Episode highlights include:
Why listening to real stories of different experiences matters
How to become aware of your habitual assumptions
Realistic first steps to grow your perspective
Why addressing our perspective on race is essential for the church
The relationship-building process of navigating tough conversations
How to repair the relationship after you’ve hurt your spouse
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
Couples Conversation Guide:
Main takeaway: Not every couple is in an interracial marriage, but every couple deals with differences. We get a bigger picture of God’s design when we stop fighting our differences and learn to value them.
Questions to Discuss:
What have you learned by listening to the diverse perspectives of others in your life?
Are there places in your life where you encounter differing life stories and experiences among fellow Christian believers?
How can you make room in your life for diversity that reflects the vision of God’s kingdom?
QUOTES
“We will never know everything there is to know about the Lord, but the beauty is in the pursuit, the relationship and the discovery.” - Adaeze Brinkman
“It’s a very humbling lesson to let your spouse have their own perspective, and give room for that to be different than yours.” - Adaeze Brinkman
“Everyone does what they do for a reason. They think what they think for a reason.” - Chad Brinkman
When we dig in we realize how much we have in common.” - Chad Brinkman
“When Jesus returns, it’s not going to be a ‘White Heaven’ or a ‘Black Heaven.’ It’s a diverse Heaven.” - Chad Brinkman
“Listening is the most important thing.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“Are you growing? A beautiful way to do that is to rub shoulders with people that are different from you.” - Adaeze Brinkman
“The enemy knows there’s so much power in unity and diversity.” - Adaeze Brinkman
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
We loved Chad and Adaeze’s book, White Boy / Black Girl: What Our Differences Can Teach Us. Grab a copy to read their story!
It’s Spice things up in the bedroom with our limited-time ‘Break the Bedroom Rut’ Sexy BUNDLE!
Don’t let negative assumptions tear you apart. Use our Free Printable 15 Better Assumptions to Make About Your Spouse to nurture a healthy mindset
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Guys, have you lost the spark in your sex drive? If that’s you, you are not alone! Libido is a complex issue. There are so many reasons that male libido can falter, from stress and physical factors, to relational issues in your marriage. But for every factor, there are also solutions.
Learn the steps to uncover what’s driving your lack of drive so you can revive the desire. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
The physical, mental and emotional health factors that affect sex drive
Tips to unpack the issue together in healthy ways
Is there a place for medical advice in understanding libido?
Challenging the cultural myths about aging and sex drive
Steps to starting a helpful conversation about improving libido
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*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
Couples Conversation Guide
Main takeaway: Husbands, have you lost the passion? Physical, mental and emotional factors all impact your sex drive but you can reignite the spark and enjoy God’s gift of sex in marriage.
Questions to Discuss:
Dr. Kim said that things like depression, anxiety, financial stress, relational tension or past trauma can reduce libido. Are any of those affecting your sexual relationship today?
What would you like to experience more of together in your sexual relationship?
What can you do together to make that happen?
QUOTES
“If you’ve got problems from the past that affect you in the present, you need someone to help you work through that.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“When the assumptions got on the table, we realized they were wrong. That made such a huge difference.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“Low libido doesn’t indicate cheating or porn addiction, it’s usually more complex than that.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
The longer you let it go, the worse it’s going to get. - Dr. Kim Kimberling
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Congrats to our Awesome Marriage of the Year - Brett and Megan Hamilton! To learn more about National Marriage week, visit their website HERE.
Spice things up in the bedroom with our limited-time ‘Break the Bedroom Rut’ Sexy BUNDLE!
Don’t let negative assumptions tear you apart. Use our Free Printable 15 Better Assumptions to Make About Your Spouse to nurture a healthy mindset
Get Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!
Wives, do you seem to be less interested in sex? It’s a common issue, and so many factors affect female libido, from hormonal changes, and emotional disconnection to just plain busyness.
Whether stemming from physical health or the health of your marriage, there are many ways you and your spouse can work together to bring back the passion and renew your sex drive.
Today, we’re troubleshooting the issue with tips for wives with low libido, so you can bring back the passion in your marriage. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Tips on healthy communication about sex drive issues
Understanding the effects of stress on a wife’s sex drive
How to work together to share the mental load
Is lack of sex drive a sign of infidelity?
Building empathy to help reconnect and rekindle her passion
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*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
Couples Conversation Guide
Main takeaway: Ladies, don’t let your sex life struggle! Learn to unpack the factors that impact your sex drive, so you can troubleshoot and get things back on track.
