Can we implement boundaries with our spouse? Is it loving? Is it Christ-centered?
Boundaries in marriage may seem counterintuitive to some, but we believe it should be normal and natural in a marriage.
In this episode, Dr. Kim and Christina share about boundaries with your spouse: why you need them, examples of what they might be, and how to implement them. If you have never thought about boundaries with your spouse, we hope this conversation is helpful to you and that it provides you with some great talking points that you and your spouse can explore as you work to have a healthier, happier, holier marriage.
“Boundaries with your spouse can actually draw you closer together.” - Dr. Kim
“Having boundaries in your marriage isn’t meant to be a punishment, it’s meant to be freeing for you and your spouse.” - Christina
“You can’t have true intimacy without boundaries.” - Christina
“I tell singles that I counsel, you have to show the person you’re dating the real you at some point during the dating process.” - Dr. Kim
“It’s unloving and unwise to not set boundaries where they need to be.” - Christina
“To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless.” - Dr. Henry Cloud & John Townsend (from Boundaries book)
“It’s so important to talk about boundaries in your sexual relationship.” - Dr. Kim
“Boundaries helps you understand your marriage relationship better.” - Dr. Kim
“Your spouse’s comfortability should matter to you more than what you want for yourself.” - Christina
“Boundaries are about controlling the only person that you can control: yourself.” - Christina
“Don’t set boundaries to manipulate or control your spouse.” - Dr. Kim
“If you’re in an unhealthy relationship, be prepared for setting boundaries to cause a lot of conflict.” - Dr. Kim
“A boundary without consequences isn’t a boundary at all.” - Christina