In this heartfelt and honest conversation, Dr. Kim sits down with Jimmy Rollins to unpack the real-life highs and lows of marriage. They dive into why communication, forgiveness, and a strong support system are so crucial—and how those things have played out in their own lives. From the power of simple daily appreciations to creating a safe space for open conversations, Jimmy and Dr. Kim get real about what it takes to build (and rebuild) a strong relationship. They also reflect on how easy it is to chase success in the wrong places—and how to shift the focus back to what matters most. Whether you're in a great season or struggling to find your footing, this episode is full of practical wisdom and encouragement to help you grow and heal in your marriage.
Every marriage is hard and requires effort.
Forgiveness is a decision, while reconciliation is a process.
Daily appreciation can reignite connection in marriage.
Creating a safe space is essential for open communication.
Winning at the wrong things can harm your marriage.
Community support is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships.
It's important to examine your own behavior in marriage.
Practical steps can lead to significant changes in relationships.
Couples should seek resources and mentorship for guidance.
The goal in marriage is to think together, not alike.
Are there areas of your marriage you are trying to ignore?
Are there areas you are trying to change your spouse?
How would you rate the community you have to support your marriage?
What one thing can you say “no” to today, so that you have more margin to say “yes” in your marriage.
"Forgiveness is a decision."
"Community is what keeps us sober."
"You're not in it by yourself."
"Every marriage is hard."
"The goal is not to think alike."
"The best days are ahead of us."
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
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Main takeaway:
Every relationship can be prone to drifting if we aren’t paying attention, and our marriage relationship is no exception. In this episode Dr. Kim and Lindsay talk about how easy it is to begin prioritizing good things over the best things, and how those small compromises lead to big disconnect in marriage. This episode will help you recognize the signs of drift and begin to fight back against it!
Recognizing the signs of drifting is crucial for couples.
Prioritizing time together is essential to prevent drifting.
Good things can distract from nurturing the marriage.
Drifting can happen gradually without realization.
Communication and emotional intimacy are key to a strong marriage.
Common signs of drifting include changes in communication and intimacy.
Non-sexual physical touch can enhance emotional intimacy.
It's important to address issues early before they become entrenched patterns.
Questions to Discuss:
Is your marriage reflected on your calendar?
When’s the last time you encouraged your spouse with your words?
Do you feel pressure to say yes to things outside of your marriage that in turn forces you to say no to things that would grow your marriage?
Are you protecting your energy so that you make the most of the time with your spouse?
What’s one thing you can do today to show your spouse you’re pursuing your marriage?
Quotes:
“You drift without even realizing it.”
“Sometimes good things get in the way of the most important things”
“If you’re drifting away you’re more vulnerable to sin.”
“You have to choose the best over the good.”
“There are things I could have done different.”
“In our culture, life gets in the way and we don’t even think about it.”
“I’ve always got to know that Nancy is a gift, and I have to embrace that gift, and treat her like a gift every day.”
“Drifting happens gradually.”
“Show me where you have your marriage on your calendar.”
“It’s on my calendar now.”
“It’s not going great, but everyone’s just accepting it.”
“You can do something!”
“Make sure you go to somebody who can be objective and is for your marriage.”
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Use our FREE Weekly Marriage Check Up Guide to help keep the connection and fight the drift!
Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word as you fight the drift in marriage? Try this Awesome Marriage YouVersion reading plan: Pursuing Your Spouse in Marriage Pt 1
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In this episode of the Awesome Marriage podcast, Lindsay and Dr. Kim discuss the importance of resolving conflict in a faith-centered, biblical way. They debunk the myth that Christian couples do not experience conflict and emphasize that conflict can lead to growth and deeper intimacy in relationships. Learn the biblical principles for handling conflict, practical steps for effective communication, and the significance of humility and selflessness in marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Timeouts can help manage heated discussions.
Keeping short accounts prevents resentment from building up.
Using the silent treatment is a form of emotional manipulation.
Bringing up past conflicts as weapons is unhealthy for marriage.
Involving others in conflicts before addressing them with your spouse can create triangles of conflict.
Taking responsibility for one's actions is crucial in resolving conflicts.
Prayer is a powerful tool for maintaining a healthy marriage.
Biblical principles provide a framework for resolving conflicts effectively.
