We are doing a series on the Top 8 Marriage Issues in 2019. These 8 issues are the top 8 issues that Dr. Kim has seen this year with marriages. We will be breaking them down starting with #8 and working our way towards the #1 marriage issue.
In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about the 5th biggest issue in marriages this year which is: traumatic situations.
Because we live in a broken and fallen world, so many couples end up facing traumatic situations. Death of a child, abuse, suicide of someone close to you, assault, a life-changing diagnosis, war, natural disaster, the list goes on. Often times when faced with traumatic situations, naturally, couples struggle to cope and many end up losing their marriage over it. But does a life changing event have to mean the end of your marriage?
Dr. Kim has walked alongside countless couples through life-changing events. A traumatic situation does not have to mean the end of your marriage.
In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina share about how to cope with life-altering and traumatic situations in a way that builds up your marriage instead of tearing it down.
“A traumatic situation is anytime life goes differently than we thought it would.” - Dr. Kim
“Your grief might look different from your spouse’s grief and that’s ok.” - Dr. Kim
“Nobody can’t define what grief looks like for you.” - Dr. Kim
“Allow your spouse to express whatever emotions they feel when they’re grieving.” - Dr. Kim
“Put God in the middle of your grief.” - Dr. Kim
“Be present with your spouse when they’re grieving, don’t put pressure on yourself to say the right thing, your presence alone will help them.” - Dr. Kim
“Be honest when you’re communicating with your spouse about your grief.” - Christina
“Blaming is not going to heal anything.” - Dr. Kim
“After a life-altering event you have to find a new normal.” - Christina