No one loves talking finances, but we do think you’ll love today’s conversation with Julie Baumgardner! Julie shares how to get curious about what money means to your spouse, how two spouses’ separate financial backgrounds and “money stories” can stop being a source of tension, and start becoming a shared value.
Listen to this episode if you’re ready to get on the same page with your spouse about finances this season - without fighting about them!
Episode highlights include:
Questions to start a productive conversation about finances with your spouse
How to uncover the hidden money lessons you learned growing up, then to get on the same page with your spouse.
What recent research says about the connection of money and marital happiness
How to learn more about your spouse’s perspective about money
Ways to work together toward shared values around money in your marriage
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES:
“You have different perspectives about money. You don’t necessarily talk about what it means to you, how you think about it, therefore you argue about it.” - Julie Baumgardner
“You can have conversations about money without having to be methodical about every single penny.” - Julie Baumgardner
“If you can’t figure out how to live within your means with a little, it will be very complicated to figure out how to live within your means with a lot.” - Julie Baumgardner
“It isn’t ‘You’re right, I’m wrong,’ you’re being curious. And in being curious, you’re learning.” - Julie Baumgardner
“If you can tell that money is creating stress, what is it about money that’s stressful?” - Julie Baumgardner
“Keep your eyes wide open for where God is calling you to join Him in his work. Be aware, and where you see a need, be a Kingdom builder. ” - Julie Baumgardner
QUESTIONS FOR YOU:
What matters most to the two of you when it comes to money? It’s never too late to define your core values around money in your marriage.
What is it about money that’s stressful? If it’s “what ifs," then name the what-ifs and talk through them.
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Winshape Marriage online and on Instagram
Find the Money Habitudes game online
🎉 Giveaway time! We are giving away a bundle of our TOP 3 RESOURCES of 2023: 44 Tips to Better Sex in Marriage, 21 Day Husband Encouragement Challenge, and 21 Day Wife Appreciation Challenge! To enter just leave an honest review of the podcast wherever you listen, screenshot it, send in to info@awesomemarriage.com. Giveaway ends 12/15 10am CST.
Dr. Kim’s newest book, Love, Intimacy and Sex in the Second Half is now available as an eBook! Grab your copy here!
Is it possible to parent without fear of the teen years? We say yes! So does today’s guest, Kristen Hatton. We are delighted to have Kristen on the podcast today to share how to prepare for some of the aspects of parenting teens that many parents find daunting.
Episode highlights include:
Kristen shares ways to know if your fears are becoming idols in parenting
Proactive VS reactive parenting: Which one are you?
The difference between overparenting and underparenting and how they affect your kids
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
“Frequently parents are living in “reactive” mode, and often it’s because we’re just so busy.” - Kristen Hatton
“If I always say yes to my kids going in different directions with their friends, or being on a travel team, and we’re always just so busy, then all the sudden, church goes by the wayside. Family time goes by the wayside." - Kristen Hatton
“Often, what children experience from their parents is how they view God. So I want them to know my unconditional love and acceptance, so that they see that that’s how God is too.” - Kristen Hatton
QUESTIONS:
To evaluate if something you love has become an idol: Are you holding it with an open palm, or a clenched fist? Can you be OK without it?
Evaluate your emotions to help you see your idols. Ask: Why am I so angry? Why am I so irritable? Is something controlling me? What occupies my time, habits, thoughts, money, and conversations?
Talk with your spouse to decide:
What do we want most for our family? How are we doing to get there?
What do we want to impart to our kids?
What will we allow? What won’t we allow?
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Learn more from Kristen:
Follow her @RedemptiveParenting on Instagram
Find all of her books and resources at KristenHatton.com
Get Biblical wisdom for parenting teens in her book Parenting Ahead
GIVEAWAY TIME! We are giving away a bundle of our TOP 3 RESOURCES of 2023: 44 Tips to Better Sex in Marriage, 21 Day Husband Encouragement Challenge, and 21 Day Wife Appreciation Challenge! To enter just leave an honest review of the podcast wherever you listen, screenshot it, send in to info@awesomemarriage.com. Giveaway ends 12/15 10am CST.
Dr. Kim’s newest book, Love, Intimacy and Sex in the Second Half is now available as an eBook! Grab your copy here!
Holiday season is upon us, and with it all things festive! I’m guessing your schedule didn’t have much extra space to begin with, so now there’s a risk of becoming truly overbooked. How can your marriage be a priority, even with so much going on?
