season? (Stress, exhaustion, depression, peri menopause, postpartum, etc.)

  2. Are there any relationship factors affecting your interest in sex right now? 

  3. What would help you to mitigate the effects of those things today?   

 

QUOTES 

  • “For guys, it’s about how do I meet her where she is right now?” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “If there’s not full trust, it’s going to be very hard to be interested in sex.” - Lindsay Few 

  • “It’s ok to talk about sex.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “There are so many things that typically the wife does by default. Look at what is weighing on you that keeps you from even having time to be interested in sex.” - Lindsay Few 

  • “The really good marriages I see are the ones committed to working through things. It doesn’t come easy, but they’re committed to work through it.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

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Feb 7, 2025

Is technology bringing you closer together, or leading to disconnection?  

Tech is hitting marriages hard today. Yet research shows that marriage can provide a huge boost to personal happiness. Today’s guest, Arlene Pellicane, has written several books on how technology is impacting relationships, and today she shares tech habits that will help you and your marriage to thrive.    

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include:  

  • The 1 habit that guarantees marriage success 99% of the Time

  • Easy ways to declutter your digital life for deeper connection

  • How modern technology is changing the way we love.

  • Are married people happier? Research tells the truth… 

  • Break the tech spell: Tips for parenting in a digital age

 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here

 

QUOTES 

  • “If we seek God and His guidance, He’s always going to have an answer.” Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “Is technology bringing you closer together? Or causing you to grow farther apart.”  - Arlene Pellicane 

  • “We're missing all these little times to connect. That’s why you feel disconnected.”  - Arlene Pellicane 

  • “You have to prepare to be unpopular, because as a parent, it’s your job to protect your child.”  - Arlene Pellicane 

 

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Feb 4, 2025

Your marriage doesn’t have to grow old just because you do. The second half of marriage does not have to grow stale - make plans to make these your best years yet! Listen today to learn how. 

 

Whether you’re looking ahead to the second half of marriage, or you’re already there, it is a great time to improve and grow. In today’s episode, Dr. Kim shares tips to avoiding complacency and embracing the best version of your marriage in the second half. 

 

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include: 

  • How to jumpstart marriage growth if you’ve gotten complacent 

  • Practical steps to do the second half of marriage well - no matter where you are today 

  • Tips to bring back the fun and passion later in marriage

  • Simple conversation starters to help you get going 

  • How to find a mentor couple to help your marriage 

 

Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!

 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

 

Main takeaway: The second half of marriage does not have to grow stale - evaluate where you’d like to see your marriage go from here, then take the steps to get there. 

 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. What do you envision for your marriage in the next 5 years? 10 years? 20? 

  2. What is one thing you can start doing today to move you toward that vision? 

  3. What is one thing you need to stop doing today to move in that direction? 

 

QUOTES 

  • If your marriage has been teetering, it can fall at this stage. - Lindsay Few

  • Nothing is worse than feeling lonely when your spouse is with you. - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • We’d seen couples who were older than us disconnect. We didn’t want that to happen.  - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • It’s never too late. But the earlier you start, the easier the transition will be. - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • If you’re one step ahead, you can help somebody. - Lindsay Few 

 

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Jan 28, 2025

Your marriage should be a blessing to you and your spouse, but it does not need to stop there - a healthy marriage can also bless the world around you! Where is your marriage today? Are you and your spouse a healthy team? Are you healthy enough to pour into those around you?

Today we are delighted to welcome Dedric and Krystal Polite to the podcast today to share their unique perspective on finding a vision for their marriage that is making a mark on the world. 

Listen for encouragement on enacting a Godly marriage vision this year!

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!

 

Episode highlights include: 

  • Breaking the cycle of generational poverty 

  • Developing a life aligned with your values 

  • Tips to date intentionally so that you find a spouse you can partner with 

  • How to make your marriage a blessing to the world around you 

  • Making your spouse your teammate - not your opponent 

 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: Make your marriage strong and healthy so it can become a vehicle for blessing your spouse, family and your community. 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. What ways could you intentionally bless others as a couple? 

  2. Think about the legacy you want to create as a couple. How would you define your marriage vision?  

 

QUOTES 

  •  “Never tie your self worth into your net worth.” - Krystal Polite 

  • “We pray together, we stay together, we work together.”  - Krystal Polite

  • “We lean on each other’s strengths.” - Dedric Polite 

  • Faith keeps us steady when the road gets rough.” - Krystal Polite

  • “Our purpose isn’t just to make it - we’re here to make a difference.”  - Krystal Polite

  • “It starts and ends with effective communication.” - Dedric Polite 

 

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Jan 21, 2025

Spiritual intimacy is something couples want, but don’t really know how to get there. We can tend to believe a common myth that it should come naturally without any effort, plus it can seem awkward to pray together or pursue spiritual growth. So how can spiritual intimacy be a realistic part of marriage? 