Couples Conversation Guide:
Main takeaway:
You will experience conflict with your spouse, and when you do it’s important to keep the Lord at the center of the conversation. Remember your spouse is not your enemy and words shouldn’t be your weapon. Acknowledge your part and be quick to forgive.
Questions to Discuss:
Which area of conflict resolution do you need the most help in- bringing up the past, resorting to the silent treatment, or taking responsibility for your part?
Have you brought that struggle to the Lord and invited Him into the conflict in your marriage?
QUOTES
Conflict is normal and if done right can help our marriage grow.
Even though we are both seeking to follow Christ, we are human.
If your kids see you doing that, they want that, and it gives them security.
Having a marriage that’s not life-giving, can drain you so quick. It zaps your energy.
When a couple is able to get past the things keeping them at odds, it goes beyond the marriage too.
I can’t meet all her needs, but God can.
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Use our Marriage Boundaries Workbook to navigate tough conversations and hard seasons.
Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word as you navigate conflict? Try this Awesome Marriage YouVersion reading plan: Fighting for Your Marriage
If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !
Did you know we have resources just for handling conflict in your marriage?- check those out HERE.
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In this conversation, Lindsay and Dr. Kim discuss the concept of cultivating a servant-hearted marriage, emphasizing the importance of serving one another selflessly. They explore how serving each other can create a loving and respectful environment, reflecting God's design for marriage. The discussion includes practical ways to serve, the impact of a servant-hearted marriage on family dynamics, and the barriers that can hinder this service. They also highlight the significance of self-examination and seeking help when facing challenges in marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Cultivating a servant-hearted marriage requires daily choices to act in love.
Children benefit from witnessing a servant-hearted marriage.
A servant-hearted marriage reflects God's design and glorifies Him.
Serving one another should come from the heart, not a checklist. Counseling can help break negative patterns in marriage.
Couples Conversation Guide:
Main takeaway:
God’s design for marriage goes far beyond just coexisting with your spouse. Serving one another, respecting their wants and needs, and creating a loving relationship reflect the heart of the Lord and His design for the marriage relationship.
Questions to Discuss:
What stands in the way of you selflessly serving your spouse?
Has your relationship with your spouse become transactional?
QUOTES
"Serving is saying, sure, I can do that."
"Don't stay stuck there."
"You don't just grow better."
"God sees you."
"It's gonna make a difference."
“If your kids see you doing that, they want that, and it gives them security.”
“Having a marriage that’s not life-giving, can drain you so quick. It zaps your energy.”
“When a couple is able to get past the things keeping them at odds, it goes beyond the marriage too.”
“I can’t meet all her needs, but God can.”
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Use our Marriage Boundaries Workbook to navigate tough conversations and hard seasons.
Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word as you navigate boundaries? Try this Awesome Marriage YouVersion reading plan: Boundaries in Marriage
If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !
Did you know we have resources for families- check those out HERE.
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Dr. Kim and Lindsay dive into a heartfelt conversation about the power of communication and unity in parenting. They talk about why it’s so important for parents to be on the same page when it comes to raising their kids, facing challenges as a team, and setting a strong example through their own decision-making. Along the way, they explore how to navigate differences in parenting styles, adapt to the ever-changing needs of children as they grow, and lean on prayer for guidance in tough decisions.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
It's unrealistic to agree on everything in parenting.
Children benefit from the security of united parents.
It's important to filter parenting advice based on core beliefs.
When you disagree, and you will, model respect for your spouse.
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
Couples Conversation Guide:
Main takeaway:
Do you and your spouse struggle to stay on the same page while parenting your children? Are you handling disagreements in a way that adds to the chaos? In this episode, Dr. Kim and Lindsay discuss how to navigate the hard conversations, the power of differing perspectives, and the benefit of a strong relationship as an example to your children.
Questions to Discuss:
Are you and your spouse allowing parenting to divide or unite?
In what ways can you better support your spouse in parenting?
Have you and your spouse set aside time to discuss the goals you have for your children?
Quotes From this Episode:
“There's no shortcut to communication."
"Agreeing on core values is essential."
"Set aside time to discuss your challenges."
"Kids need security and stability."
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Use our Marriage Boundaries Workbook to navigate tough conversations and hard seasons.
Don’t let porn teach your children about sex. Get equipped to have “The Sex Talk”
If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !
Did you know we have resources for families- check those out HERE.
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