Today Dr. Kim is sharing several of his best tips for prioritizing your marriage, even in this busy season.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Ways to share the load of holiday tasks & preparation better
How prioritizing your marriage this season can decrease your stress
Dr. Kim’s 5 ways to prioritize your marriage this season
How to implement this if you aren’t on the same page right now
Tips to de-stress your holiday gatherings and enjoy them more
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES:
“It doesn’t have to be a whole evening, it doesn’t even have to be a whole hour. It can be just 15 minutes, but you protect that time.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“I think quality time is one of the most important things we do in a marriage, and it also seems to be one of the easiest to bump.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“Make sure you're on the same page together, then enjoy it together.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“There’s so much unnecessary tension you can eliminate if you can start to use team language and work together.” - Lindsay Few
QUESTIONS
What is one favorite Christmas tradition you and your spouse have, just for the two of you?
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
GIVEAWAY TIME! We are giving away a bundle of our Top 3 Resources of 2023: Our 44 Tips to Better Sex in Marriage, 21 Day Husband Encouragement Challenge, and 21 Day Wife Appreciation Challenge! To enter just leave an honest review of the podcast wherever you listen, screenshot it, send in to info@awesomemarriage.com. Giveaway ends 12/15 10am EST.
Dr. Kim’s newest book, Love, Intimacy and Sex in the Second Half is now available as an eBook! Grab your copy here!
Related episode: “What is team Language? Ep. 501”
You can reduce the stress and conflict in your marriage simply by creating margin. Today’s episode unpacks several practical ways to create margin in your marriage. Scripture demonstrates how essential a healthy mindset is, so all month we’re getting practical about how to cultivate a healthy mindset and a healthy marriage. Tune into today’s episode to learn how to create margin in your marriage.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage!
Episode highlights include:
The practice Dr. Kim recommends to help you build margin into your marriage and the free resource we offer to make this simple to do
Mindset shifts to help you find margin
Practical ways to prioritize your marriage
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
“It’s not just carving out more time for each other, it’s how you use that time.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“We talk about your home and marriage being a refuge. You want to create that.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“It’s worth the effort to get intentional about this and get on the same page, so you can tackle it as a team.” Lindsay Few
“Learning to really listen makes a big difference. There’s so much value to feeling heard, and knowing that your spouse cares to really listen.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“One thing that really helped us is when we realized we were not each other’s enemy.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“Be ok with being counter cultural if that’s what’s best for your family and your marriage.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
QUESTIONS:
How can you and your spouse work together to create more margin in your marriage?
How can you work together to create a culture of grace in your marriage?
What do you really want for your marriage? What do you need to say no to in this season to make that happen?
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Contentment doesn’t come easily, but is more than worth the effort. Take the steps to grow your contentment with our 15-Day Contentment Challenge! It’s yours for a donation of ANY amount to the ministry of Awesome Marriage this Giving Tuesday!
Dr. Kim highly recommends a Weekly Check In for every couple – so to make this simple for you, we have created a Weekly Marriage Check In Guide. You can snag this resource for free when you sign up for the One Thing to Grow Your Marriage email series!
We really enjoyed the book “Ruthless Elimination of Hurry” mentioned in today’s episode
Cut the stress out of gift giving this Christmas. If shopping for your spouse (and anyone else on your list) feels daunting, this episode is for you. In this episode Patrick Kucharson, the Better Gift Coach, shares how to give gifts that will resonate with their recipients, strategies to become a better gift-giver, and great gift tips for any budget (including free!).
Tune in to learn more!
Episode highlights include:
Simple strategies to know what they really want
Why you need to make brainstorming gift ideas a team sport - and who to recruit to your team
The categories of not-so-good gifts you do not want to fall into this Christmas!
Patrick’s Golden Rule of Gift-Giving
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
“How much thought you put into a gift doesn’t necessarily translate into the value the gift recipient will assign to it.” - Patrick Kucharson
“Give gifts that you know they want to receive, over gifts that you want to give.” - Patrick Kucharson
“It’s showing that you appreciate them. You’re listening.” - Patrick Kucharson
“A shortcut for gift-giving: Look around, take note of the negatives, and try to give gifts that will remove them.” - Patrick Kucharson
QUESTIONS:
What’s your favorite gift you’ve given your spouse, and what made it great?
Who can you recruit to your “gift brainstorming team” this season?