Today we’re talking about tangible ways to grow in spiritual intimacy with your spouse - and what NOT to do. 

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!

 

Episode highlights include: 

  • Why spirituality matters in marriage

  • Common mistakes couples make with spiritual intimacy 

  • Can the wife initiate the conversation about spiritual intimacy, or does the husband need to do that as a spiritual leader? 

  • Practical steps to growing together spiritually 

  • Tips to grow your marriage to become a light and example 

 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: The spiritual domain is integral to our health and wellbeing. Sharing it with your spouse is an essential part of intimacy in marriage.

 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. What practices / spiritual disciplines have been most impactful for your personal spiritual growth? 

  2. What is one spiritual practice you would like to share with your spouse? 

 

QUOTES 

  • “If you’re not able to share about spirituality with your spouse, it diminishes your ability to be intimate and know one another.” - Lindsay Few 

  • “We wish we could have an awesome marriage without trying. But it does take effort.” - Lindsay Few 

  • “When you have an expectation, you’ve got to share it with your spouse. Then they can let you know whether it’s realistic or not.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “Most guys feel inadequate to be a spiritual leader. But God will equip you: It’s not rocket science, it’s just being intentional.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “Most wives just want to see an intentional effort. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling

  • “Any time in the Word is better than none.” - Lindsay Few 

 

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Jan 14, 2025

It's a new year, but it's still the same you and your spouse ... so how can you make your marriage the best it can be in the new year? With intentionality, you can break out of the habits that are not serving your marriage well, and build new ones that work better. 

Listen today for the tips and tools to help! We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!

 

Episode highlights include: 

  • Signs that your marriage needs a “reset”

  • What NOT to do during a reset 

  • Where to start if you want a “reset” but you’re not sure what to do 

  • Tips to make sure you don’t fall back into the same old patterns? 

 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: Now is a great time to check in, take stock, and prioritize the healthy habits to make your marriage strong. Listen, then start taking steps today! 

 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. What do you want your marriage to look like in the new year? 

  2. What do you envision that’s different from how things are now? 

  3. Brainstorm 3-5 steps you want to build into your marriage this year. 

  4. Where will you start? 

 

QUOTES 

  • “I think we need this every year.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “Don’t just see the red flags and ignore them.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • If we’re intentional in the New Year, we can really close the gap between what we have and what we want our marriage to look like.” - Lindsay Few  

  • “You don’t have to agree on everything, but you have to be willing to compromise.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • “God is for our marriage. He is for us. When we invite Him into the process it really changes things.“ -  Lindsay Few  

  • “Sometimes we have to sacrifice good things for what’s most important.” - Lindsay Few  

 

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Dec 17, 2024

 

Obedience to the ways of Jesus can sound closed-minded or restrictive, but in today’s episode we’re breaking down that myth for good.

 

We’re delighted to have pastor Rich Villodas join us today to talk about what it looks like to live on the Narrow Path Jesus taught about, and why it creates the most expansive life you could have. Learn what cultural Christianity gets wrong about the way of Jesus and how to walk the narrow way for a more joy filled life and marriage. 

 

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include: 

  • Signs you’re not living out the Narrow Path Jesus taught about 

  • Learn the damaging beliefs of cultural Christianity that don’t align with Jesus’ teaching 

  • Ways that shallow faith shows up in marriage - and what to do about it 

  • Internal shifts to help you value what matters to your spouse 

 

Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!

 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

 

Main takeaway:  Dying to self to live in Christ is the path to a full and expansive life. What would it look like to live this out in your marriage today? 

 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. How are you doing with each of the cultural values of successism, moralism, and hyperindividualism in your marriage? 

  2. What growth step would help you follow the narrow way of Jesus more closely with each of those? 



QUOTES 

  • “It seems restrictive on the outside, but ultimately following Jesus leads to greater spaciousness in our lives.” - Rich Villodas  

  • “Is it possible for Christians to be on the ‘broad path’? Absolutely. Which is why the Sermon on the Mount is a wake up call to the kind of discipleship that Jesus is calling us to live into.” -  Rich Villodas  

  • “Jesus is saying, ‘the kind of life you were designed for is found in my teachings.’” -  Rich Villodas 

  • “We might be on the broad path if we are organizing our lives according to worldly notions of what success is.” -  Rich Villodas

  • “The paradox of the Christian life is that to die in Christ is to actually come alive and truly live.” - Rich Villodas



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