Questions to Discuss:
Are there any factors that you know are affecting your libido in this season? (Stress, exhaustion, depression, peri menopause, postpartum, etc.)
Are there any relationship factors affecting your interest in sex right now?
What would help you to mitigate the effects of those things today?
QUOTES
“For guys, it’s about how do I meet her where she is right now?” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“If there’s not full trust, it’s going to be very hard to be interested in sex.” - Lindsay Few
“It’s ok to talk about sex.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“There are so many things that typically the wife does by default. Look at what is weighing on you that keeps you from even having time to be interested in sex.” - Lindsay Few
“The really good marriages I see are the ones committed to working through things. It doesn’t come easy, but they’re committed to work through it.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Spice things up in the bedroom with our limited-time ‘Break the Bedroom Rut’ Sexy Bundle!
Some of our past episodes on Trust in Marriage:
Grab the free 15 Better Assumptions printable to start healing your perspective
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Is technology bringing you closer together, or leading to disconnection?
Tech is hitting marriages hard today. Yet research shows that marriage can provide a huge boost to personal happiness. Today’s guest, Arlene Pellicane, has written several books on how technology is impacting relationships, and today she shares tech habits that will help you and your marriage to thrive.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
The 1 habit that guarantees marriage success 99% of the Time
Easy ways to declutter your digital life for deeper connection
How modern technology is changing the way we love.
Are married people happier? Research tells the truth…
Break the tech spell: Tips for parenting in a digital age
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
“If we seek God and His guidance, He’s always going to have an answer.” Dr. Kim Kimberling
“Is technology bringing you closer together? Or causing you to grow farther apart.” - Arlene Pellicane
“We're missing all these little times to connect. That’s why you feel disconnected.” - Arlene Pellicane
“You have to prepare to be unpopular, because as a parent, it’s your job to protect your child.” - Arlene Pellicane
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Grab Arlene’s new book, Making Marriage Easier, as well as her helpful books on healthy tech habits
Find all of the National Marriage Week resources, including tomorrow's live panel with Dr. Kim, on the WEB, FACEBOOK, X (TWITTER) or INSTAGRAM
Spice things up in the bedroom with our limited-time ‘Break the Bedroom Rut’ Sexy Bundle!
Learn more about what boundaries can do for your marriage in Dr. Kim’s free Building Healthy Boundaries Webinar. Learn more here!
Don’t let screens come between you: Use our free 17 Questions Every Couple Should Ask About Tech printable to get on the same page!
Your marriage doesn’t have to grow old just because you do. The second half of marriage does not have to grow stale - make plans to make these your best years yet! Listen today to learn how.
Whether you’re looking ahead to the second half of marriage, or you’re already there, it is a great time to improve and grow. In today’s episode, Dr. Kim shares tips to avoiding complacency and embracing the best version of your marriage in the second half.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
How to jumpstart marriage growth if you’ve gotten complacent
Practical steps to do the second half of marriage well - no matter where you are today
Tips to bring back the fun and passion later in marriage
Simple conversation starters to help you get going
How to find a mentor couple to help your marriage
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*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
Couples Conversation Guide:
Main takeaway: The second half of marriage does not have to grow stale - evaluate where you’d like to see your marriage go from here, then take the steps to get there.
Questions to Discuss:
What do you envision for your marriage in the next 5 years? 10 years? 20?
What is one thing you can start doing today to move you toward that vision?
What is one thing you need to stop doing today to move in that direction?
QUOTES
If your marriage has been teetering, it can fall at this stage. - Lindsay Few
Nothing is worse than feeling lonely when your spouse is with you. - Dr. Kim Kimberling
We’d seen couples who were older than us disconnect. We didn’t want that to happen. - Dr. Kim Kimberling
It’s never too late. But the earlier you start, the easier the transition will be. - Dr. Kim Kimberling
If you’re one step ahead, you can help somebody. - Lindsay Few
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Spice things up in the bedroom with our limited-time ‘Break the Bedroom Rut’ Sexy BUNDLE!
Have better conversations with your spouse using Creative Questions to Ask Your Spouse – check out the completely unique First, Second and Third editions of this popular resource!
Deepen emotional intimacy with the FREE Printable Heart to Heart Card Game ❤️
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Grab your copy of Love, Intimacy and Sex in the Second Half of Marriage, by Dr. Kim and Nancy Kimberling