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Patrick’s Better Gift Coach free weekly email is every bit as entertaining and insightful Patrick was on today’s podcast! Sign up HERE!
You can also find him on Instagram
In the midst of all the gift talk, take time to look for something only God can give: Contentment. Grad our 15-Day Contentment Challenge with your donation of ANY amount and pursue true contentment.
Gratitude is a powerful mindset – it affects our mind, our marriage, even our physical health!
Scripture is clear that our mindset is very important, so this month we’re digging into how to cultivate a healthy mindset and a healthy marriage.
Today we’re talking about the power of gratitude. What makes this trait so important, and how can we cultivate it? Tune in for all the details!
Episode highlights include:
Dr. Kim and Lindsay share how gratitude helped them each deal with depression
The way gratitude helps your marriage and your outlook on life
Why growing in gratitude actually ends up leading to – more gratitude!
Practical ways to cultivate gratitude in every day
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
“I think we’re wired to give thanks and be grateful to God.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“When we acknowledge on a regular basis what we’re thankful for, we tend to be happier and less depressed.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“It’s looking at what’s actually happening in my life. What is God doing? What is here today? It brings you back into the present.”- Lindsay Few
“I think the more we acknowledge who He is in our lives and worship him for that, that goes a long way to changing our gratitude.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“I don't think God put us together to grumble for 50 years. I think He put us together to grow, to learn, and to be grateful.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“I think it helps us to serve our spouse and serve our God better when our frame of mind is healthier. And I think gratitude makes it healthier.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
QUESTIONS
So many things in the world are out of our control, but God IS in control. What is 1 reason you are thankful that He is in control today?
When you think something good about your spouse, say it! What do you appreciate about your spouse?
What is 1 thing you can do to be more present with your spouse today?
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Contentment doesn’t come easily, but is more than worth the effort! Grab our 15-Day Contentment Challenge with a donation of ANY amount to the ministry of Awesome Marriage this Giving Tuesday! LEARN MORE HERE!
The 27 Scripture Prayer Cards resource is a beautiful way to remember scripture and to bring the power of prayer into your marriage each day!
It’s the perfect time to sign up for Dr. Kim’s daily One Thing to Grow Your Marriage email series, since this week’s emails give you simple ways to practice gratitude with your spouse
Has blame crept into your marriage? If so, your marriage is certainly suffering its effects. But it does not have to stay that way! Today Dr. Kim helps you discover how to identify and remove this damaging habit from your marriage.
Scripture is clear that our mindset matters, and that we have the ability to change our minds! So this month we’re digging into how to cultivate a healthy mindset and a healthy marriage. Dig in today to start dismantling the blame.
Episode highlights include:
How to identify - and break - subtle blame patterns
Why expecting each spouse to give their 50% share to the marriage just doesn’t add up
Dr. Kim and Lindsay get real about how blame has impacted their marriages
How to remove blame from our efforts to show our spouse love
How to address the issue healthily instead
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Dr. Kim mentioned this article from Harvard Health in the episode
Contentment doesn’t come easily, but it’s SO worth the work! Get our 15-Day Contentment Challenge with a donation of ANY amount to the ministry of Awesome Marriage this Giving Tuesday! Learn more here!
15 Daily Prayers Bundle
More mindset resources:
Dr. Kim’s Mind Craft Plan
Switch On Your Brain by Dr. Leaf (includes the “21-Day Brain Detox”)
Calling all military spouses AND frequent travelers: Do not miss this bonus episode! Today we’re thrilled to have Jen McDonald of Milspouse Matters join us on the podcast. Jen is full of wisdom and warmth as well as practical tips and advice on how to weather a marriage separated by distance and the unique challenges of military life. Tune in and be encouraged by her story!
Episode highlights include:
The parts of military life that Jen was NOT prepared for
The realities of deployment and reintegration
Practical things that helped her marriage stay connected during deployment
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Find Jen on Facebook, Instagram and on Twitter (X)
Get Jen’s Amazon bestselling book: You Are Not Alone: Encouragement for the Heart of a Military Spouse
And her new book Milspouse Matters: Sharing Strength Through Our Stories
She also has several Military Spouse Resources on her site (including the The 5-Day Deployment Devotional and deployment resources for families and kids). Jen has graciously offered our listeners 10% off when you use the code marriage10 at checkout! (Discount available through 12/31/23.)
Resources for kids / families:
Military OneSource (info and support for families)
What does it mean to “reframe?” And how can you know if you need to do it? Reframing is a term Dr. Kim has used in past episodes, and today we learn exactly what it means and the practical steps to do it.
Scripture is clear that our mindset is very important, so this month we’re digging into how to cultivate a healthy mindset and a healthy marriage. Tune into today’s episode for the details!
Episode highlights include:
The Biblical basis and Scripture to support the concept of reframing
Practical steps of the reframing process
What to do if your spouse frames you negatively
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Dr. Kim’s Mind Craft Plan (I accidentally referred to it as Mind Your Marriage in the episode) is a great place to start!
Caroline Leaf’s book, Switch On Your Brain includes the “21-Day Brain Detox” Dr. Kim mentioned in the episode
The Weekly Marriage Check In is a great way to stay connected with your spouse, and you get this printable resource FREE when you sign up for the One Thing email! Get all the details here.
Being self-aware is a gift to your marriage, yourself and everyone around you! Our Self Check In Guide is a tool to take you through the process of growing self-aware.
Dr. Kim mentioned our Marriage Changers Membership, where he and Nancy share exclusive video content each month. Marriage Changers also get automatic access to each new monthly resource we create. Learn more here.
Scripture references:
Romans 12:2
Proverbs 4:23
1 Corinthians 2:16
Romans 8:6
You know that moment when things go quickly from okay to “What just happened?” in your marriage? Suddenly there’s tension and you’re totally disconnected.
Today, we are so happy to have Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill join us on the podcast. They do a great job explaining what goes wrong in that moment, and how to prevent it from happening again. Tune in to learn more!
Episode highlights include:
The shift that completely changed how they approached conflict
The 1 question to stop asking in fights and the better 1 to ask instead
The Hills unpack what it means that identity is the #1 human need, and how that plays out in marriage
A practical tool to easily learn how to emotions well together
How disconnection can affect family life and strategies to handle it
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Find more from Dr. Glenn and Phyllis at their website: https://www.connectioncodes.co/ and make sure to use the code AWESOME20 for 20% off any of their classes!
Learn more about using this process to connect in their book: The Connection Codes or on The Connection Codes Podcast!
Download your free copy of the Hill’s Core Emotion Wheel!
You are invited to Dr. Kim’s free webinar, 8 Guidelines for Fighting Fair in Your Marriage. Get all the details HERE
We’re so used to seeing sex allll around us - skin sells, after all! But today, Joshua Ryan Butler shows us how we are still likely to miss so much of what sex is designed to show us. Sex is everywhere – except being talked about by the married couples who are (hopefully!) having it, and the churches and families who desperately need a robust theology of God’s purpose for sex and sexuality.
Today’s episode takes a look at why sex is so much more than right / wrong or rules, and why that truth is incredibly freeing. Tune in to learn more.
Episode highlights include:
Why does it matter what we believe about God’s purpose for sex?
How to unpack the tension between what culture says vs church says about sex
Why a better relationship with God leads to better sex in your marriage (and a better marriage in general!)
Specifically why our male / female differences are so valuable
The shift from rule-keeping to image-bearing and what it means for our lives
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Find more from Joshua on his website at Joshuaryanbutler.com
If you enjoyed today’s episode, you will love Joshua’s new book, Beautiful Union!
You can break the conflict cycle in your marriage! Dr. Kim is hosting a FREE webinar on Friday 10/27. Get all the details HERE
Ready to gain REAL freedom and healing from porn in your marriage? Learn more about how you can do that with our new course, Marriage Undefiled: How To Overcome Porn and Heal Your Marriage HERE
This is the place for honest conversations and practical advice on how to have an awesome marriage. In this brief trailer, Dr. Kim Kimberling and co-host Lindsay Few share what you can expect to hear on the Awesome Marriage podcast each week.
If you enjoy the podcast, follow along here or at awesomemarriage.com/podcast for questions in each week's show notes that will help you and your spouse apply the info in each episode.
We pray this content is helpful for you and your marriage!
* Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
* You can find all of Awesome Marriage's helpful resources on our website.
What is a gospel perspective of sexuality? It’s hard to answer, since too often, sex is not talked about in the church. Yet it’s literally everywhere in the world around us. Most couples struggle with their sex life at some point and parents are deeply concerned about helping their kids navigate the topic in a God-honoring way in the midst of all of culture’s chaos. That is why we are honored to have Dr. Juli Slattery on the podcast today, sharing her vast knowledge and wisdom on the subject. You don’t want to miss what she has to say.
Episode highlights include:
Why a biblical worldview of sexuality is actually very freeing
How disruptions to your sex life can become a springboard to greater intimacy
4 specific aspects of God’s love that should define healthy sex in marriage
The process to engage so you can equip your kids to navigate sexuality biblically
Encouragement for couples who are struggling in this area
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
For more great info from Juli:
Her newest book: God, Sex, and Your Marriage
Her podcast: Java with Juli
Her website: authenticintimacy.com
Books by the authors mentioned in the episode:
Celebration of Sex, by Douglas Rosenau,
The Married Guy’s Guide to Great Sex and Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women, both by Cliff and Joyce Penner
Refresh your marriage this fall with the 4th Annual Online Marriage Retreat. The retreat is live NOW! This year’s theme is Refresh: Break Through the Barriers to an Awesome Marriage. It’s packed with teaching sessions from our amazing speakers to bring you practical ways to break through the barriers that keep your marriage from being awesome. Click HERE for all the details!
Set your marriage up for better satisfaction in the bedroom when you get your head in the game with the Think Sex Challenge!
This week it’s the husbands’ turn to weigh in. Today we hear what men said they wish their wives knew about sex. Would your husband agree? Dr. Kim strongly encourages couples to talk about their sex life, not argue about it, but… most couples don’t! So listening to today’s episode together is an easy way to start the conversation.
Sex in your marriage matters because God created it to draw spouses together, but all too often pain and tension lead to exactly the opposite. Tune in today to learn the next steps in your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Some common Christian sex myths that might be hindering your sex life...
... And what the Bible says about them
Some really effective ways to talk about sex with your spouse ...
... And some others you definitely want to avoid
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Set your marriage up for better satisfaction in the bedroom with the Think Sex Challenge
The 4th Annual Online Marriage Retreat launches THIS WEEK! This year’s theme is Refresh: Break Through the Barriers to an Awesome Marriage and this retreat is packed with helpful sessions from amazing speakers. Click HERE for all the details!
Ready to gain REAL freedom and healing from porn in your marriage? Learn more about how you can do that with our new course, Marriage Undefiled: How To Overcome Porn and Heal Your Marriage.
Has sex has fallen down the list of priorities? In Love, Intimacy and Sex in the Second Half Dr. Kim and Nancy tell how they have handled the challenges to their sex life later in marriage.
We highly recommend the book Celebration of Sex to educate yourself and your spouse on exactly what works for the two of you!
The wives have spoken! Today we share what women said they wish their husbands knew about sex. Would your wife agree? Dr. Kim wants couples to talk about their sex life, not argue about it! So an easy way to start is by listening to today’s episode together and talking about it.
Sex in your marriage matters because God created it to draw spouses together, but all too often pain and tension lead to exactly the opposite. Tune in today to get the conversation started!
Episode highlights include:
Tips to help balance the mental load spouses are carrying
Women don’t get tired of their husband’s compliments – with this 1 exception!
Practical reasons why it can be helpful to schedule sex
Addressing assumptions spouses make that will deter them from great sex
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Set your marriage up for better satisfaction in the bedroom with the Think Sex Challenge
Ready to gain REAL freedom and healing from porn in your marriage? Learn more about how you can do that with our new course, Marriage Undefiled: How To Overcome Porn and Heal Your Marriage.
Has sex has fallen down the list of priorities? In Love, Intimacy and Sex in the Second Half Dr. Kim and Nancy tell how they have handled the challenges to their sex life later in marriage.
We highly recommend the book Celebration of Sex to educate yourself and your spouse on exactly what works for the two of you!
The 4th Annual Online Marriage Retreat launches NEXT WEEK! This year’s theme is Refresh: Break Through the Barriers to an Awesome Marriage and this retreat is packed with helpful sessions from amazing speakers. Click HERE for all the details!
We are delighted to have Toni Collier on the podcast today. Toni has spoken and written plenty about the way that embracing brokenness, though counterintuitive, is the key to experiencing a full life in Christ. She talked to Dr. Kim about how –and why– to effectively embrace your brokenness personally, what that means, and what it can do for your marriage and family. Don’t miss this grace-filled episode!
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
The faith “secret” that transformed Toni’s perspective on brokenness
The deeply personal origin of Toni’s new book, and why a children’s book is so important
The biggest mistake she made early in marriage, and how she recovered
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Be sure to check out Toni’s children’s book Broken Crayons Still Color! It is beautifully designed to help kids deal with big feelings and gain the tools to handle them well.
And don’t miss Toni’s book, Brave Enough to Be Broken: How to Embrace Your Pain and Discover Hope and Healing, which is full of Biblical wisdom and practical tools to help you heal right where you are today!
Grow closer to God while you grow closer to your spouse with the 2-Week Couple’s Scripture Challenge! Click through for more info.
The mind is a powerful sex organ, and the 25-Day Think Sex Challenge is designed to help you harness that power to experience more fun, intimate and fulfilling sex in your marriage.
Ministry couples face both unique joys and unique challenges. If you’ve been around Awesome Marriage for a while, you’ve probably heard Dr. Kim say to put God first and your spouse second. But when your job is ministry, it can be really hard to balance your vocational ministry with your primary ministry - your marriage. Today we’re talking about how to keep your marriage thriving when you are in ministry.
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
The surprising data on how ministry affects marriage and family
Our personal experiences of what makes ministry hard on marriage
What to do if you work in a ministry culture that does not prioritize marriage or family
4 specific ways to protect and build your marriage
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Don't let your ministry take out your marriage! The Sustaining Your Marriage In Ministry online course was designed to help you through the challenges you face. Learn more HERE.
Our friends at Emotionally Healthy Discipleship offer resources that equip leaders to lead from their inner life with Christ.
Anything you want to hear about that we missed today? Shoot me an email and let us know!
You may know Jeff Allen from one of his many comedy specials on DryBar Comedy, Netflix, Amazon, YouTube, network TV and more. If you do, you know he can make you laugh about even the hard parts of life and marriage.
In today’s episode we get to go behind the scenes of some of the hardest seasons Jeff and his wife, Tami, experienced in their marriage, and how God brought hope, healing and redemption. Don’t miss this encouraging episode!
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
The *surprisingly* effective way Jeff’s comedian friend helped him find Jesus
What changed in Jeff and Tami’s marriage when Jesus entered the picture
Jeff’s journey to sobriety and learning new coping mechanisms
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
RESOURCES
Get the rest of Jeff and Tami’s story in Jeff’s Book “Are We There Yet?: My Journey from a Messed Up to Meaningful Life.”
Jeff’s comedy is a part of this year’s Online Marriage Retreat! Registration is open NOW so click over to learn more!
If it’s been a while since you felt sexy or were excited about your sex life, our 25-Day Think Sex Challenge will help you get back in the mood! Learn more HERE!
Your mindset has a powerful impact on everything in your life - including your marriage. Is yours helping or hurting your marriage? Today Dr. Kim shares some sneaky ways your thoughts might be harming your marriage, without you even realizing it, as well as practical advice for how to overcome them.
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
How to identify and correct unhealthy thought patterns
Why even our fleeting thoughts matter
One thing that prevents many of us from being honest with God and with ourselves, and how to overcome it
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
RESOURCES
Work on healing your mindset with the “Cut the Criticism and Cultivate Companionship” Bible Reading plan on YouVersion
If you’re a One Thing Subscriber, you know all about Dr. Kim’s Daily Declarations already! If not, sign up HERE and receive a practical daily step each Monday-Friday to help you be intentional about building your marriage.
When you sign up for Dr. Kim’s weekly Dispatch email, you receive a copy of his Daily Declarations FREE as a sign up bonus!
One reason marriage can be difficult is because it faces real spiritual opposition. 1 Peter 5:8 says the enemy is like “a roaring lion looking for someone to devour,” who would love to destroy us and our marriages. But Christian couples can be confident that God is on our side, He is for us and He has the victory.
So how can we be on guard and ready to fight for our marriage, spiritually? Tune in today to learn how. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Reasons why marriage is a target of spiritual attacks
Ways spiritual attacks can show up in marriage
Steps to fight back and fight for your marriage in those times
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
RESOURCES
Dr. Kim shared his heart behind our Marriage Changers membership in today’s episode. Get more info on the membership HERE.
We are happy to have 50+ AM YouVersion plans. Here are the two we mentioned in this episode:
If you haven’t already, check out our perennial fave House Prayer Cards. They’re Like Dr. Kim’s scripture on the walls thing, but without needing to repaint!
Our 2-Week Couples Scripture Challenge helps you fight for your marriage by building the habit of getting into God’s Word together.
How should the rhythms of our child’s season of life inform our parenting? How can your family rhythms and routines cultivate the kind of family atmosphere you are longing for in your household and set your child up for success?
Today our special guest Nellie Harden helps you see where you are in this season of your child’s growing up years and how to parent well in this time.
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
The perspective shift to more peaceful parenting
Why to number the days of your child’s childhood
How our own perfectionism affects our kids and our parenting
The parenting shift we need in the second half of childhood
A practical way to reduce sibling strife
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
RESOURCES
Find Nellie’s book, learn more about the 6570 Family Project and more on her website
Here’s the article Nellie wrote for Focus on The Family that we loved: “Family on the Rocks!”
Taking a few minutes a week to check up on your marriage is simple and effective with the Weekly Marriage Check Up Guide
Our 27 Scripture Prayer Cards are both beautiful AND powerful!
This time of year, so many families are thinking about how to make this new school year go even better than the last. You may be wondering how you can possibly build in helpful, healthy rhythms when you’re Already. So. Busy. If so, you do not want to miss this episode.
Today our guest Justin Earley shares how to build intentionality and meaning into your existing family habits.
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
What our messy attempts at forming good habits can communicate to our kids (you might be surprised!)
The perspective shift that lets you take advantage of your family’s existing habits for good
What does it actually mean to be a spiritual leader?
Practical advice for wives who want their husband to lead spiritually
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
RESOURCES
Hear more on these topics in Justin’s books:
The Common Rule: Habits of Purpose for an Age of Distraction
Habits of the Household: Practicing the Story of God in Everyday Family Rhythms
Made for People: Why We Drift into Loneliness and How to Fight for a Life of Friendship
Find resources, writing an more from Justin at Justinwhitmelearley.com
The Weekly Marriage Check Up Guide makes it simple to check in with your spouse each week.
Ever wondered why you can’t break a habit you hate or form a new one you want to start? Today’s bonus episode is for you! Debra Fileta always brings wisdom and practical tools to help us connect spiritual practices with mental health and relationship health, and we’re delighted to have Debra back on the podcast with us today. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Why issues seem to surface at unexpected times and what you can do about it
The equation that leads to lasting change - and why most people get it wrong
How to effectively begin to break bad habits
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
RESOURCES
Debra has also been on these past episodes:
Are You Really OK? With Special Guest Debra Fileta | Ep. 471
Oneness Vs. Codependency - What's the Difference? With Special Guest Debra Fileta | Ep. 511
We think you’ll love Debra’s new book, RESET: Powerful Habits to Own Your Thoughts, Understand Your Feelings, and Change Your Life
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As we enter the fall season, it’s a great time to look at the routines in your life. This month we’re talking all about life-giving routines and rhythms. Sometimes in marriage, we can get into bad habits of conflict or miscommunication, BUT we can also use our habits and routines to build up our spouse and grow our marriage. Today we’re sharing some of our personal routines and family rhythms that help keep our marriages strong.
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Dr. Kim’s personal routine and why it’s so important to him
The small things that don’t even feel like “things” – and why they matter so much
Practical ways to build the kind of culture you want to have in your marriage
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
RESOURCES:
If you’re not getting Dr. Kim’s One Thing daily email, sign up HERE!
The Weekly Marriage Check Up Guide makes it simple to check in with your spouse each week.
Get a better dinner experience when you bring good questions to the table with 52 Questions for Your Family Table
We talk to a lot of couples who don't know what makes them a great team. And if you don’t know what makes you a great team, how can you operate as one? All too often, opposites attract and it takes intentionality to tap into all that God has for you in the gift of your marriage.
So today we’re talking about leaning into what makes you a uniquely gifted team in your marriage, and resolving the tension that comes from the ways we differ from our spouse.
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
What are the common issues that keep couples from being a strong team?
Dr. Kim gives great ideas of creative solutions to issues
How to combat the competition that sometimes creeps into marriage
We share ways we’ve personally done this in our marriages
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
RESOURCES
Get the team conversation started with Team You & Me: A Guide to Approaching Your Marriage as a Team, a resource designed to help you be more intentional to tap into all God has for you in the gift of your marriage.
Dr. Kim and Nancy’s book, Love, Intimacy and Sex in Second Half is out now! Grab your copy HERE!
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